No, not at all. I don’t know whether it belongs in a discussion of this sort or not - it was posted about freely on this site and is pertinent to the discussion. But one thing is certain, if a line was crossed I crossed it, not you.
Good luck with that not turning into chaos… Feelings always get hurt and you’re always in the wrong…
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I’m picturing you belting out show tunes in a big, brassy voice. (Think Ethel Merman, but bald, and with a better yoke.)
But not singing in the shower. I respectfully decline to picture you in the shower.
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My son, who’s going to be working for one of the big consultancies soon, belts out show tunes all the time, and he does pretty well with the girls, I have to say. He’s not bald, though, and that may make all the difference.
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I will translate this for you. You may watch her play out something a bit naughty with someone else and at the end you can play with your wife. If you touch that other woman, however, your balls are gone.
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this is fantastic.
I’ve probably seen… I’m gonna say 25-35 broadway shows live, mostly at the Dallas Broadway series (we have a hell of a performance arts center for shows here, definitely world class). I got to see Hamilton in Chicago last year. I had incredible season tickets to the Dallas Broadway productions that I lost in my divorce. But they were 2nd row, dead center. I miss those. Basically the hardest part of my divorce.
This, combined with my sock collection, is clearly why I do well with women. Kinda kidding, kinda not.
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I’ve never tried to get a FWB but from what I’ve observed from my friends who did is that it’s pretty hard. Unless the girl is head over heels for you and has very little self-respect, it’s not going to happen. Either that, or she’s one of the easiest girls around and you’re going to end up regretting getting involved with her. It could be both.
My advice to you is to not even try. I know how perfect it sounds, but like a lot of perfect-sounding propositions, it’s highly unrealistic and very rare, not to mention nearly impossible to maintain. Emotions are a sneaky little thing, and you or your girl could get caught up in them quickly which throws off the entire theoretical balance of “we hook up, but there’s no expectations and we’re just friends.” If you want to hook up once, that’s a different story. There are ways to do that, too.
It’s like finding $20 on the ground. It happens once, and you’re thrilled. But don’t be a fool who walks around looking for easy money when you could just get something steady instead (job/relationship analogy here).
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What’s so good about FWB anyway? I mean if you want sex without strings attached, just have one night stands and problem solved.
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Good point. Much less complicated. But use condoms!
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Yep! The thing with one night stands is you have no idea what diseases these randoms could have or if they are on contraceptives.
I’ve only had one FWB situation back when I was close to your age, and I wasn’t surprised to learn that this wonderful gal was really friendly with a lot of other guys too. Bless her heart, such a sweetie.
You don’t like the idea of your hypothetical FWB sleeping around with other guys? Well, back in my day, we called a girl who only wanted to bang you your girlfriend. If you didn’t want to call her your girlfriend, chances are you won’t be banging for long.
If getting laid is all you’re really after, why not aim for one-night stands as our underage friend duke said above?
In my few years working as a bouncer, I’ve seen even the most awkward and socially inept guys go home with girls ranging from attractive to attractive enough. Literally all you need to do is brush off failure and continue to work the room. You don’t need to be smooth or clever even, not if you keep trying.
You’d be surprised at how well some of these women respond to outlandish, vulgar and even offensive pick up lines. They’re just as thirsty as you are chief, and I can guarantee you that there’s plenty of gals out there willing to overlook all of your character flaws to get the same kind of hollow and short-lived satisfaction you’re after.
Now go get 'em!
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As Emily suggested, STD’s are an issue. You put yourself at a waaaaay higher risk for catching one if you’re sleeping with 20 people in a month vs less than 5.
Convenience is also a thing. I had an fwb situation in college that was super nice. The sex was awesome, we enjoyed each others company, and I knew I could call her pretty much any night and have sex. Whereas if I was just going through one night stands, I’d have to go to a bar (or wherever), meet someone, spend the evening trying to make the one night stand happen, and have a decent chance of it not materializing in the end anyway. Chasing one night stands just gets tiresome.
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and u might as well waste some money and time too. Teach me the way of fwb bro and i really needed it
This whole thread sounds like so much effort, lol…
I’m totally clutching my pearls over here. Sleeping with five people in a month does NOT seem like a conservative or disease-avoidant approach to me!
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Yeah, this made me clutch my pearls too. (Although I hasten to add that mine are very manly pearls, and I’m clutching them in a strong, masculine manner.)
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So, gently?
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comparatively it is, right? In my example, reducing exposure by 75%.
It’s also based on the assumption that if someone were to have an FWB, they would be sleeping with at least a couple other people in a given month. If the relationship is exclusive, then that’s not an FWB anymore, it’s a girlfriend.
Also worth noting: I’m not advocating for or against an FWB relationship. I don’t see a reason to promote it or argue that it’s not worthwhile. It’s not something I want in my own life right now. I have a girlfriend, we are exclusive, and I’m very happy. Everything I’m saying here is based on the initial premise that the OP wants this sort of thing.
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I suppose, but the idea of anyone sleeping with twenty distinct people in a single month takes me from clutching my pearls to faint with shock. Like, a smelling salts situation. It’s … icky.
Of course, of course. That’s assumed.
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