Dude I’m 24 now, the problem with beautiful girls is they are always taken, and the choice for me is ether steal from him or borrow. The thing is it’s really hard to get fwb cos u get friendzoned.
There are so few truths in this post. My dude, you bound to fail spectacularly at your goal with women it seems.
For real? There’s 3.5 billion women on earth. If a girl is attached, move on.
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My point was having a lot of FWB doesn’t guarantee you a happy life. Wait until you experience it if you don’t believe me. It doesn’t feel as good as it looks. Sex is amazing but as humans, we need emotional support. I was happier when I was in a one REAL relationship rather than in a bunch of no-strings-attached type relationships.
Obviously, if you are getting friendzoned, there is something wrong, but I wasn’t trying to discuss this.
From this sort of question I could’ve sworn you were 18. Just don’t be creepy
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Same here. Maturity is definitely a problem.
You have so many things wrong here. There are sooooooo many beautiful, available women out there. And I’m 34, not 24. Think about how many more girls at my age are ACTUALLY taken (mostly married), and I can still say there are plenty of fish in the sea. Should be a walk in the park for you.
I can tell you exactly why you can’t get what you want. Your personality sucks. Period. You’re obviously in good shape judging by your picture, and I’m going to assume your face isn’t ugly as fuck. An outstanding personality alongside decent looks is all that is necessary to fuck as much your dick can handle. And that can translate to an FWB situation if you happen to really click with one particular girl and the sex is great. Aaaaaaand then sometimes an fwb situation can turn into a real relationship if it lasts awhile, and both partners start to lose interest in seeing other people. These things tend to happen pretty organically.
So, I think your ego is probably annoying and off-putting to girls. That’s a problem. You probably talk about yourself too much. You probably come off as arrogant. You probably assume pretty girls are stuck up a) before you even talk to them, and b) as soon as they reject you. All of these things will work against you.
Have some idea of where you want to take a conversation, particularly if the conversation starts to die and you need to fill the air. I like to ask questions. I ask girls lots of questions so they have an opportunity to talk about themselves. And I don’t talk about myself unless directly asked, or I have a story that relates to something the girl has said.
Be funny. Smile a lot. Pay a lot of attention to how the girl you’re talking to reacts to different things you say, and gestures you make. This part takes practice, and while you’re learning, you’re just going to have to go through a lot of rejection. But it’s definitely worth it. Learning to read body language, and figuring out what a girl wants to hear is hard. It takes so much effort and time.
You need to be an interesting person. You can’t be boring, at all. The girl you’ve approached will pretty much have decided within the first 20 minutes or so of talking to you whether or not she’d sleep with you. Once she’s decided yes, it’s still your job to keep her thinking that.
And finally, don’t be a downer, AT ALL. No negativity. If a girl has an interest in sleeping with you with little to no commitment, she’s going to want the experience to be relatively care-free. You can have serious conversations later on down the road, but overall, she needs to feel at ease with you, and that you’re not going to be drama for her.
Never talk about ex’s. Never talk about other girls. Don’t talk shit about her ex, or any other guy, if the conversation goes in that direction.
That’s a start. Just a handful of things I’ve learned over the years.
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I’ve done both, and I’ve done both at the same time. I have a close friend who’s engaged to a wonderful woman, and they both sleep with other people. Sometimes they play together with a 3rd, sometimes it’s separate. Different strokes for different folks. I’ve had periods in my life where I just wanted one woman in my life, I wanted simplicity. Other times, I’ve wanted zero commitment. We all need different things at different times. I don’t believe most of us are built for a life of monogamy. Some of us are, for sure. I just think it’s important to honestly identify, for yourself, how you can find happiness, and realize when what might have made you happy at one time doesn’t anymore.
The problem with beautiful girls is nobody takes them seriously, and the male “friends” they get just want to have sex with them. Not always the case, but it must be frustrating for them to deal with that crap.
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On 3 occassions I messed with taken girls.
And I never ended up dating them. Because I was scared they’d do the same thing to me.
Anyways 2 of the 3 got back with their BF’s and never spoke to me again, and last one got a new BF and we are still friends to this day.
At the end it’s not worth it to steal someone’s girl, trust me. And if you do, and you actually date that girl - there is really high chance that she’ll cheat on you too or do the same.
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I’m telling you to try stuff like Tinder or as last resort - professionals.
I honestly wouldn’t even try to make a post like that without trying those options first.
- In case that you did try those options, I apologize.
I ended up in seenzoned in text sometimes and they always have games in the text or some sort, I don’t have any startegy to get this types cos they had a lot of guys are trying for them and gave them attention they need to boost their ego. I don’t know how to get this types tho. Lastly, they really play hard to get. I just can’t crack the code
Yeah it’s hard sometimes. I agree.
I usually just brush it off.
Also, there’s the thing of “being too nice”. I kinda found myself having more luck when I was acting cold towards them.
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Yea, but if it’s too much then she’ll be pissed and end up nothing. Haiz. The pretty ones are the challenging ones cos their ego is at sky high.
Generalisations like this make you sound like a dick and are the reason you can’t get girls.
And your shitty calves, of course.
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Well you can’t always get everything you want.
Lots of people never had friends with benefits, some are OK with it, some are like “if it happens - happens” and some want it to happen.
There are girls who had tons of FWB (friends with benefits) relationships and are now frustrated that because of their past they have a hard time finding a guy who wants serious long term relationship with them.
I also know a girl who is 10/10 and could basically have any guy, but she only wants 1 guy and would kill to date him - but he doesn’t want her. She rejected him in the past and now he’s married and has a kid.
Then, there are even people who are like 30+ and virgins.
Not having a FWB isn’t end of the world. In few years when you find a long term GF you won’t care about not having FWB anyways.
You can try to change this, or you can just relax and do as you were doing till now bro. One night stands or sex with GF or sex with a friend or sex with anyone else - is basically the same.
So my sugesstion is just to chill and let it happen if it’s supposed to happen 
sometimes i feel im forced to find girls due to the desperations of need and thats the one is hard and make me look for girls thus ended up getting nothing. Its really hard to control the urges. Thanks for your advice mate
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Well if that’s the case then visit a professional.
No strings attached, no bullshit, no waste of time.
Honestly, you on average spend more money on a night out (at least if you are in EU) hoping you’ll get a girl, and it might or might not happen. This way you know price, and you know it’ll happen.
That way you’ll get really hot girl to have sex with you on terms you both agree. If it’s taboo to you, I understand, just I want to say that it would make this situation much easier for you. And you would get more confidence with other girls aswell.
x2.
I’ve had a friend with benefits for almost a year now, and I’ll tell you that, although she’s one of the most important persons in my life, if asked why I’m so attached to her, the fact that she sucks my dick wouldn’t remotely be on the top of the list.
We started as just friends, and with time our friendship got deeper, and I can tell you that having sex with her has made our relationship much deeper and meaningful, but it came when we were already very close. We have gone even a couple of months without doing anything and only going out as friends (I had a girlfriend) and I can tell you that we were just as important for each other.
I’ve tried staying with girls that I only barely “tolerated” in order to get laid, and I always regretted it, whether I’d gotten it or not.
Yup. Learn to approach all people with an attitude of friendly curiosity and you’ll get a lot farther in all aspects of life.
Anyone else getting the feeling OP is only attracted to jacked girls?
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