Every single girl ive met in college age group, if she were a man, she’d be called a loser. So very few of them do sweet f all besides post on social media all day and occasionally go to classes, maybe work a casual shift at a clothing store and get paid to talk. Thats it.
If shes flaking on the first but then everythings going smoothly on the 2nd i wouldnt worry about it. I never really had flakes that often, but then again I’ve only really dated chicks I’m pretty sure are already really attracted, helps a lot if you meet them while doing something you excel at/or an environment where people think you’re cool.
[quote]tork94 wrote:
Its not a huge deal, but it seems like when ever I set up a first date/meeting with a girl, they always cancel. I always play it off as being cool, and nearly always am able to re-schedule and then its all good to go.
They cant all have something come up in the last 24 hours before the first meeting, is it just that they want to “test” me and see how I react or what?[/quote]
women are naturally flaky and there is nothing you can do about it except have multiple options in case one woman bails[/quote]
Women are not naturally flaky… That being said they do interact differently and think differently than men so don’t waste too much time trying to understand or reconstruct a new girls reasons for being flaky.
When a women flaks out on a first date or casual meet up its any ones best guess as to their reasoning. Sometimes a women can seem real into you and then change their mind before they ever see you again. They could also have some strange rules they are trying to follow about dating, a lot of people have those. Some people do a lot of second guessing when it comes to dating.
One thing I love about my current girl friend is that she never flaked out on me during our initial dating period. Part of that is luck, but the other part is understanding. I went out with a lot of women where I didn’t have the faintest idea of where their head was at because our thinking was so out of sync. When you meet a woman that is reasonably in sync with your thinking and you are attracted to her lock her down, because they don’t come around very often.
That being said if all the women you are dating are exhibiting a similar pattern you may want to try picking up women from a different pond. Women won’t all treat you the same unless you are picking up very similar women.
[quote]Aussie Davo wrote:
they arent busy, thats for fucking sure.
Every single girl ive met in college age group, if she were a man, she’d be called a loser. So very few of them do sweet f all besides post on social media all day and occasionally go to classes, maybe work a casual shift at a clothing store and get paid to talk. Thats it.
If shes flaking on the first but then everythings going smoothly on the 2nd i wouldnt worry about it. I never really had flakes that often, but then again I’ve only really dated chicks I’m pretty sure are already really attracted, helps a lot if you meet them while doing something you excel at/or an environment where people think you’re cool.
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Agreed, girls who say they are busy usually aren’t and for whatever reason are flaking on you. Girls who are truly busy usually will have a good reason like work and will reschedule right away.
It could be that she just wants attention, or is keeping you in a holding pattern while she’s out with other dudes. You’d be surprised how many guys a girl may be trying out. Or whatever, the reason doesn’t matter just what you’re willing to deal with.
You just have to decide what level of flakiness you’re willing to tolerate. If flaking on the first date is annoying you, then just break off contact with those that do that. I think it comes down to just a feeling of disrespect and a devaluing of your time. I would never associate with guys that act that way but every now and then I let it slide with a girl, well because she’s hot. But it’s never worth the stress/annoyance. There are most definitely hot girls that don’t act that way, like most I’ve met from Europe.
[quote]tork94 wrote:
Its not a huge deal, but it seems like when ever I set up a first date/meeting with a girl, they always cancel. I always play it off as being cool, and nearly always am able to re-schedule and then its all good to go.
They cant all have something come up in the last 24 hours before the first meeting, is it just that they want to “test” me and see how I react or what?[/quote]
women are naturally flaky and there is nothing you can do about it except have multiple options in case one woman bails[/quote]
That being said if all the women you are dating are exhibiting a similar pattern you may want to try picking up women from a different pond. Women won’t all treat you the same unless you are picking up very similar women.
It might just be anxiety on their part. I have rescheduled dates because of anxiety. Especially dates with someone you met online are very anxiety-provoking to many people.
I lived in the land’o flakes of Southern California that shit gets old fast. It can be just plain laziness, or a shit test (reacting with anger on your part shows desperation/immaturity). Sometimes it can be good to call them out on it (sorry I’m not interested in kid games) or she is anxious(as someone else mentioned) which can be diffused by keeping everything as low key as possible. LLast possibility is she just wasn’t sold on you…ask any salesman they KNOW when a prospect is excited. Depends on your ability to read people to decide which of the above apply.
Like someone else may have said, when you are experiencing the same behaviour repeatedly, you may want to examine the common denominator; you. Where do you meet women and how do you interact with them? Stop bending yourself out of shape trying to discover what they may or may not be thinking or doing and look at what you are doing.
[quote]Aussie Davo wrote:
they arent busy, thats for fucking sure.
Every single girl ive met in college age group, if she were a man, she’d be called a loser. So very few of them do sweet f all besides post on social media all day and occasionally go to classes, maybe work a casual shift at a clothing store and get paid to talk. Thats it.
If shes flaking on the first but then everythings going smoothly on the 2nd i wouldnt worry about it. I never really had flakes that often, but then again I’ve only really dated chicks I’m pretty sure are already really attracted, helps a lot if you meet them while doing something you excel at/or an environment where people think you’re cool.
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Lol and will passionately tweet about feminism, although they aren’t good representatives for the cause
[quote]Aussie Davo wrote:
they arent busy, thats for fucking sure.
Every single girl ive met in college age group, if she were a man, she’d be called a loser. So very few of them do sweet f all besides post on social media all day and occasionally go to classes, maybe work a casual shift at a clothing store and get paid to talk. Thats it.
If shes flaking on the first but then everythings going smoothly on the 2nd i wouldnt worry about it. I never really had flakes that often, but then again I’ve only really dated chicks I’m pretty sure are already really attracted, helps a lot if you meet them while doing something you excel at/or an environment where people think you’re cool.
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Lol and will passionately tweet about feminism, although they aren’t good representatives for the cause [/quote]
Tell me about it
Friend of mine takes women’s studies and shes always putting shit up on her facebook about how unfair the job marketplace is to women (she worked in the clothing deparment of a store and got replaced by a 16 year old after she would routinely call in sick to attend social events - lol nothing bad could happen to me for missing shifts, this job is luck to have my overpayed under productive labor occasionally!) and about slut shaming (she cuts any girl friends hotter than her out of her life and routinely slags off women she doesn’t like as “trashy sluts”)
I shit on her about it in person but heaven forbid i point out where shes wrong on facebook, women’s arena and all, because then its not the person or the point I’m criticizing, i must be attacking ALLLLLLLL the wimmens
[quote]Aussie Davo wrote:
they arent busy, thats for fucking sure.
Every single girl ive met in college age group, if she were a man, she’d be called a loser. So very few of them do sweet f all besides post on social media all day and occasionally go to classes, maybe work a casual shift at a clothing store and get paid to talk. Thats it.
If shes flaking on the first but then everythings going smoothly on the 2nd i wouldnt worry about it. I never really had flakes that often, but then again I’ve only really dated chicks I’m pretty sure are already really attracted, helps a lot if you meet them while doing something you excel at/or an environment where people think you’re cool.
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Lol and will passionately tweet about feminism, although they aren’t good representatives for the cause [/quote]
Tell me about it
Friend of mine takes women’s studies and shes always putting shit up on her facebook about how unfair the job marketplace is to women (she worked in the clothing deparment of a store and got replaced by a 16 year old after she would routinely call in sick to attend social events - lol nothing bad could happen to me for missing shifts, this job is luck to have my overpayed under productive labor occasionally!) and about slut shaming (she cuts any girl friends hotter than her out of her life and routinely slags off women she doesn’t like as “trashy sluts”)
I shit on her about it in person but heaven forbid i point out where shes wrong on facebook, women’s arena and all, because then its not the person or the point I’m criticizing, i must be attacking ALLLLLLLL the wimmens
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just as long as you know YOU are the problem, not the entitled people. Good thing she is raising awareness via facebook though, right?