Gay Divorce 40% More Retarded Than Gay Marriage.

[quote]killerDIRK wrote:
I can understand how the Religious Right wants to ban gay marriage. Why would they want a minority group to FAIL 55% of the time the way they do. BAN DIVORCE !! You did agree to “till DEATH do us part”, correct ?

Since marriage is an invention of the church why do you get benefits for being married from the Gov’t ???
where is the separation of church and state ?? How bout we just all go down to city hall and then get Civil unions ? Course that probably would not fly with the religious mothers out there either…

By the way, by definition Jesus was a BASTARD child and Mary was Raped !!![/quote]

Are you okay? It seems like you are distraught about something.

[quote]kilpaba wrote:
Somewhat off topic, but I thought this was germane for comparisons between gay couples behavior and heterosexuals. Seems the gays aren’t the only ones routinely banging other folks, married or not. This was an archived snippet so unfortunately I couldn’t provide a straight link to it:

[quote]
delanceyplace.com 2/26/09 - extramarital sex

In today’s encore excerpt - data on extramarital sex from Jared Diamond, UCLA professor, Pulitzer Prize-winning author and winner of the National Medal of Science:

"People have many reasons to lie when asked whether they have committed adultery. That’s why it is notoriously difficult to get accurate scientific information about this important subject. One of the few existing sets of hard facts emerged as a totally unexpected by-product of a medical study performed nearly a half a century ago for a different reason. That study’s findings have never been revealed until now.

"I recently learned those facts from the distinguished medical scientist who ran the study. (Since he does not wish to be identified in this connection I shall refer to him as Dr. X.) In the 1940s, Dr. X was studying the genetics of human blood groups which are molecules we acquire only by inheritance. … The study’s research plan was straightforward: go to the obstetrics ward of a highly respectable U.S. hospital; collect blood samples from one thousand newborn babies and their mothers and fathers; identify the blood groups in all the samples; and then use standard genetic reasoning to deduce the inheritance patterns.

"To Dr. X’s shock, the blood groups revealed that nearly 10 percent of those babies to be the fruits of adultery! … There could be no question of mistaken maternity: the blood samples were drawn from an infant and its mother soon after the infant emerged from its mother. A blood group present in a baby but absent from its undoubted mother could only have come from its father. Absence of the blood group from the mother’s husband as well showed conclusively that the baby had been sired by some other man extramaritally. The true incidence of extramarital sex must have been considerably higher than 10 percent … since most bouts of intercourse do not result in conception.[/quote][/quote]

In today’s society, this could be easily brushed away with various fertility treatments and more ‘open families’. I suspect, in the 1940s similar couples didn’t have the same fertility options and options that were explored were never talked about (for at least a portion of cases). Additionally, before HIV (and even after) swinging was popular, it was, and still arguably is, considered a social issue rather than a sexual one. As a married male, I’ve never been asked about my sexual history by an actual doctor. Also, having been present for the birth of my two children, my part in the conception was never discussed further than, “You’re the father?”, sort of an organic “need to know” or “don’t ask, don’t tell” scenario.

Then how did marriage come to be? Why don’t we all have five wives and five husbands? Well before the establishment and institution of Christian marriage the Greeks and Romans were openly accepting of homosexuality. Spartan women were encouraged to have several lovers/husbands should one or several fall on the battlefield. I wonder if social and/or environmental pressures led, virtually every current population on earth, to marginalize homosexuals, treating them, at best, apathetically and instead valuing various marital and family constructs? I doubt so many people, wise and whimsical, came to so essentially similar irrational conclusions.

It’s not the ‘only reason’, first sex drive, sexual encounters and promiscuity are three different concepts, ignoring that and homogenizing them into generic ‘sexual activity’, there could easily be influences of family upbringing, social role, personal beliefs, mental or social disorders…regardless of the cause of the difference, it would be a “bad idea” to support or promote a more promiscuous behavior in world with STDs, No?

An interesting corollary to your story, most people for whatever reason don’t realize, in a strictly coupled heterosexual environment of roughly the same number of men and women, through the magic (or fault) of statistics, women can’t be disparately more promiscuous (ignoring marriage) than men (and vice versa). A group of 50 men and 50 women, one woman has sex with all fifty guys. Mean number of partners for men and women? 1. 30 women and 5 men? Mean for both? 3. Mix the numbers up any way you like, you can’t end up with grossly disparate numbers assuming you have the 1.) the truth, 2.) equal proportions of men and women, 3.) strictly 1:1 interactions 4.) strictly heterosexual interactions. Studies of (e.g.) women in Boston having, on average, five sexual partners and men having 15 aren’t strictly wrong, they just tend to indicate study bias, confounding behaviors, or poor data fidelity rather than some disparate average between the sexes.

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

It is probably also worth pointing out that if you had no hope of ever getting married wouldn’t you be banging a bunch of different folks to?[/quote]

You are practicing politically correct twisted logic. You’re saying if there was gay marriage then homosexual men would not be promiscuous. And the fact is they are promiscuous because that’s what they want to do based on their own desires independent of marriage. Please don’t tell me you think the average gay 25 year old man is saying “welp I can’t get married in my state so I think I’ll hang out at the bus stop and see if I can pick up some guys.” They can still form long lasting monogamous relationship with ONE other person. And this is something that most gay men seem unable to do. I’ve already posted the stats on it.

[quote]ZEB wrote:

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

It is probably also worth pointing out that if you had no hope of ever getting married wouldn’t you be banging a bunch of different folks to?[/quote]

You are practicing politically correct twisted logic. You’re saying if there was gay marriage then homosexual men would not be promiscuous. And the fact is they are promiscuous because that’s what they want to do based on their own desires independent of marriage. Please don’t tell me you think the average gay 25 year old man is saying “welp I can’t get married in my state so I think I’ll hang out at the bus stop and see if I can pick up some guys.” They can still form long lasting monogamous relationship with ONE other person. And this is something that most gay men seem unable to do. I’ve already posted the stats on it.

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I am saying it is quite possible it would go down. I can’t say with certitude either way of course. I think as a general rule non-marriage relationships just don’t have the same weight in the mind of a person as being “married”. This goes for hetero or homosexual couples. I do think it makes sense that if we completely cut off as an option ‘official’ sanction that it would lead to an increase in promiscuity. I think this would likely occur in any population.

The fact is gay men and women do form unions on their own with varying rates of success. But society doesn’t deem them ‘official’ yet so I do think that changes things.

Regarding the promiscuity again there are probably a lot of reasons for it (the one listed above being a major one I think), but I honestly don’t doubt gay men ARE more promiscuous. The male sex drive doesn’t stop being the male sex drive just because they are gay.

My whole point with that post though is that if somewhere on the order of 5-30% of all children born (depending on the study) are the result of adultery, even in the 1950’s, the notion that somehow heterosexual marriage is more edifying for everyone than gay marriage could be is a little naive. If it was so good for the moral fiber of everyone involved why would adultery rates be so high and divorce rates along with them?

[quote]ZEB wrote:

None of what you posted refutes the fact that the many promiscuous homosexuals are depressed, anxious and suicidal BECAUSE they are promiscuous. Sure people can become depressed because they are not “accepted” no question. But there are plenty of large groups of people who are not fully accepted who do NOT have the volume of poor mental health that homosexual men do. Since forliar likes to compare the African American movement to the Homosexual movement, let’s do so. During the darkest days of pre equal rights for Blacks the suicide rate did not even come close to the homosexual suicide rate. Why? Do you know? Can you stop being politically correct long enough to think on your own? Overall it’s their lifestyle that drives their emotional state (which is often lead by their poor physical state) into depression, anxiety and suicide. How many people, homosexual or heterosexual would be happy when they are plagued with disease? [/quote]

Me? Politically correct? I’m hardly close to politically correct, I can assure you that. But I dislike homophobes because they are happy to make other people unhappy and I can’t stand that. I’ll keep that “think for yourself” line for later or next argument. It’s either sweet irony or hypocrecy at its best.

Comparing black people to homosexuals makes no sense at all. If your argument is going to be based on silly comparisons, let’s compare people with Down’s syndrome and people who believe in God and their suicide rates.

What disease? There are healthy homosexuals like there are healthy heterosexuals. There are unhealthy of both and there are promiscuous of both kinds. Because I have NOT found any evidence that promiscuity leads to mental health issues, not in homosexuals, not in heteosexuales. Please, share me studies about the matter.

Why is promiscuity such a bad thing for homosexuals, but seems to be “fine” for heterosexuals? (I’m not promiscuous, before you attack me with assumptions). Biologically-wise, seems logical for men. Species close to us are very promiscuous.

[quote]Here’s a piece from that biased right wing conservative site Pub Med (LOL):

Most studies of sexually transmitted diseases in homosexual men have examined prevalence in clinic populations; for comparative purposes, we analyzed data from a survey of 4,329 gay men conducted in 1977. Among 4,212 respondents to the self-administered questionnaire, 66.8 per cent reported previous infection with pediculosis; 38.4 per cent, gonorrhea; 24.1 per cent, nonspecific urethritis; 18.1 per cent, venereal warts; 13.5 per cent, syphilis; 9.7 per cent, hepatitis; and 9.4 per cent, herpes. Number of different lifetime sexual partners best predicted histories of symphilis (r = .249), gonorrhea (r = .402), and the other diseases; frequency of checkups, years as a practicing homosexual, and furtive sexual activities were among the many other significant correlates of venereal infections. Respondents most often sought examinations from private physicians (39.4 per cent); those who visited gay clinics were examined most often and felt most positive about their medical care. Gay men who participated in the survey reported frequent infections with many of the same sexually transmitted diseases often seen in private medical practices, public VD clinics, and gay health centers. Since high rates of disease are related to large numbers of different partners, frequent exposures with anonymous contacts, and anal intercourse, we recommend frequent examinations for those whose life-styles include these characteristics.[/quote]

I’d like to see the information on homosexual WOMEN with STDs. I bet it’s lower than the heterosexual people. Why? There’s less risk of contagion without anal penetration and fluids exchange, which is bit more complicated with woman-on-woman intercourse. HIV and other dangerous STD are still possible to get from lesbian homosexual sex though.

I’ll try to find some studies about it, but it may be hard to find.

And we don’t even really know the half of it as many homosexuals sicknesses are not even reported. Here is a piece from that Christian newspaper the New York Times :slight_smile:

[quote]So, you’re telling me that a group of people that lead the way IN…

Gonorrhea, Syphillis, Anal warts, Genitial warts, Anal Cancer, Hepititis A, Hepititis B, HIV/AIDS, and virtually every STD are not happy and well adjusted because everyone does not accept their lifestly?

LMAO!!

Stop drinking the koolaide![/quote]

Woah, strawman argument? You are such a genious!
Now, point me where I said this, please.

Because I’m quite sure I said that homosexual mental health issues are triggered by society discrimination, nothing else. Healthy homosexuals (because they exist too) may also suffer from mental health issues because people make fun of them at all costs.

Should we totally ostracize heterosexuals with STD too?

Yep, it’s an issue. Anal sex, which is also done by heterosexuals by the way, needs extra precaution. However, homosexual women tend to engage less in anal sex (unless it’s with straps or dildos), but you seem to only target homosexual MEN. Why?

[quote]To conclude it’s very sad that so many homosexuals have a difficult time of it. However, like the rest of us, hetero or homo, we make our own choices, good or bad and a result of those choices leads us to either happiness or sadness.[/b]
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You are cynical to no end. Disgusting.

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

[quote]ZEB wrote:

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

It is probably also worth pointing out that if you had no hope of ever getting married wouldn’t you be banging a bunch of different folks to?[/quote]

You are practicing politically correct twisted logic. You’re saying if there was gay marriage then homosexual men would not be promiscuous. And the fact is they are promiscuous because that’s what they want to do based on their own desires independent of marriage. Please don’t tell me you think the average gay 25 year old man is saying “welp I can’t get married in my state so I think I’ll hang out at the bus stop and see if I can pick up some guys.” They can still form long lasting monogamous relationship with ONE other person. And this is something that most gay men seem unable to do. I’ve already posted the stats on it.

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I am saying it is quite possible it would go down.[/quote]

It didn’t go down in the Netherlands where gay marriage has been around for 10 years.

[quote]Edevus wrote:

I’d like to see the information on homosexual WOMEN with STDs.[/quote]

Hey that’s a great argument for homosexual men being overly promiscuous…oh wait no it’s not.

Actually lesbians are at a greater risk and they also have other problems like an incredibly high rate of domestic abuse. But I’m not going back and forth with you, or anyone else. I said I would post the statistics and that’s what I’ve done. The rest of this mindless message board back and forth serves no purpose. I did this many, many times in the past and never once did anyone’s mind get changed. The facts are there for you to consider. If you don’t like them take it up with the CDC.

[quote]To conclude it’s very sad that so many homosexuals have a difficult time of it. However, like the rest of us, hetero or homo, we make our own choices, good or bad and a result of those choices leads us to either happiness or sadness.[/b]

You are cynical to no end. Disgusting.[/quote]

Saying that we (hetero or homo) become a product of the choices that we make is cynical? LOL…and this is why there is no point in teaching you the facts. You live in a land far far away that has taught you that you are NOT responsible for your actions.

Take good care of yourself, and that’s a choice isn’t it? You will learn something really fast in life. If you don’t make the proper choices you will wind up with a life that is far less happy than it could have been. We are all responsible for the choices that we make. Where we work, who we date, who we befriend. We decide what to do and who to do it with and then we will live with the consequences. That’s not at all cynical it’s the way life has always worked and will always work.

Blaming an entire society for the lousy choices that homosexual men have made is ludicrous. And can only be stated by someone who is indeed politically correct.

[quote]lucasa wrote:

[quote]Edevus wrote:

While the findings do not prove that discrimination causes mental health problems, they take a step toward demonstrating that the social stigma felt by LGB people has important mental health consequences.[/quote]

So it’s not necessarily actual descrimination, just the perceived discrimination or “felt social stigma”, right?

That, pretty clearly, states highly individual treatments on a personal level, which is rather the opposite of blanket government-issued public statements applied unequivocally and uniformly.

[quote]Homosexual people tend to experience more mental health problems than heterosexual people, research indicates. Discrimination may contribute to the higher risk, believes lead researcher Dr. Apu Chakraborty of University College London, UK.

His team looked at rates of mental disorder among 7,403 adults living in the UK, whose details were obtained from the Adult Psychiatric Morbidity Survey 2007. Rates of depression, anxiety, obsessive compulsive disorder, phobia, self-harm, suicidal thoughts, and alcohol and drug dependence were significantly higher in homosexual respondents.

…[/quote]

Great, good work, nearly fully agreed and acknowledged.

Somehow I doubt it’s THE first. Maybe in some small science community in the UK, it’s new…

So, it wasn’t THAT new. See, in academic circles just like in advertising, “First” or “new” gets more people to pay attention to you and give you money even if your data isn’t really new. It’s not really science, but despite their best efforts, scientists often play politics.

So, despite levels of discrimination they feel compelled to describe as ‘low’, homosexuals still suffer? My signal processing and statistics education tell me that, a strong correlation is one that scales well with response. A ‘statistically signficant’ (low) stimulus with a ‘worrisome’ (high) response indicates that even if you eliminate the stimulus, you’re still likely to get statistically significant, if not ‘worrisome’ levels of response. I’m not talking about strictly quantitative numbers or strict proven causality, but then neither is the good doctor when he extrapolates/interpolates between ‘low’ discrimination and homosexual mental health issues.

[quote]Edevus wrote:

“Perceived discrimination was associated with both harmful effects on quality of life and indicators of psychiatric morbidity in the total sample,” the researchers report. In particular, in the nonheterosexual group, discrimination on the grounds of sexual orientation predicted certain neurotic disorders, such as OCD, even after adjusting for confounding variables.[/quote]

Read this paragraph very loudly to yourself. When your done, tell us kindly;
1.) Is this a randomized trial, a controlled experiment, an observational study, or a relatively statistical anecdote.
2.) If I were to invent a drug that cured homosexuals of all mental illness, which of the above studies would I need to conduct?
4.) Is the issue discrimination or just the perception of discrimination?

Read the literature, you and the good doctor, are making (the usual) associations that just don’t ‘jive’. Twin studies show a strong genetic component to OCD, similar methods show strong environmental (and weak genetic) component to homosexuality. Outside Nazi Germany, I don’t know of extensive twin studies and race, but I presume it safe to say that they demonstrate a strong genetic component. I know this may be hard for people to swallow, but sexual orientation is, at best, vaguely similar to race.

Moreover, the neurological pathways, regions of the brain, and pharmaceutical (even surgical!) treatments for OCD are well understood. Not so much for homosexuality (despite forlife’s best assertions). OCD and OCD symptoms are clearly defined psychological and behavioral abnormalities. People like yourself, the CDC, and forlife outright refuse the idea of defining homosexuality and/or ‘homosexual symptoms’ as psychological or behavioral abnormalities (despite common sense and the potential usefulness).
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I’ve consistently held that sexual orientation is probably a hybrid of
genetic, in utero, and environmental influences, which is why sexual
orientation is not reversible.

You’re incorrect that “similar methods show strong environmental (and
weak genetic) component to homosexuality.” In fact, twin studies have
been conducted specifically on sexual orientation, and have identified
a strong genetic component.

In 1991, Bailey and Pillard studied three all male groups: identical
twins, fraternal twins, and men with adoptive brothers.Of the 170
relatives examined, 52% of the identical twins were both gay, 22% of
fraternal twins were both gay, and 11% of the adoptive brothers were
both gay
.

In 1992, Bailey and Pillard followed-up their experiment on homosexual
men by studying identical twin, fraternal twin, and nongenetically
related adopted sisters. As expected, their results mirrored those
found in their gay brother study. Whereas only six percent of
adopted sisters were both lesbian, sixteen percent of fraternal twin
sisters and forty-eight percent of identical twin sisters were both
lesbian
. Clearly, the basis for a similar argument for
predetermined homosexuality in women has been laid.

In 1993, Whitam, Diamond, & Martin found that 65% of identical twins
were both gay, whereas only 29% of fraternal twins were gay.

[quote]kilpaba wrote:
Somewhat off topic, but I thought this was germane for comparisons between gay couples behavior and heterosexuals. Seems the gays aren’t the only ones routinely banging other folks, married or not. This was an archived snippet so unfortunately I couldn’t provide a straight link to it:

It is probably also worth pointing out that if you had no hope of ever getting married wouldn’t you be banging a bunch of different folks to? Not a lot of celibate lifelong bachelors among heterosexual men either I wouldn’t think. The only reason gay men probably have an edge on heterosexual men is that both partners have the sex drive of a man.[/quote]

I’ve made this point as well. Men have a higher sex drive, so it’s hardly surprising that they desire to engage in sex more frequently than women. Which is why the negative health statistics on gays are almost always limited to gay men. It’s not about sexual orientation, it’s about testosterone.

[quote]ZEB wrote:

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

[quote]ZEB wrote:

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

It is probably also worth pointing out that if you had no hope of ever getting married wouldn’t you be banging a bunch of different folks to?[/quote]

You are practicing politically correct twisted logic. You’re saying if there was gay marriage then homosexual men would not be promiscuous. And the fact is they are promiscuous because that’s what they want to do based on their own desires independent of marriage. Please don’t tell me you think the average gay 25 year old man is saying “welp I can’t get married in my state so I think I’ll hang out at the bus stop and see if I can pick up some guys.” They can still form long lasting monogamous relationship with ONE other person. And this is something that most gay men seem unable to do. I’ve already posted the stats on it.

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I am saying it is quite possible it would go down.[/quote]

It didn’t go down in the Netherlands where gay marriage has been around for 10 years.

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I didn’t read all of the studies you posted, but was there one that looked at promiscuity rates prior to legalization and then afterwards?

A major question for me regarding this thread is why does promiscuity rates matter at all for allowing gay marriage? If promiscuity rates hit a certain point for heterosexual marriage are we going to ban that too? If not, why? Is the thought that gay marriage being legal will make more people choose to be gay and thus increase promiscuity even further in our society (and thus destroy us from the inside out)?

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

[quote]ZEB wrote:

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

[quote]ZEB wrote:

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

It is probably also worth pointing out that if you had no hope of ever getting married wouldn’t you be banging a bunch of different folks to?[/quote]

You are practicing politically correct twisted logic. You’re saying if there was gay marriage then homosexual men would not be promiscuous. And the fact is they are promiscuous because that’s what they want to do based on their own desires independent of marriage. Please don’t tell me you think the average gay 25 year old man is saying “welp I can’t get married in my state so I think I’ll hang out at the bus stop and see if I can pick up some guys.” They can still form long lasting monogamous relationship with ONE other person. And this is something that most gay men seem unable to do. I’ve already posted the stats on it.

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I am saying it is quite possible it would go down.[/quote]

It didn’t go down in the Netherlands where gay marriage has been around for 10 years.

[/quote]

I didn’t read all of the studies you posted, but was there one that looked at promiscuity rates prior to legalization and then afterwards?

A major question for me regarding this thread is why does promiscuity rates matter at all for allowing gay marriage? If promiscuity rates hit a certain point for heterosexual marriage are we going to ban that too? If not, why? Is the thought that gay marriage being legal will make more people choose to be gay and thus increase promiscuity even further in our society (and thus destroy us from the inside out)?[/quote]

It’s a red herring, regardless. Legalizing gay marriage doesn’t magically erase homophobia that has existed for centuries, any more than legalizing mixed race marriage erased racial discrimination. Does anyone think that when gay marriage is legalized on the federal level, even one of the bigots in this thread will change their mind about gays? If anything, it will probably galvanize them further. Unfortunately, society will have to wait for them to die off, as has been the case for hard core racial bigots from the past.

The Netherlands has made progress by legalizing gay marriage, but they haven’t yet provided fully equal rights for gays.

[quote]Gays want ‘real’ equal rights
Thursday 31 March 2011

Homosexuals in the Netherlands may be able to marry, they still do not
enjoy all the rights of heterosexual couples, gay organisation COC
chairman Vera Bergkamp writes in a letter to prime minister Mark Rutte
and parliament and reported in the Dutch press.

There are still too many councils where civil servants refuse to
conduct gay marriages, according to Bergkamp. ‘It’s unthinkable that
anyone refusing to marry Jews or people of colour would be protected,’
she writes.

The COC wants the government to introduce a bill that would put an end
to this practice.

Children

The COC also wants the government to give gay couples the same rights
when one of them has a child as heterosexual couples. ‘At the moment,
the other mother has to adopt the child, a long, emotional and
expensive process,’ she writes.

But a heterosexual couple who have a baby using a sperm donor do not
have to go through the same process, she points out.

The third area where the COC wants equality is on family reunions. The
government is planning to restrict reunions to couples who were
married abroad. But most countries do not allow gay couples to marry,
meaning they will miss out, Bergkamp says.

The Netherlands legalised gay marriage on April 1, 2001. Since then,
nearly 15,000 couples have married.[/quote]

As we’ve seen in our own country, support for gay rights has increased
over time, but it is often a case of two steps forward, one step back.
Support increased through 2001, then the resurgence from the religious
right sabotaged that support through 2004. Since then, support has
increased steadily.

Currently, the Netherlands seems to have taken a step back. There have
been increasing reports of hate crimes against gays (as well as rising
anti-semitism and Islamophobia) among Moroccan-Dutch youth, for
example.

http://religionresearch.org/martijn/2010/07/02/anti-semitism-homophobia-and-islamophobia-in-the-netherlands/

Over time, I’m confident that fairness and equality will win out. It
just takes time, as it has taken time to overcome racial prejudice and
misogyny in our country.

[quote]forlife wrote:

I’ve consistently held that sexual orientation is probably a hybrid of
genetic, in utero, and environmental influences, which is why sexual
orientation is not reversible.[/quote]

And yet a full 33% of men who have tried reparative therapy have in fact succeeded! What do you say to those former homosexuals who are now happily married (to women) and have children? Do you tell them that it didn’t work?

LOL…it didn’t work for you but that doesn’t mean it can’t work for someone else. Let’s be fair and say it is difficult to reverse. But since it has happened many times it is in fact reversible.

[quote]forlife wrote:

I’ve made this point as well. Men have a higher sex drive, so it’s hardly surprising that they desire to engage in sex more frequently than women. Which is why the negative health statistics on gays are almost always limited to gay men. It’s not about sexual orientation, it’s about testosterone.
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It’s also about taking responsibility for ones actions. Someone can have a high sex drive and act on it but use caution to prevent the spread of disease. Gay men, on whole, have proven themselves to be uncaring of their partner(s). And the CDC statistics that I’ve posted many times bears this out as they lead the way in virtually every form of STD’s. And because of the poor choices that they make lead the way in depression, anxiety and sadly suicide.

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

[quote]ZEB wrote:

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

[quote]ZEB wrote:

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

It is probably also worth pointing out that if you had no hope of ever getting married wouldn’t you be banging a bunch of different folks to?[/quote]

You are practicing politically correct twisted logic. You’re saying if there was gay marriage then homosexual men would not be promiscuous. And the fact is they are promiscuous because that’s what they want to do based on their own desires independent of marriage. Please don’t tell me you think the average gay 25 year old man is saying “welp I can’t get married in my state so I think I’ll hang out at the bus stop and see if I can pick up some guys.” They can still form long lasting monogamous relationship with ONE other person. And this is something that most gay men seem unable to do. I’ve already posted the stats on it.

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I am saying it is quite possible it would go down.[/quote]

It didn’t go down in the Netherlands where gay marriage has been around for 10 years.

[/quote]

I didn’t read all of the studies you posted, but was there one that looked at promiscuity rates prior to legalization and then afterwards?

A major question for me regarding this thread is why does promiscuity rates matter at all for allowing gay marriage? If promiscuity rates hit a certain point for heterosexual marriage are we going to ban that too? If not, why? Is the thought that gay marriage being legal will make more people choose to be gay and thus increase promiscuity even further in our society (and thus destroy us from the inside out)?[/quote]

The promiscuity rates demonstrate that most homosexual men make a mockery of monogamy. I’ve posted statistics which clearly show that even in relationships which are supposed to be exclusive most gay men still have multiple partners outside of that arrangement. So we reward this mockery with the right to marry?

[quote]forlife wrote:

Over time, I’m confident that fairness and equality will win out. It
just takes time, as it has taken time to overcome racial prejudice and
misogyny in our country.
[/quote]

You’ve most likely angered many African American members of this site with your off the cuff comparison of civil rights for blacks with homosexual marriage. There is NO comparison. I’ve schooled you on this before, but I’m happy to do it again. I’ll give you the shortened version.

  1. Black is genetic homosexuality has never been proven to be genetic.

  2. Blacks suffered the horrific fate of being owned as slaves, homosexuals have not.

  3. A homosexual can either choose to disclose that he or she is in fact a homosexual. A black person does not have that option.

A final point, many black leaders have taken great offense with the comparison of the two. In fact so much so that the NAACP has asked some powerful gay organizations to stop doing it!

Now if you would be kind enough to drink in these facts and change your banter you would be more accurate in your posts. But of course you will not because you are forlife. You are a homosexual who has an agenda and you will say anything and kick the truth to the curb to convince even one person of your ultimate correctness.

And that is why you are not to be trusted!

[quote]forlife wrote:

I’ve consistently held that sexual orientation is probably a hybrid of
genetic, in utero, and environmental influences, which is why sexual
orientation is not reversible.[/quote]

Fantastic work! You’ve “conclusively” narrowed the factors to biology and/or the environment from sometime before the homosexual’s birth to any time up to their death.
Good to know that the laws of physics that determine when the universe will collapse into a singularity in the future aren’t also determining peoples’ sexual behavior right now. Doc Brown, Dr. Who, and Sherman and Peabody can relax now.

Despite yours and others best assertions, sexual orientation is malleable. Anyone who says otherwise isn’t using 100% of their brain, especially people who speaks in absolutes. Early orientation studies suggested that people’s orientation fluctuates. There is certainly an abundance of anecdotal evidence (LTIG, gay-for-pay, hasbians…) that would suggest that environmental factors/stimuli can determine orientation. Even in the strongest ‘genetic component’ twin studies, sexual experiences is still typically cited as a factor. Further, far more habitual and stronger psychological affinities can be created or erased using proper conditioning and protocols. If a five yr. old who has used their left hand since seven mo. of age can be beaten into using their right hand, certainly their sexual behavior can be altered. If a 20 yr. smoker/heroin/methamphetamine addict can give up their addiction… If a car accident victim can learn to type with their feet… If we can use loud noises to make Little Albert fear rabbits… If people with schizophrenia or OCD can be treated effectively…

I’m not saying we should cut off people’s genitals or show them pornography under electroshock, merely demonstrating that the notion of ‘fixed and unalterable sexual orientation’ (sexual destiny?) is clearly flawed. IMO, its about as fixed as smoking or handedness. Much like the CDC’s failed attempt to curtail homosexuality AND HIV, they myriad of anti-smoking institutions seem to have found their point of diminishing returns too. I certainly wouldn’t say that those people CAN’T be cured of smoking, rather efforts to convert them to non-smokers would infringe on theirs and others personal liberties and maybe even their rights.

[quote]You’re incorrect that “similar methods show strong environmental (and
weak genetic) component to homosexuality.” In fact, twin studies have
been conducted specifically on sexual orientation, and have identified
a strong genetic component.[/quote]

I congratulate you on your ability to cherry-pick and misrepresent data;

1.) Your studies suffer some pretty significant biases in that they are small, look strictly at MSM-oriented sexuality (i.e. no women and/or only concordance of HOMOsexuality with genetics), outdated, presumably represent a more homophobic environment than we see today, and are decidedly pro-American (not to mention you cherry-picked only the ones that support your conclusion). Even in the era you cite, there are/were a considerable number of twin studies that found a negligible genetic component. Larger, more modern studies suggest a smaller genetic component (30% or less) and a genetic component secondary to individual environmental factors.

2.) Repeated molecular genetic studies have continued to come up empty for any/all ‘gay genes’. Genetics may predispose you to homosexuality, but there is little evidence that homosexuality is heritable.

3.) Surveying the literature at large, birth order is THE SINGLE LARGEST epidemiological factor in determining a predisposition to sexual orientation. Unless you’ve got a twin study linking genetics to birth order, the evidence in support of a predominantly genetically driven sexual orientation is pretty weak.

4.) All of the above three are distinctly different from known genetically associated mental disorders and race. Twin studies of OCD show numbers like a 68-85% genetic component and birth order studies of mental health generally give mixed results (e.g. more depression but generally higher self esteem for 1st-born). People obviously don’t even bother to do twin studies or birth rank studies on race.

I’m baffled by your adherence to/belief in this dogma. Genetic and physically characterized mental defects can be treated medicinally (OCD, schizophrenia) and is done acceptably while predominantly social behavior (excessive homosexuality, excessive religious zeal) not so much. Why do you claim homosexuality is absolutely, positively NOT a reversible psychological defect and then associate it with treatable psychological defects when the data strongly suggests that it is different?

[quote]ZEB wrote:

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

[quote]ZEB wrote:

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

[quote]ZEB wrote:

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

It is probably also worth pointing out that if you had no hope of ever getting married wouldn’t you be banging a bunch of different folks to?[/quote]

You are practicing politically correct twisted logic. You’re saying if there was gay marriage then homosexual men would not be promiscuous. And the fact is they are promiscuous because that’s what they want to do based on their own desires independent of marriage. Please don’t tell me you think the average gay 25 year old man is saying “welp I can’t get married in my state so I think I’ll hang out at the bus stop and see if I can pick up some guys.” They can still form long lasting monogamous relationship with ONE other person. And this is something that most gay men seem unable to do. I’ve already posted the stats on it.

[/quote]

I am saying it is quite possible it would go down.[/quote]

It didn’t go down in the Netherlands where gay marriage has been around for 10 years.

[/quote]

I didn’t read all of the studies you posted, but was there one that looked at promiscuity rates prior to legalization and then afterwards?

A major question for me regarding this thread is why does promiscuity rates matter at all for allowing gay marriage? If promiscuity rates hit a certain point for heterosexual marriage are we going to ban that too? If not, why? Is the thought that gay marriage being legal will make more people choose to be gay and thus increase promiscuity even further in our society (and thus destroy us from the inside out)?[/quote]

The promiscuity rates demonstrate that most homosexual men make a mockery of monogamy. I’ve posted statistics which clearly show that even in relationships which are supposed to be exclusive most gay men still have multiple partners outside of that arrangement. So we reward this mockery with the right to marry?

[/quote]

I get what you are saying here, but as the studies I link to have shown heterosexuals are doing a pretty good job of making a mockery of marriage as well. If, on average, 10-15% of all children are the result of adultery (indicating far more adulterous events) in heterosexual relationships and the divorce rate amongst heterosexuals is basically 1:1 now surely statistical “mocking” of monogamy can’t be a good criteria to use in this debate. Those studies I mentioned were performed in the 1950’s as well a time when divorce rates and publicized homosexuality were basically non-existant compared to today’s standard so you can only imagine what that. Throw in the fact women weren’t out in the work place or out of the home as frequently as they are now and you can only imagine what we are actually looking at today in terms of promiscuity (self-reporting studies don’t do much for me in terms of actually gauging promiscuity levels).

Obviously you have other reasons for objecting to gay marriage besides this, but this is not a good one. Yes gays may be more promiscuous, but this is a matter of degrees from us heterosexuals, not a difference in kind.

[quote]ZEB wrote:
You’ve most likely angered many African American members of this site with your off the cuff comparison of civil rights for blacks with homosexual marriage. There is NO comparison. I’ve schooled you on this before, but I’m happy to do it again. I’ll give you the shortened version.

  1. Black is genetic homosexuality has never been proven to be genetic.
    [/quote]

Lot’s of things have yet to be “proven” to be genetic, if by that you mean the exact ‘gay gene’ has not been isolated. This doesn’t mean it is not rational to assume there is a genetic component. The fact that homosexuality manifests itself in pretty much every mammalian species on the planet would lead one to logically conclude there is at least some genetic component for homosexuality in humans since we too are mammals. This is of course predicated on accepting evolution as the explanation for how man came into his current state which.

Sure homosexuals have never been owned as slaves in a systematic way, but they have been persecuted by the Nazis and murdered for their sexuality by various groups and governments for what they are. They have also routinely been denied jobs, been forbidden to serve in the armed forces, classified as insane and locked up for their sexuality. Certainly not slavery, but still some pretty heinous things.

And if they did? Not sure how this is a good defense at all. If people of Irish descent were banned from marrying other Irish people, would this be justified simply because they COULD claim they were Polish by virtue of similar skin color? Of course it doesn’t. Just because someone has the option of lying about who they are doesn’t give anyone the right to persecute them for what they really are.

I am sure you can agree with me here, just because the NAACP does not like having gay civil rights compared to their own civil rights doesn’t make the two substantively different from one another in actuality. The fact of the matter is that someone is being discriminated against at an institutional level for who they are.

[quote]lucasa wrote:

[quote]forlife wrote:

I’ve consistently held that sexual orientation is probably a hybrid of
genetic, in utero, and environmental influences, which is why sexual
orientation is not reversible.[/quote]

Fantastic work! You’ve “conclusively” narrowed the factors to biology and/or the environment from sometime before the homosexual’s birth to any time up to their death.
Good to know that the laws of physics that determine when the universe will collapse into a singularity in the future aren’t also determining peoples’ sexual behavior right now. Doc Brown, Dr. Who, and Sherman and Peabody can relax now.

Despite yours and others best assertions, sexual orientation is malleable. Anyone who says otherwise isn’t using 100% of their brain, especially people who speaks in absolutes. Early orientation studies suggested that people’s orientation fluctuates. There is certainly an abundance of anecdotal evidence (LTIG, gay-for-pay, hasbians…) that would suggest that environmental factors/stimuli can determine orientation. Even in the strongest ‘genetic component’ twin studies, sexual experiences is still typically cited as a factor. Further, far more habitual and stronger psychological affinities can be created or erased using proper conditioning and protocols. If a five yr. old who has used their left hand since seven mo. of age can be beaten into using their right hand, certainly their sexual behavior can be altered. If a 20 yr. smoker/heroin/methamphetamine addict can give up their addiction… If a car accident victim can learn to type with their feet… If we can use loud noises to make Little Albert fear rabbits… If people with schizophrenia or OCD can be treated effectively…

I’m not saying we should cut off people’s genitals or show them pornography under electroshock, merely demonstrating that the notion of ‘fixed and unalterable sexual orientation’ (sexual destiny?) is clearly flawed. IMO, its about as fixed as smoking or handedness. Much like the CDC’s failed attempt to curtail homosexuality AND HIV, they myriad of anti-smoking institutions seem to have found their point of diminishing returns too. I certainly wouldn’t say that those people CAN’T be cured of smoking, rather efforts to convert them to non-smokers would infringe on theirs and others personal liberties and maybe even their rights.

[quote]You’re incorrect that “similar methods show strong environmental (and
weak genetic) component to homosexuality.” In fact, twin studies have
been conducted specifically on sexual orientation, and have identified
a strong genetic component.[/quote]

I congratulate you on your ability to cherry-pick and misrepresent data;

1.) Your studies suffer some pretty significant biases in that they are small, look strictly at MSM-oriented sexuality (i.e. no women and/or only concordance of HOMOsexuality with genetics), outdated, presumably represent a more homophobic environment than we see today, and are decidedly pro-American (not to mention you cherry-picked only the ones that support your conclusion). Even in the era you cite, there are/were a considerable number of twin studies that found a negligible genetic component. Larger, more modern studies suggest a smaller genetic component (30% or less) and a genetic component secondary to individual environmental factors.

2.) Repeated molecular genetic studies have continued to come up empty for any/all ‘gay genes’. Genetics may predispose you to homosexuality, but there is little evidence that homosexuality is heritable.

3.) Surveying the literature at large, birth order is THE SINGLE LARGEST epidemiological factor in determining a predisposition to sexual orientation. Unless you’ve got a twin study linking genetics to birth order, the evidence in support of a predominantly genetically driven sexual orientation is pretty weak.

4.) All of the above three are distinctly different from known genetically associated mental disorders and race. Twin studies of OCD show numbers like a 68-85% genetic component and birth order studies of mental health generally give mixed results (e.g. more depression but generally higher self esteem for 1st-born). People obviously don’t even bother to do twin studies or birth rank studies on race.

I’m baffled by your adherence to/belief in this dogma. Genetic and physically characterized mental defects can be treated medicinally (OCD, schizophrenia) and is done acceptably while predominantly social behavior (excessive homosexuality, excessive religious zeal) not so much. Why do you claim homosexuality is absolutely, positively NOT a reversible psychological defect and then associate it with treatable psychological defects when the data strongly suggests that it is different?
[/quote]

I do so because, despite your amateur armchair analysis, the health organizations have actually designed, conducted, and drawn conclusions from 35 years of research on homosexuality. And those organizations unanimously and unequivocally say YOU ARE WRONG.

Either every single one of these organizations is dishonest, politically corrupt, and not truly committed to public health…or your “information” about gays is wrong. I’m placing my bet on the American Academy of Pediatrics, the American Medical Association, and every other major health organization.

Several leading medical and mental health organizations developed and
endorsed “Just the Facts About Sexual Orientation & Youth: A Primer
for Principals, Educators and School Personnel” in 1999. According to
that document:

[quote]The most important fact about ‘reparative therapy,’ also
sometimes known as ‘conversion’ therapy, is that it is based on an
understanding of homosexuality that has been rejected by all the major
health and mental health professions. The American Academy of
Pediatrics, the American Counseling Association, the American
Psychiatric Association, the American Psychological Association, the
National Association of School Psychologists, and the National
Association of Social Workers, together representing more than 477,000
health and mental health professionals, [b]have all taken the position
that homosexuality is not a mental disorder and thus there is no
need for a ‘cure.’…

No data demonstrate that reparative or conversion therapies are
effective, and in fact they may be harmful[/b][/quote]

The American Academy of Pediatrics in its policy statement on
Homosexuality and Adolescence states:

[quote]Therapy directed specifically at changing sexual orientation is
contraindicated, since it can provoke guilt and anxiety while
having little or no potential for achieving changes in
orientation.
[/quote]

According to the American Medical Association:

[quote]Most of the emotional disturbance experienced by gay men and
lesbians around their sexual identity is not based on physiological
causes but rather is due more to a sense of alienation in an
un-accepting environment. For this reason, aversion therapy is no
longer recommended for gay men and lesbians.
[/quote]

American Psychological Association:

[quote]Is Sexual Orientation a Choice?
No, human beings cannot choose to be either gay or straight. Sexual
orientation emerges for most people in early adolescence without any
prior sexual experience. Although we can choose whether to act on our
feelings, psychologists do not consider sexual orientation to be a
conscious choice that can be voluntarily changed.

Can Therapy Change Sexual Orientation?
No. Even though most homosexuals live successful, happy lives, some
homosexual or bisexual people may seek to change their sexual
orientation through therapy, sometimes pressured by the influence of
family members or religious groups to try and do so. The reality is
that homosexuality is not an illness. It does not require treatment
and is not changeable. [/quote]

National Association of Social Workers:

[quote]Social stigmatization of lesbian, gay, and bisexual people is
widespread and is a primary motivating factor in leading some people
to seek sexual orientation changes. Sexual orientation conversion
therapies assume that homosexual orientation is both pathological and
freely chosen.

The increase in media campaigns, often coupled with coercive messages
from family and community members, has created an environment in which
[b]lesbians and gay men often are pressured to seek reparative or
conversion therapies, which cannot and will not change sexual
orientation.

No data demonstrate that reparative or conversion therapies are
effective, and in fact they may be harmful.[/b] [/quote]

From the Wikipedia on reparative therapy:

[quote]In 2001, Dr. Ariel Shidlo and Dr. Michael Schroeder found that
88% of participants in reparative therapy failed to achieve a
sustained change in their sexual behavior and 3% reported changing
their orientation to heterosexual. The remainder reported either
losing all sexual drive or struggling to remain celibate. Schroeder
said many of the participants who failed felt a sense of shame. Many
had gone through reparative therapy programs over the course of many
years. Of the 8 respondents (out of a sample of 202) who reported a
change in sexual orientation, 7 were employed in paid or unpaid roles
as ‘ex-gay’ counsellors or group leaders, something which has led many
to question whether even this small ‘success’ rate is in fact
reliable.

Schroeder and Shidlo found that the large majority of respondents
reported being left in a poor mental and emotional state after the
therapy, and that rates of depression, anxiety, alcohol and drug abuse
and suicidal feelings were roughly doubled in those who underwent
reparative therapy.[/quote]

In 1998-MAR, the Governing Council of the American Counseling
Association (ACA) approved a motion that the association:

[quote]…opposes portrayals of lesbian, gay, and bisexual youth and
adults as mentally ill due to their sexual orientation; and supports
the dissemination of accurate information about sexual orientation,
mental health, and appropriate interventions in order to counteract
bias that is based in ignorance or unfounded beliefs about same-gender
orientation.[/quote]

The Surgeon General’s Call to Action to Promote Sexual Health and
Responsible Sexual Behavior (2001) asserts that homosexuality is
not “a reversible lifestyle choice.”

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

[quote]ZEB wrote:

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

[quote]ZEB wrote:

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

[quote]ZEB wrote:

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

It is probably also worth pointing out that if you had no hope of ever getting married wouldn’t you be banging a bunch of different folks to?[/quote]

You are practicing politically correct twisted logic. You’re saying if there was gay marriage then homosexual men would not be promiscuous. And the fact is they are promiscuous because that’s what they want to do based on their own desires independent of marriage. Please don’t tell me you think the average gay 25 year old man is saying “welp I can’t get married in my state so I think I’ll hang out at the bus stop and see if I can pick up some guys.” They can still form long lasting monogamous relationship with ONE other person. And this is something that most gay men seem unable to do. I’ve already posted the stats on it.

[/quote]

I am saying it is quite possible it would go down.[/quote]

It didn’t go down in the Netherlands where gay marriage has been around for 10 years.

[/quote]

I didn’t read all of the studies you posted, but was there one that looked at promiscuity rates prior to legalization and then afterwards?

A major question for me regarding this thread is why does promiscuity rates matter at all for allowing gay marriage? If promiscuity rates hit a certain point for heterosexual marriage are we going to ban that too? If not, why? Is the thought that gay marriage being legal will make more people choose to be gay and thus increase promiscuity even further in our society (and thus destroy us from the inside out)?[/quote]

The promiscuity rates demonstrate that most homosexual men make a mockery of monogamy. I’ve posted statistics which clearly show that even in relationships which are supposed to be exclusive most gay men still have multiple partners outside of that arrangement. So we reward this mockery with the right to marry?

[/quote]

I get what you are saying here, but as the studies I link to have shown heterosexuals are doing a pretty good job of making a mockery of marriage as well.[/quote]

No, actually they’re not. The 50% divorce rate that is often touted is an inaccurate way to look at the total picture and here’s why. Statistics have shown that 70% of all divorce comes from about 30% of the married population that has been married more than once. In other words, in the case of heterosexual marriage it is the minority, call them multiple divorcee’s who are skewing the numbers.

I have every reason to be against homosexual marriage. And in fact there is not one good reason to allow it. Not from a populace, a political or a religious position. And certainly not from a position of thinking that it somehow improves society. How many successful (politically or economically) societies of the past allowed two homosexual to marry? Right!

They are monumentally more promiscuous. I think forlife said it best (and remember this because he rarely speaks the truth). Men are naturally more promiscuous than women and when you have two men there is no one to say NO. On top of that of course they show a total disregard for their partners health and well being that too is an issue.

No, there really is no comparison between homosexual relationships and heterosexual marriage-- NONE!