[quote]adamhum wrote:
So I think it’s possible she decided since I’m so flaky that she would keep this guy on the side just in case i backed out on the deal.
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Caveat, I am a cynical bastard, but that kind of rings a bell or two.
You are being a flake right now. Just grow some balls and ask her. You are being passive aggressive.
Are you an Alpha Male or a woman?
If you love her ask her the question. She will see you for wanting to protect your territory.
[quote]dmaddox wrote:
You are being a flake right now. Just grow some balls and ask her. You are being passive aggressive.
Are you an Alpha Male or a woman?
If you love her ask her the question. She will see you for wanting to protect your territory.[/quote]
If he was really Alpha, he would have ditched her already.
Caesars woman must be above suspicion and whatnot.
However, since we can not all be uber alphas, we are allowed to use our brains.
[quote]pushharder wrote:
Good fookin grief, Adam, tell the woman you KNOW she was at the house and ask her why she was there.
Don’t tell her how you know, just that you do.
It’s so simple.[/quote]
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I’ve already asked her and she denied the sh.t out of ever being there. She said whoever told me that is a liar and i shouldn’t trust other people more than her.
[quote]adamhum wrote:
I’ve already asked her and she denied the sh.t out of ever being there. She said whoever told me that is a liar and i shouldn’t trust other people more than her.[/quote]
This is Adam’s new favorite song.
[quote]adamhum wrote:
I’ve already asked her and she denied the sh.t out of ever being there. She said whoever told me that is a liar and i shouldn’t trust other people more than her.[/quote]
Well, I dont know about you, but contrary to vicious rumors, some started by myself, I am very happy to get along with people.
BUT…
Lying is she?
Appealing to your better nature, is she?
Trying to sucker you, could she be?
Deep down in my box of tricks is a bundle of cloth, full with sharp, sparkling instruments.
I think it would come out now.
Tell her that you saw her car there yourself and ask her if she is going to start telling the truth or do you need to go knock on the door.
PS Havent read this whole thread so unsure if you seeing the car yourself is within the realm of possibility.
My plan is to wait for this weekend to fully confront her. It seems she’s been going over there once a week like clockwork. Since she i questioned her and said i knew someone who lived over there who said she saw her, she would have to be pretty stupid to go over there in her car. but there are stupid people everywhere.
Why cheat on someone when you’re getting married very soon?
Or you could just tell her you GPS’d her. Your relationship is spiraling downward anyway so you might as well own up to it and figure out what the hell is going on.
[quote]adamhum wrote:
My plan is to wait for this weekend to fully confront her. It seems she’s been going over there once a week like clockwork. Since she i questioned her and said i knew someone who lived over there who said she saw her, she would have to be pretty stupid to go over there in her car. but there are stupid people everywhere.
Why cheat on someone when you’re getting married very soon?[/quote]
Same time during the week?
There is no way you should even remotely intend to keep a relationship with her let alone a marriage. You’ll get over a few months of not having some chick to pork and cling onto at night, it’ll be a hell of a lot harder to get over a few years of sagging breasts, financial exploitation and divorce settlements.
Even if she’s not cheating at all, the all around attitude and emotional context of this is awful. This is not a healthy relationship, it is not even close to a healthy relationship. She is a woman, she is not a 24-carat gold idol, there’s no reason to cling onto her because you’re hesitant to replace one series of nervousness and shitty feelings, with a different set of nervousness and shitty feelings. She deserves no more than the decency she cares to give to you, if you’re unhappy with current events, and she’s not making any effort to change them or even compromise on it, then you have to leave her. Unless you argue with her, she comes up with some excuses, and you can guarantee-ably, with 100% accuracy, confirm that she’s telling the truth, you have to leave her. Even then if you’re still upset and she makes no apologies and agrees to make up about it, what fucking use is she?
But don’t hesitate and risk the entire life cycle of a shitty marriage on the off chance that she’s babysitting some ugly kid, for the love of god. It barely even matters if she’s cheated now with the extent of this thread and your sorrow and woes thinking about it, she has you on a leash, she’s whipping you over and over again with a riding crop, and you’re crawling back and licking her hand with but a faint distrust in your eye. Relationships are not important enough for you to have to struggle your way through a shitty one, leave her for a third time, and do not take her back. Find some nice florist’s daughter or something, christ.
She’ll just say the gps is wrong…You have to catch cheaters right, otherwise they’ll just deny deny deny…Or is the GPS proof enough?
[quote]adamhum wrote:
Why cheat on someone when you’re getting married very soon?[/quote]
Because she has a backup plan?
Because you are the backup plan?
Because she it feels right when she is with him but also when she is with you?
Because she is an entitled, useless…
Wait whores are not useless…
Neither are sluts…
Well, maybe she is just entitled and useless?
Anyhow, however that turns out, if it should turn out a certain way, be glad that you did not marry her.
Its a blessing really.
[quote]Big Kahuna wrote:
There is no way you should even remotely intend to keep a relationship with her let alone a marriage. You’ll get over a few months of not having some chick to pork and cling onto at night, it’ll be a hell of a lot harder to get over a few years of sagging breasts, financial exploitation and divorce settlements.
Even if she’s not cheating at all, the all around attitude and emotional context of this is awful. This is not a healthy relationship, it is not even close to a healthy relationship. She is a woman, she is not a 24-carat gold idol, there’s no reason to cling onto her because you’re hesitant to replace one series of nervousness and shitty feelings, with a different set of nervousness and shitty feelings. She deserves no more than the decency she cares to give to you, if you’re unhappy with current events, and she’s not making any effort to change them or even compromise on it, then you have to leave her. Unless you argue with her, she comes up with some excuses, and you can guarantee-ably, with 100% accuracy, confirm that she’s telling the truth, you have to leave her. Even then if you’re still upset and she makes no apologies and agrees to make up about it, what fucking use is she?
But don’t hesitate and risk the entire life cycle of a shitty marriage on the off chance that she’s babysitting some ugly kid, for the love of god. It barely even matters if she’s cheated now with the extent of this thread and your sorrow and woes thinking about it, she has you on a leash, she’s whipping you over and over again with a riding crop, and you’re crawling back and licking her hand with but a faint distrust in your eye. Relationships are not important enough for you to have to struggle your way through a shitty one, leave her for a third time, and do not take her back. Find some nice florist’s daughter or something, christ.[/quote]
Well said…I’d just like to catch her in the act even though the anticipation is murder. I figure a few more days won’t hurt.
[quote]adamhum wrote:
She’ll just say the gps is wrong…You have to catch cheaters right, otherwise they’ll just deny deny deny…Or is the GPS proof enough?[/quote]
You don’t even need proof, this is not a legal issue, all you need is your reasonable doubt and given all of these red flags, to act on it.
Even if she denies, leave her. Even if she breaks down in tears and tells you she loves you, leave her. If you do decide to eventually confront her properly instead of meandering around all of these bullshit hints thinking that will slip her up, you have to be prepared to go into that knowing that one of your better choices is to break off all contact and memory of her.
[quote]adamhum wrote:
She’ll just say the gps is wrong…You have to catch cheaters right, otherwise they’ll just deny deny deny…Or is the GPS proof enough?[/quote]
When she says the GPS is wrong get pissed. Its time to get a little fire in your gut man. She is taking you for a ride whether she is cheating or not. You are coming off looking very weak here. Demand an explanation for it and tell her that the bs about people lying about her or GPS being wrong, whichever you choose to go with, aint gonna cut it. All you want is truth.
You can break women when they are lying and cheating. You can also end relationships if you are wrong, so there is that.
[quote]bpick86 wrote:
[quote]adamhum wrote:
She’ll just say the gps is wrong…You have to catch cheaters right, otherwise they’ll just deny deny deny…Or is the GPS proof enough?[/quote]
When she says the GPS is wrong get pissed. Its time to get a little fire in your gut man. She is taking you for a ride whether she is cheating or not. You are coming off looking very weak here. Demand an explanation for it and tell her that the bs about people lying about her or GPS being wrong, whichever you choose to go with, aint gonna cut it. All you want is truth.
You can break women when they are lying and cheating. You can also end relationships if you are wrong, so there is that.[/quote]
She’s going to say i’m just getting cold feet and blaming it on her. She’s already told me that recently.
But yah…I need some muther fn closure…i’m dying inside…if she refuses to prove me wrong, then she’s lying. If she has nothing to hide than she shouldn’t worry about being wrong.
She will give you excuses you just cant accept them. For lack of a better illustration, you are Cruise, she is Nicholson and you want the truth.