[quote]strungoutboy21 wrote:
Out of curiosity to the single parents out there trying to date. If they don’t ask you if you have kids and you don’t volunteer the information to them, when do you tell them you have a child? I’m just wondering because I have dated two girls with kids before and both of them told me right away they had a son, which I didn’t mind at all.[/quote]
I’ve been wondering the same thing. I’ve tried being open about it and telling them right away, which hasn’t exactly been received well. Keep in mind, though, I’m talking about girls in their early 20s and I suspect age makes a pretty big difference.
I’m starting to wonder if maybe the best thing to do is just look for other single parents your age.
females are pretty fickle when it comes to this sort of thing… it really is the luck of the draw.
someone told her you have a kid, and she cuts off all communication
on the flipside (my favorite example), I told my friend that a guy she has been dating for a week has genital herpes (he wasn’t going to tell her), and this makes her even more attracted to him (not joking)
[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:
females are pretty fickle when it comes to this sort of thing… it really is the luck of the draw.
someone told her you have a kid, and she cuts off all communication
on the flipside (my favorite example), I told my friend that a guy she has been dating for a week has genital herpes (he wasn’t going to tell her), and this makes her even more attracted to him (not joking)
they are pretty unpredictable, nttawwt[/quote]
Because she does, too, I’d guess.[/quote]
she didn’t before… probably does now though… c’est la vie
[quote]strungoutboy21 wrote:
Out of curiosity to the single parents out there trying to date. If they don’t ask you if you have kids and you don’t volunteer the information to them, when do you tell them you have a child? I’m just wondering because I have dated two girls with kids before and both of them told me right away they had a son, which I didn’t mind at all.[/quote]
I’ve been wondering the same thing. I’ve tried being open about it and telling them right away, which hasn’t exactly been received well. Keep in mind, though, I’m talking about girls in their early 20s and I suspect age makes a pretty big difference.
I’m starting to wonder if maybe the best thing to do is just look for other single parents your age.[/quote]
It really depends on the woman. And where the relationship is going.
In my personal experience, I explain I’m divorced and yes I have kids. What my schedule is with them, so she knows that there are nights I’m not available.
I just leave out the headcount.
If it starts looking like it might be a little more serious, then I’ll discuss specifics.
Usually, the “Do you like hockey?” test flunks most of them before I get anywhere near the kids discussion.
[quote]strungoutboy21 wrote:
Out of curiosity to the single parents out there trying to date. If they don’t ask you if you have kids and you don’t volunteer the information to them, when do you tell them you have a child? I’m just wondering because I have dated two girls with kids before and both of them told me right away they had a son, which I didn’t mind at all.[/quote]
I’ve been wondering the same thing. I’ve tried being open about it and telling them right away, which hasn’t exactly been received well. Keep in mind, though, I’m talking about girls in their early 20s and I suspect age makes a pretty big difference.
I’m starting to wonder if maybe the best thing to do is just look for other single parents your age.[/quote]
It really depends on the woman. And where the relationship is going.
In my personal experience, I explain I’m divorced and yes I have kids. What my schedule is with them, so she knows that there are nights I’m not available.
I just leave out the headcount.
If it starts looking like it might be a little more serious, then I’ll discuss specifics.
Usually, the “Do you like hockey?” test flunks most of them before I get anywhere near the kids discussion.
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A high headcount for a guy isn’t as bad as it would be for a woman. When you hear that many kids you start wondering about the condition of the Vag. On the other hand for a guy, guess it just means you’re good for sexytimes.
I’m just wondering why you would choose to not volunteer that information in the first place?
If I was single and on the dating scene, my son would be one of the first topics I bring up because I’m proud that he’s my son and if it’s a deal breaker for the girl, it would easily be a deal breaker for me. No reason to waste more time on it.
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
I’m just wondering why you would choose to not volunteer that information in the first place?
If I was single and on the dating scene, my son would be one of the first topics I bring up because I’m proud that he’s my son and if it’s a deal breaker for the girl, it would easily be a deal breaker for me. No reason to waste more time on it. [/quote]
One would also assume it would have the ‘puppy dog’ effect. Not only is your kid the ultimate wing man at parks/malls/outdoor events, but it also shows that you are responsible and capable of caring and providing for someone. Wouldnt it actually attract the right kind of women?
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
I’m just wondering why you would choose to not volunteer that information in the first place?
If I was single and on the dating scene, my son would be one of the first topics I bring up because I’m proud that he’s my son and if it’s a deal breaker for the girl, it would easily be a deal breaker for me. No reason to waste more time on it. [/quote]
One would also assume it would have the ‘puppy dog’ effect. Not only is your kid the ultimate wing man at parks/malls/outdoor events, but it also shows that you are responsible and capable of caring and providing for someone. Wouldnt it actually attract the right kind of women? [/quote]
Uh I really doubt a 20 year old girl in a sorority would really think this was a positive.
[quote]strungoutboy21 wrote:
Out of curiosity to the single parents out there trying to date. If they don’t ask you if you have kids and you don’t volunteer the information to them, when do you tell them you have a child? I’m just wondering because I have dated two girls with kids before and both of them told me right away they had a son, which I didn’t mind at all.[/quote]
I’ve been wondering the same thing. I’ve tried being open about it and telling them right away, which hasn’t exactly been received well. Keep in mind, though, I’m talking about girls in their early 20s and I suspect age makes a pretty big difference.
I’m starting to wonder if maybe the best thing to do is just look for other single parents your age.[/quote]
It really depends on the woman. And where the relationship is going.
In my personal experience, I explain I’m divorced and yes I have kids. What my schedule is with them, so she knows that there are nights I’m not available.
I just leave out the headcount.
If it starts looking like it might be a little more serious, then I’ll discuss specifics.
Usually, the “Do you like hockey?” test flunks most of them before I get anywhere near the kids discussion.
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A high headcount for a guy isn’t as bad as it would be for a woman. When you hear that many kids you start wondering about the condition of the Vag. On the other hand for a guy, guess it just means you’re good for sexytimes.[/quote]
Dude, if she abruptly stopped responding to communication, she doesn’t want to talk to you anymore. It doesn’t matter why she stopped talking to you, if she’s not willing to talk about why then it’s not worth pursuing. If she has a desire to show off her new shiny toy (you) to all her friends, then it’s equally likely she found a new shiny toy to parade around. Leave it alone and move on.
