[quote]DarkNinjaa wrote:
Where the fuck has the testosterone gone in this motherfucking world?[/quote]
I injected it all in my left glute a couple of days ago.
Here is my take,
First a similar type of thing happened to me I was married to what i thought was a cool woman and i believed the love of my life and guess what she cheated on me had unprotected sex gave me clap as well and like you i was so wrapped up in her i still wanted her back. She told me that basically she really never wanted to be married was not cut out for marrriage just went through with marriage because she felt she could not back out. It made me feel my whole time with her was a lie a sham this is after 6 years together and 4 years of marriage.
Finally i grew a set and filed for divorce was one of the hardest things i had ever done even with all of the above being known thats how fucked up over her i was thinking i could fix me so she could want to stay married like it was all my fault. I felt damn near suicidal loooking always at the negative like poor me kind of attitude. She stuck me with a house we could not sell eventually had to rent it out and had to kick in extra money just to meet the mortgage payment and when it actually sold i had to come up with 5 grand just to be able to sell iit.
At the same time my career was in the toilette. Fast forward to today i am remarried to a beautiful quality woman, 2 precious kids and got my career back on track. I got remmaried 5 years after i was divorced so it took some time. So while things me seem shitty and it sounds like they are you will pull through provided number one you ditch her and move on dont look back the faster you do that the better it will hurt but it is for the best and thank God you are not married and have no kids between you.
Number 2 stop the pity party you will never progress as a man if you dont, trust me i was the same way. Best thing for you is to accept responsibility for your situation learn from your mistakes and work on improving your situation focus on school and getting a career then the rest will fall in to place. I would also caution you on getting into another serious relationsip for some time you need to get your head straight.
Also be forwarned if your ex sees you moving on and things working for you she will crawl back it always happnes and did to me shortly after the divorce do not get back with her dont look her up break all ties with her you will never be ale to move on. Hell if possible move start over it helped me out a lot when i left.
If you need any other advice let me know and trust me most people have been where you are at in some shape matter or form and many are worse off sounds like you have your health and your are not addicted to drugs, you need to look at plusses instead of minuses i know its hard its a lot easier to pity yourself and beat youself up over this then to move on and learn from this but if you dont move on and keep pittying yourself you will go in a downwared spiral and no girl wants a loser again i have been there.
Also whenever you seriously start dating again whatever you do dont bring up your ex and all the baggage associated with it because either one she will not want to be with you or 2 she will be screwed up and make it her mission to “fix you” and you dont want that thats why i say take some time before anything serious. If i sound like a dick then sorry but i feel like i have had a smilar experience so i may be able to help.
That is a huge pile of life stuff all heaped into one.
Sort through it and see what you can do about the things you can control and the things you can’t. Act on the things you can, like GF, work, lifting, and school. Try letting go or detaching a little bit from the things you can’t.
When they are all tied together like that it will crush you. Maybe talk to a counselor or someone you can trust to help you sort through it and develop a strategy for moving your self forward from this part of your life.
Sorry guys, I’m kinda distraught and not typing everything well.
SHE NEVER CHEATED ON ME… She fucked this dude when we were broken up, but she lied about his advances while we were together. I trust that she didn’t cheat on me, even with all the pessimism about everything else. Me not having my shit together and her lies about her past with a friend in the group is what’s throwing me off and making me feel so bad. Sorry for the confusion. Had she cheated I’d be done and would have turned the house upside down already, trust me, without skipping a beat.
WTF is wrong with all of you…post pics or no advice.
[quote]Bod-of-Phwoar wrote:
Have you considered GPS tracking?[/quote]
Bravo
Man everyone here is right, get her out of your life. I went through a very similar situation so I know what it’s like and how hard it sounds to just “move on”. Don’t fool yourself, it is tough just to walk away and leave it all behind however it’s either that or this hell you’re living will never end.
Once you “let” a girl cheat/lie to you, that’s it man, it’s over. The greatest deterrent to cheating is the fear of being caught, scolded, etc. Once that fear is gone, she has no reason not to keep on doing it.
Plus, it’s fucking clear this broad is fucking up your life altogether. It seems like you had it all on lock until you broke up the first time, and now this are derailing badly.
Leave her, now. It’ll suck for a few weeks/months but you’ll get your shit together.
[quote]VTTrainer wrote:
Sorry guys, I’m kinda distraught and not typing everything well.
SHE NEVER CHEATED ON ME… She fucked this dude when we were broken up, but she lied about his advances while we were together. I trust that she didn’t cheat on me, even with all the pessimism about everything else. Me not having my shit together and her lies about her past with a friend in the group is what’s throwing me off and making me feel so bad. Sorry for the confusion. Had she cheated I’d be done and would have turned the house upside down already, trust me, without skipping a beat.[/quote]
You don’t turn the house upside down when someone cheats, you just leave. You need to grow up. Make an adult decision. You cant trust this person. You have known her so long that you think you cant live without her, but you can. Get some balls and do what you know you need to do. Stop being a pussy.
Time to move on.
[quote]VTTrainer wrote:
Sorry guys, I’m kinda distraught and not typing everything well.
SHE NEVER CHEATED ON ME… She fucked this dude when we were broken up, but she lied about his advances while we were together. I trust that she didn’t cheat on me, even with all the pessimism about everything else. Me not having my shit together and her lies about her past with a friend in the group is what’s throwing me off and making me feel so bad. Sorry for the confusion. Had she cheated I’d be done and would have turned the house upside down already, trust me, without skipping a beat.[/quote]
She talks about other dudes being in great shape. She lies to you. She gets piss drunk around other guys. She’s texting other dudes at 3 am. She gave you an STD. You really think she hasn’t cheated on you?
This chick is bringing you down. What in the world are you trying to hold onto? Take the advice of pretty much every post in this thread and move on.
Your in shitty gf denial everyone has been there. Do the right thing and move on. You have good character and if a girl is not into you that much and shits always on the rocks it’s taking your focus away from what’s important. Be proud of the good your doing with your life and keep on trucking. Sulli and dark ninjah are right on this one man, you don’t need acidic people weighing you down. Your better then that.
This song will put everything in perspective its the fucking guru himself
[quote]sandos wrote:
Dude, first and foremost, get YOUR life in order. Go to school , learn a trade, whatever. IFfyou don’t do it now, you will have a shitty rest of your life. If you have to work a shitty job to do it, so be it. It’s a lot easier to get up everyday if you know it’s only temp and is a means to an end.
Secondly, stop ALL communications with this girl. I mean facebook, text, phone, EVERYTHING. You will never get over her if you don’t. Even if you want to have a relationship with her DON’T. It will only get worse once you marry her. IT WILL NOT WORK OUT. You think you like her but I have a feeling you are thinking with your dick, you prolly don’t even realize it.
Everything else will fall into place as you go thru life but start with yourself
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I have to agree with this. It sounds like she is beyond horrible(and I’m sure most of this thread will be dedicated to women bashing), but it also sounds like you have some issues of your own to deal with. Clean break with her, spend time working on yourself. Think about women after you’ve fixed your shit up.
[quote]VTTrainer wrote:
SHE NEVER CHEATED ON ME…
I trust that she didn’t cheat on me
lies about her past with a friend in the group
Had she cheated I’d be done[/quote]
I’ve been there man. She probably did cheat on you, and even on the miniscule off-chance that she hasn’t, she still lied, and you can’t trust her. If you stay with her, even if she didn’t cheat on you now, when things get tough, she will.
You say that if she had cheated on you, you’d leave in a heartbeat. I said that too. Everyone says that. The problem is that short of walking in on some guy balls deep inside of her, you never quite manage to prove to yourself that she cheated do you?
You are in love (some kind of love at least), and your mind plays tricks on you. Her mind plays even more devious tricks on you. You’ll keep finding ways to convince yourself it isn’t true and that she would never cheat on you. If you could possibly remove yourself emotionally from the situation and look at it from an outside, objective point of view, you would see it plain as day.
The problem is it’s impossible to do that in this situation. I have been right there man. Somehow she always finds something to say that makes you second guess yourself. Any rational person would hear her excuse and gawk at its absurdity, but for some reason you can’t, because you’re too close. It feels easier to believe she didn’t cheat on you, and your brain will do mental gymnastics to make you believe that, no matter what the evidence says.
[quote]Stiglitz wrote:
Dude … Cut the cord here, clean break
Dating is supposed to be the fun part. Marriage is the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life, and we didn’t start out with any of that baggage. The chances of you ever trusting her completely are zero - with good reason.
Had a similar scenario (without the STD 's) years back … Fought and fought to keep things going, because this chick was gorgeous, sexy, smart, and fun as hell to be around. Finally couldn’t take it and we broke up. Felt like shit for months, thought I’d never find someone so awesome. She moved back home ( Midwest) and we lost touch - except for the drunk 2am phone call from her every 6 months or so telling me she loved me (figured she was fighting with whoever she was dating/fucking).
2 years later she called to tell me she was engaged. I was over her, but it still hurt. So she got married and the calls stopped.
ANOTHER 2 years go by, she calls out of the blue saying she was in town visiting family and wanted to get together for a drink. I met her and we had a good time… She looked great and was still good company. Over the course of the night, she gets drunk, tells me she’s unhappy in her marriage, and basically wants me to take her home and for us to “start over” … I declined… And not for moral reasons (although I hope that played a part) … She was the same, but I had changed. Didn’t love her anymore, didn’t really give a shit about her other than she was still fun to have a beer with. I coulda fucked her for old time sake (she still looked awesome), but to be honest, the whole thing made me feel like I had dodged a bullet, and I could have been that sap sitting home trusting his wife to go on a solo trip …where she repaid my trust by complaining about me and fucking old boyfriends.
Be thankful your relationship isn’t more permanent than it is, and that no kids are involved. She did you a favor by tipping her hand. It’s gonna hurt, gonna suck for awhile, but you will look back someday and thank God you got out when you did. Believe that …[/quote]
This
Alright, here is what you do:
First, you ditch that worthless, STD spreading cunt.
Then, you get a job with a schedule that allows you to finish your education.
I dont care whether you have to eat rice and beans and live in a doghut, you finish that education.
Your father, who should be a pillar of strength and really be the one to tell you this has lost his shit, your girlfriend is a manipulative whore who does not care one bit about you as a human being and unfortunately you could not keep your dog soooooo…
… you are on your own dude.
Since you seem to be a bit of a people pleaser (WE were working on HER problems, really?) they can and will take you down if you do not eject from this situation.
This is not about her, or your father, or your dog it is about you,
RUN, FORREST, RUN
for the country music lovers aha
[quote]carbiduis wrote:
no 10 is worth this amount of trouble.
Find yourself a nice 6 or 7 and be happy.[/quote]
After my divorce and string of screwed up relationships, I physically wrote down a list of what I wanted in a new girlfriend and held out for it. My current wife is still one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen. She’s good for me, I consider myself a lucky man and we’ve had our ups and downs along the way.
Rob
[quote]DarkNinjaa wrote:
Fuck that bitch!
S’cuse me, but there are women I will not stand by. So, she forbade you to bring anyone in the house while she was out there spreading her legs and catching some diseases? WTF?
Kick that STD infested cunt out of your fucking house NOW!! Get a fucking hold of yourself already. WTF?? Are you a man?? No, you’re a fucking pussy! A fucking pussy who will continue to be a fucking pisswipe as long you fall for your gf’s shenanigans. No wonder your life is fucking toxic right now.
Talk to her, tell her it’s fucking OVER.
Fucking hell. Where the fuck has the testosterone gone in this motherfucking world?[/quote]
THIS ^^^ srsly
Joe Rogan may be one of the coolest people I have ever heard speak. He always has good input on any subject. I remember him talking about dmt sounded so dope. His words are always resonate personally.