[quote]AnytimeJake wrote:
In Canada we call this a starter marrige, sort of like a starter house, before you buy the house your going to live in forever. Kids marry kids, cheating and jelousy, and strip clubs, get all that shit out of the way in the first marrige, so your ready to be an adult and really set up house and get on with your life with the second one. Seems to be the way [/quote]
“You be the mommy, I’ll be the daddy and you be the dog.”
I always wanted to be the dog…
gona be a dog, be a big dog…
f*&^kin board today, everyone knows I’m on house arrest, but some days suck ass, I don’t mean to be anoying, but this is the only sight I belong to, anyway back to programing
[quote]AnytimeJake wrote:
In Canada we call this a starter marrige, sort of like a starter house, before you buy the house your going to live in forever. Kids marry kids, cheating and jelousy, and strip clubs, get all that shit out of the way in the first marrige, so your ready to be an adult and really set up house and get on with your life with the second one. Seems to be the way [/quote]
I did that at age 21, but I bought the house. Ended up walking away from the mess at age 23. If I had stayed, it would have escalated into some really bad shit.
Rob
[quote]espenl wrote:
Never marry a girl with a high loco factor.[/quote]
Can anybody explain to me what a loco factor is?
Inexperienced beta askin
[quote]beachguy498 wrote:
[quote]AnytimeJake wrote:
In Canada we call this a starter marrige, sort of like a starter house, before you buy the house your going to live in forever. Kids marry kids, cheating and jelousy, and strip clubs, get all that shit out of the way in the first marrige, so your ready to be an adult and really set up house and get on with your life with the second one. Seems to be the way [/quote]
I did that at age 21, but I bought the house. Ended up walking away from the mess at age 23. If I had stayed, it would have escalated into some really bad shit.
Rob [/quote]
Lol, I did that at 22 and emancipated myself at 24. Didn’t buy a house though thank heavens.
[quote]Quiet Warrior wrote:
[quote]espenl wrote:
Never marry a girl with a high loco factor.[/quote]
Can anybody explain to me what a loco factor is?
Inexperienced beta askin[/quote]
[quote]Quiet Warrior wrote:
[quote]espenl wrote:
Never marry a girl with a high loco factor.[/quote]
Can anybody explain to me what a loco factor is?
Inexperienced beta askin[/quote]
For a start…
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]espenl wrote:
He seems to be pussywhipped. Never marry a girl with a high loco factor. At least get a good contract.[/quote]
Yeah, its one thing to stick your dick in crazy but to marry what might be a full blown BPD or NPD, the really, really, bad kind of crazy…
I would rather cut my balls off and give her all my money, because its basically the same result, without the drama, accusations, manipulation, false reports to the police, possibly jail, alcoholism, estranged and ruined kids…[/quote]
Isn’t this what happened in the 80s? Everyone was suddenly in love, subsequently married and then realised what they had gotten themselves into. It’s why my generation is so fucked up.
I’m starting to hold out less and less hope for OP, I wonder when he’ll next reply…
Why the hell do you want to get married?
[quote]hit the gym wrote:
Why the hell do you want to get married?[/quote]
Is that directed towards him or anybody in general? haha
[quote]RampantBadger wrote:
For a start…
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Holy shit.
[quote]csulli wrote:
[quote]beachguy498 wrote:
[quote]AnytimeJake wrote:
In Canada we call this a starter marrige, sort of like a starter house, before you buy the house your going to live in forever. Kids marry kids, cheating and jelousy, and strip clubs, get all that shit out of the way in the first marrige, so your ready to be an adult and really set up house and get on with your life with the second one. Seems to be the way [/quote]
I did that at age 21, but I bought the house. Ended up walking away from the mess at age 23. If I had stayed, it would have escalated into some really bad shit.
Rob [/quote]
Lol, I did that at 22 and emancipated myself at 24. Didn’t buy a house though thank heavens.[/quote]
I’m lucky to have had a “run forrest, run” moment of clarity. I had next to zero equity in the house, it was in the midst of a construction project as well. I believe she’s on her 4th marriage, those poor guys.
Rob
What I’ve been doing is trying to give her the benefit of the doubt while trying to figure out who lives at that house. The person who lives at the house has not been home in like a week.
The situation makes zero sense, she is sooo excited to marry me, she’s already had her bachelorette party bought her dress her moms dress, she tries on her dress every couple of days.
I am really bad at confrontation. i have to have a few beers usually. i asked her what the deal was and she seems pretty convincing. I would hate to be wrong and ruin the relationship, maybe I already have…I
keep thinking to myself that if she’s cheating she’s on very sick b.tch. Like multiple personality disorder or something.
I just can’t get passed thinking about her going over to a house at night and leaving in the morning. If she was just banging some dude, why stay all night? That’s pretty intimate for someone weeks away from marriage. I know there are done pretty sick people on this planet. But wow!
I saw this tv show where the girl replaced her 5k ring with a cheap cubic zirconium ring and pocketed 4500. Then when they broke up before getting married she have him the fake ring back.
Hey he’s back!!!
Man we’re so glad you’re back man. Damn, it’s been too long. Don’t leave us high and dry like that again 'till we get this thing sorted out!
Shikes man.
[quote]adamhum wrote:
The situation makes zero sense, she is sooo excited to marry me, she’s already had her bachelorette party bought her dress her moms dress, she tries on her dress every couple of days.
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Are you sure that she’s excited to marry you, or just that she’s excited to marry?
You have to confront her properly, if she’s really cheating then you need to pull that out of her, even if it means dragging her kicking and screaming over there until everyone’s face to face.
If she’s not cheating and we are mistaken, then you might have to come to a compromise and go through some tough fights, but confronting her still stands. If you don’t bring this up at all regardless of which way it may happen to go, then you fully deserve the cards you get dealt, even if they do turn out as horribly bad as they could given the possibilities.
You have to do this now, if you let it slide over and over again until marriage, and she turns out to be a psychopath and a cheater, then you deserve to be the one burdened with her as a wife. Do not let this simmer away because you feel you need to cling onto her, she is not that important, you and your interests are important, and if she is fucking with those interests, then she has to go.
Confront her, roll the dice and hope you come out lucky, if it’s all a misunderstanding and you can be sure of that, then make up, have fun and go about your marriage. If you get dealt a losing hand and she’s fucking you over, then she goes. There is no compromise, no letting her slither back, no hesitation whatsoever, she goes. Do not make false rationalisations just because it makes you feel better, concern yourself with the facts, and rely on those facts as they come, to mould your opinions and actions.
Good luck Adam.
How is it that you know the person at the house has not been there for a while? Because she has not been over there in that time? This is crazy Adam, it is not a regular thing for someone to let happen.
When is the marriage set to happen? Because it is important you get this shit out of the way far in advance.
Sorry for leaving you guys high and dry…
How do i know the person hasn’t been home? because i’ve driven by there a bunch of times. Tried to look at the mail to see the name, knocked on the door. Normally there’s a black truck in front, but the truck hasn’t been there in a week. I’ve even been working facebook, created an account as a mexican girl trying to find something. trying to get the person who i think it is to except my friends request so i can see a picture of him. no luck. I signed up for a people finder service and i found a name of the person who is registered as living there. Then i tried to look up that person on facebook. But the person seems to be a 62 year old man, but the man’s hobbies don’t seem to be a that of a 62 year old man…like paintball…i think maybe it’s his son with the same name.
I’m just hoping to find the information myself and not try to drag it out of her. I want to prove myself wrong. When i told her I GPS’d her she got a little mad and then didn’t bring it up. She recently went to mexico with her mom. I made sure to see her off to make sure she was bringing her mom…
I know this is not the way to start a marriage in 3 weeks…I know I’m crossing the line into paranoia and obsession. I wish i never GPS’d her and I was blissfully ignorant.
I’m going to have a talk with her today. I’m just going to let her talk…Chances are we won’t get married and I’ll be destroyed for a while. I know i’ll survive. Hopefully I can resist the temptation to get with someone else and I’ll just spend a year or two working out like a madman.
[quote]adamhum wrote:
When i told her I GPS’d her she got a little mad and then didn’t bring it up.
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Why?
Sitting in a car, stareing at a house all night, GPS, stalking, fake engagement rings, dude listen to your self, if she is spending nights with someone, it’s probably to get some sanity in her life, goodluck