She probably knows the truth will be the end of us forever. Do you think she’ll squeal?
Eventually, with an apology, as a last ditch effort to try to keep you, if you can make her feel like she doesn’t have you so beaten into submission that you actually will leave.
I’d go so far as to say that you have no other choice but to leave her now, because this is silly, this whole thing is silly. You’ve made her out to be a horrible person, which leads me to believe you know her to be a horrible person. Do you want to marry a horrible person? Leave her, if you don’t get closure then whatever, all that matters is she goes.
Don’t even try to turn things around and make them work, it’s too late for that now, the relationship has been doomed for weeks and it’s not showing any signs of improving. All you’re doing is letting the pot heat up until it reaches it’s boiling point and bursts into flame, let her down as soon as you can.
I think she had a plan and it’s backfiring horribly. I think she truly wants to be with me but doesn’t have faith i’ll follow through.
I can’t accept her having someone on the side even if it’s over now, although i know why she did it…If that’s what she did.
Dude, throw the GPS in her face, show up there and knock on the door, whatever you want to do. This is over. You know whats been going on know leave with some manhood still intact.
[quote]Big Kahuna wrote:
I’d go so far as to say that you have no other choice but to leave her now, because this is silly, this whole thing is silly. You’ve made her out to be a horrible person, which leads me to believe you know her to be a horrible person. Do you want to marry a horrible person? Leave her, if you don’t get closure then whatever, all that matters is she goes. Don’t even try to turn things around and make them work, it’s too late for that now, the relationship has been doomed for weeks and it’s not showing any signs of improving. All you’re doing is letting the pot heat up until it reaches it’s boiling point and bursts into flame, let her down as soon as you can.[/quote]
I agree with you partially. It would not be in me to just drop it without knowing. I would have to know. That’s probably a character flaw though. But yeah OP. This is probably over no matter which way this swings.
[quote]adamhum wrote:
I think she had a plan and it’s backfiring horribly. I think she truly wants to be with me but doesn’t have faith i’ll follow through.
I can’t accept her having someone on the side even if it’s over now, although i know why she did it…If that’s what she did.[/quote]
If she’s going to go out of her way to cheat on you because she thinks you’re getting cold feet, she’s done, there is no hope for her here.
That’s good, don’t accept that, because that would be ridiculous now. You can know the thought process that went through her head, but please tell me you don’t think you can actually understand and rationalise it. To have sex, repeatedly no less, with another guy while you sit there plucking petals deciding on whether or not to marry her is insane, it’s clinically insane and evil. Somehow we’ve become desensitised enough to believe that our girlfriends and wives deserve more than they do, all she is now is an emotional drain on you and because of that it is time for you to rid yourself of her.
Don’t flip flop on this, make the necessary preparations for her to leave with as little time for her to change your mind and chance for things to go awry, and next time you see her, tell her you’re done and she’s gone. She might not have done anything, there might be no other guy, but if you stay with her after the shitty attitude she has with you and your compounding differences, then you would deserve all the shit that she continued to give you.
if she sleeps over you could try putting some kind of tracker app on her phone for greater accuracy
Does she have a sister?
[quote]bpick86 wrote:
[quote]Big Kahuna wrote:
I’d go so far as to say that you have no other choice but to leave her now, because this is silly, this whole thing is silly. You’ve made her out to be a horrible person, which leads me to believe you know her to be a horrible person. Do you want to marry a horrible person? Leave her, if you don’t get closure then whatever, all that matters is she goes. Don’t even try to turn things around and make them work, it’s too late for that now, the relationship has been doomed for weeks and it’s not showing any signs of improving. All you’re doing is letting the pot heat up until it reaches it’s boiling point and bursts into flame, let her down as soon as you can.[/quote]
I agree with you partially. It would not be in me to just drop it without knowing. I would have to know. That’s probably a character flaw though. But yeah OP. This is probably over no matter which way this swings.[/quote]
I can understand the need for closure, it’s just in this circumstance I don’t want Adam to give this a reason to go on any longer than it needs to just because he wants her to tell him what he may already know. I know it would cut down the regret substantially if he was sure, but that’s something he can take the time to get over, if he gives her any more chance to hound him back in, he risks taking her bait, and continuing the never ending spiral he’s gotten himself into.
I guess i’ve felt better hanging onto a glimpse of hope while waiting to catch her. If i catch her she can’t deny anything.
if somehow it’s some crazy misunderstanding/glitch…me confronting her will ruin things…
Even if she is cheating I’m sure she will get her act together after the wedding and she’s wearing a nice shiny ring.
On a side note glad your alive we were all getting worried.
[quote]bdocksaints75 wrote:
Even if she is cheating I’m sure she will get her act together after the wedding and she’s wearing a nice shiny ring.[/quote]
If that is not meant ironic, I will probably lose it.
I can see a crimson veil covering my vision right now…
[quote]bdocksaints75 wrote:
On a side note glad your alive we were all getting worried.[/quote]
Thanks man, i appreciate you guys…being in germany was hell for me…it’s like my life was falling apart on the other side of the world and i’ve been too far to do anything but wait until i get back…two weeks felt like 2 months.
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[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]bdocksaints75 wrote:
Even if she is cheating I’m sure she will get her act together after the wedding and she’s wearing a nice shiny ring.[/quote]
If that is not meant ironic, I will probably lose it.
I can see a crimson veil covering my vision right now…[/quote]
Just for you, Mr. Austria.
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]bdocksaints75 wrote:
Even if she is cheating I’m sure she will get her act together after the wedding and she’s wearing a nice shiny ring.[/quote]
If that is not meant ironic, I will probably lose it.
I can see a crimson veil covering my vision right now…[/quote]
Hahaha yeah I would have nothing to do with her.
So there’s no chance this is all a big misunderstanding?