Getting Engaged!

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man, some of you guys are really getting on me about the price.

i look at it like this- she’s only going to get one of these, and i wanted to do it right. My dad is an asshole, a complete joke. When my parents got married he gave her a diamond ring, actually a CZ. BUT, he tried to play it off like it was a real diamond. Of course my mom knew. Once they were married he turned into the guy that he really is, the fact that it was a CZ came out, and my mom really paid for that embarrassment. So, more for personal reasons, and doing things basically the opposite of how my dad did them, so as to be nothing like him, this is just one of the things in my life that i set a very high standard for myself on.

also, as i said before, my goal was really just a nice carrat, or a tad over. the setting happened to be for a 1.5, and the jeweler said it couldnt be changed to accept very much larger or smaller, so i got bumped to 1.5, because i couldnt pass the ring up.

i did not set out to spend 10k, thats for sure, thats just what i ended up having to spend to get what i wanted.

and im very good with my money, i am not worried at all about getting my savings back up, ive got budgets set, etc. student loans are gone, credit clear, etc.

and, we have already talked about a small wedding, nothing ridiculous, that is not us, so perhaps i spent a little extra on the ring that others would be slurging on the wedding.

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Nnnnnnnnnnnnoooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!..

Don’t doooo itttttttttttttt!!!

Speaking from experience here…

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Yyyeeeesssssssssssssssssssssssssssss!!!..

Doooo itttttttttttttt!!!

Speaking from experience here…

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haha. im doing it, no one will change my mind there. i am scrapping the Christmas thing, as suggested now by many people, and im leaning towards just a nice dinner in October.

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I did not mean to sound negative about the amount you spent; just not for me. My late husband bought my first ring for the wrong reasons, in my opinion. As I said, I wanted a nice simple band. He insisted on the diamond! He did not want people to think he was too poor to buy me a diamond, or too cheap. It was more for show than because he wanted to make me happy. Sounds like you did it for the right reason–she loved the ring, so you bought it.

I did love the ring and it was very pretty. I ended up giving it to my daughter. I figured, sentimental fool that I am, that I did not want to sell it. My new husband did not feel comfortable recycling my old ring into our new marriage. I had hard time letting go of it, but now I feel very good about the decision. My daughter is wearing the ring her dad gave me; since he is not able to be here for her in body, she feels he is with her in spirit by wearing the ring that was the symbol of our union.

Works for me since she is wearing a ring already in circulation and not one that had to be mined anew-recycling!

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OH, and to add, I am glad you are not doing the Christmas thing! It is nice to make things special and on their own.

My first wedding was one week after my birthday. It was no fun, having the two things blended together by everyone in my life.

You would think I would have learned my lesson, but this time, I got married two days before my birthday…it just worked out that the timing was necessary for a variety of reasons.

Of course the engagement is a different thing than the actual wedding date.

Linette

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Too cool and I know exactly how you feel. At the mall today, while she was getting her nails done I bought her ring. Pick it up on Friday after they size it and will be taking a trip next week into the mountains of Idaho for the proposal. This is good shit and I am as happy for you as I am for myself and all of the others on this thread whom are taking the plunge…

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[quote]MaximusB wrote:
imhungry wrote:
MaximusB wrote:
How does someone go about getting the ring size without giving away the whole idea away? I mean if you flat out ask her, she will know something is up, so how is it done?

I’d believe that after five years, along with talking about getting engaged, that she’s already mentioned it a number of times… I would think, anyway.

If not, ask her family or friends.

I was just curious, I am nowhere near getting engaged. Hell I am single right now, but I would envision popping the question as a surprise. So talking about it would give it away. Asking family or friends seems futile, women can’t keep a secret for shit, especially one like that. If I ever bought a ring and it didn’t fit, I would feel like a total dumb ass LOL. [/quote]

My friend, Holly, had told her best friend exactly what she wanted, so when Todd was going to ask, he asked the best friend, who told him exactly what to buy and to NOT deviate from that, otherwise the answer would definitely and automatically be a “no.”

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[quote]BigJawnMize wrote:
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Ummm yeah, marriage is a holy sacrament, best decision of your life…diamonds…umm, clarity and cut is important…ummm…WHO THE HELL IS THAT IN YOUR AVATAR I WANT TO STALK HER.

I’m actually not kidding. She looks Japanese and I live in Japan. I have black clothes and I know an Israeli guy here who has a wicked set of night vision goggles somehow.

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For what it’s worth, any guy that finds someone that they love that much to want to spend the rest of your life with, then why not spend what you want? If YOU think she’s worth it, then that’s all that matters.

Hell, you’ve been together for 5 years, and you still want to marry her? It sounds like a solid decision to me.

Best of luck to you.

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The thing that pisses me off, is seeing how some women can often compete with each other as far as their rings go. I dated a girl once who kept mentioning how her ring (whenever she got a ring) needed to be bigger and better than her sister’s ring. I thought that was totally fucked up, since that puts an unnecessary pressure on the guy. Even with regards to a wedding, I have seen how some friends of mine have to continually out-do other people as if to make a statement.

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I was cringing at the price before I got mine. I tend not to be materialistic and the thought of spending so much on a symbol seemed indefensible. But considering what has happened since that purchase, I would say it has easily been one of the best investments in my life. Congrats and best wishes to you.

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[quote]super saiyan wrote:
Yyyeeeesssssssssssssssssssssssssssss!!!..

Doooo itttttttttttttt!!!

Speaking from experience here… [/quote]

LIESSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!

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[quote]Steve8867 wrote:
super saiyan wrote:
Yyyeeeesssssssssssssssssssssssssssss!!!..

Doooo itttttttttttttt!!!

Speaking from experience here…

LIESSSSSSSSSSSSS!!![/quote]

Believe it or not, it actually works for some people.

LOLLLLLLLLLLLLL!!!

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[quote]MaximusB wrote:
The thing that pisses me off, is seeing how some women can often compete with each other as far as their rings go. I dated a girl once who kept mentioning how her ring (whenever she got a ring) needed to be bigger and better than her sister’s ring. I thought that was totally fucked up, since that puts an unnecessary pressure on the guy. Even with regards to a wedding, I have seen how some friends of mine have to continually out-do other people as if to make a statement. [/quote]

Yeah, same here. All I know, is that when the time comes, I better get an emerald. If I get a diamond, the answer is “NO.”

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[quote]Grneyes wrote:
MaximusB wrote:
The thing that pisses me off, is seeing how some women can often compete with each other as far as their rings go. I dated a girl once who kept mentioning how her ring (whenever she got a ring) needed to be bigger and better than her sister’s ring. I thought that was totally fucked up, since that puts an unnecessary pressure on the guy. Even with regards to a wedding, I have seen how some friends of mine have to continually out-do other people as if to make a statement.

Yeah, same here. All I know, is that when the time comes, I better get an emerald. If I get a diamond, the answer is “NO.”[/quote]

If he did get you a diamond, then he obviously didn’t listen to you.

Asshole.

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[quote]imhungry wrote:
Grneyes wrote:
MaximusB wrote:
The thing that pisses me off, is seeing how some women can often compete with each other as far as their rings go. I dated a girl once who kept mentioning how her ring (whenever she got a ring) needed to be bigger and better than her sister’s ring. I thought that was totally fucked up, since that puts an unnecessary pressure on the guy. Even with regards to a wedding, I have seen how some friends of mine have to continually out-do other people as if to make a statement.

Yeah, same here. All I know, is that when the time comes, I better get an emerald. If I get a diamond, the answer is “NO.”

If he did get you a diamond, then he obviously didn’t listen to you.

Asshole.[/quote]

My friend from college wanted an emerald, got a diamond, because that’s what’s traditional and normal. shrug

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[quote]Grneyes wrote:
imhungry wrote:
Grneyes wrote:
MaximusB wrote:
The thing that pisses me off, is seeing how some women can often compete with each other as far as their rings go. I dated a girl once who kept mentioning how her ring (whenever she got a ring) needed to be bigger and better than her sister’s ring. I thought that was totally fucked up, since that puts an unnecessary pressure on the guy. Even with regards to a wedding, I have seen how some friends of mine have to continually out-do other people as if to make a statement.

Yeah, same here. All I know, is that when the time comes, I better get an emerald. If I get a diamond, the answer is “NO.”

If he did get you a diamond, then he obviously didn’t listen to you.

Asshole.

My friend from college wanted an emerald, got a diamond, because that’s what’s traditional and normal. shrug[/quote]

It’s not about HIM or what’s traditional and ‘normal’.

She’s wearing the damn thing, so it should be what SHE wants.

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[quote]Dentfixer wrote:
Too cool and I know exactly how you feel. At the mall today, while she was getting her nails done I bought her ring. Pick it up on Friday after they size it and will be taking a trip next week into the mountains of Idaho for the proposal. This is good shit and I am as happy for you as I am for myself and all of the others on this thread whom are taking the plunge…[/quote]

Picked it up tonight…Feel like a kid again and that’s a treat at 49. Never thought it would ever be for me again…Life is good!!

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[quote]Dentfixer wrote:
Dentfixer wrote:
Too cool and I know exactly how you feel. At the mall today, while she was getting her nails done I bought her ring. Pick it up on Friday after they size it and will be taking a trip next week into the mountains of Idaho for the proposal. This is good shit and I am as happy for you as I am for myself and all of the others on this thread whom are taking the plunge…

Picked it up tonight…Feel like a kid again and that’s a treat at 49. Never thought it would ever be for me again…Life is good!![/quote]

I know how you feel–2 1/2 years ago when my husband died, I thought I would be alone the rest of my life and here I am, maried again to the best man in the world…it is an amazing feeling, even at 44!

Congrats!