It’s like how tik tok makes you think there’s a disproportionate number of people who are idiots, lol
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The women are every bit as generic but also delusional to boot
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Oh, I don’t doubt that for a minute.
Generic is the perfect way to describe the people on there.
Most profiles are very similar and reuse the same jokes.
IE - folding a fitted sheet, pineapple on pizza.
I’m sure women have their versions of those.
That’s the hardest part for me. I could deal with the pervy maybe if someone was at least original, lol.
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Oh no, it’s the correct proportion.
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Sarcasm
Sassy
Dog mom
Family is extremely important
Good vibes only
Kid(s) are my wooooorld
My IG is…
Super busy
Cringe overload.
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I HATE THE POSITIVE VIBES ONLY PEOPLE!!!
“No bad days”
Excuse me? People have bad days. People have bad years! In relationships, you need to work through them, not deny their existence.
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Lmao, you know, you’re alright.
Right… just uninspired generic trash.
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People are just too afraid to be themselves, sometimes with good reason. The thing is, the real person will come out at some point so if it’s a long term relationship you are looking for, it’s just better to be yourself from the start. I know people want to be on their best behavior but it’s a date, you’re not on trial. It’s also not a job interview and I hate when someone asks a million questions rather than just have a conversation. How was your day is a better question than what do you do. It’s also a good skill to be able to tell when someone is being fake.
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Some people should. Like me.
For example:
I like to change words in songs without interupting their flow. So I come up with stuff like “If you change the words [stop the rock] to [scoop da poop] in the song Stop The Rock, it really doesn’t change the song at all.” These aren’t things anybody really need to hear on a regular basis.
Or if I actually verbalized every time I thought "Hey! How bout them (titties, ass, mouth). She would think she was in a relationship with a perverted african grey parrot.
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I’m another. I met my husband online almost 10 years ago. The entire thing played out on TNation. @orion called him a beta cuck, @SkyzykS thought he sounded solid, with others agreeing with them both.
I generally didn’t even kiss on first meetings or dates or whatever. I have and had no problem losing the men this made feel grouchy or upset. I happily paid for my own food and drinks so other people’s wants weren’t my problem. That’s not to say I think kissing or sex are wrong on a first date - I don’t. It’s just not for me.
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YES!!!
Everyone is SOo fake!!
And bios seem to be comprised of mostly bragging about the perfection of one’s life.
I can’t even stand to read this shit anymore.
-Homeowner with my shit together
-Great job that i love
-travelled to 16 countries. Where should i go next?
-Good vibes only
Then images of nothing but material possessions and a Thailand vacation.
I don’t care about what people own.
NPC theory
All these people are non playable characters who say the same thing and don’t have any substance.
I’d like to find a real person, thx.
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Although I wouldn’t necessarily put the first so bluntly, I appreciate knowing these things, as there is nothing appealing to me about men who are looking for someone to support them or who are chronically dissatisfied.
I’m looking (hypothetically) for someone who has the capacity for happiness WITHOUT me. I want to enhance an already good life and bank balance, not provide them.
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This was one of the biggest turnoffs I encountered in online dating, perpetual globetrotting.
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Online dating won’t work for me
most women want excitement, financial stability, travel the world, go out everynight, fitness freak, have a boat, go nature hiking every weekend
what i have to offer…financial stability, dining out every now and then, plays golf, inshape, relaxes at home, christian…i.e. very boring kinda guy…no woman wants that in a man, 
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Haven’t you had enough excitement with guys who fall outside of this general description?
I get that it’s irritating to you, but compared to what?
Maybe you should get off of dating sites and join a prepper community. It is there you will find your dream hermit who rarely travels, maintains an appropriately pessimistic outlook on life and has the kind of food and ammunition stockpiles that can help relieve your anxiety about the future.
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I think people meeting through a mutual interest is a great approach. It seems more organic to me than online dating. There is suspense that isn’t present in online dating (where the assumption is the other person wants to go on a date, or is open to some sort of relationship).
Guys do not always do a great job with their bios though. I think @Spock81 is right on that. I think a guy’s bio should be a snapshot of what type of lifestyle they have. I think with dating, a guy is selling a lifestyle as part of their offer in a relationship (this is less true I think for women). There is a reason guys put their housing status and job (because it reflects a lifestyle, which appeals to many women). I think they should have a bit more of their interests though. Maybe they like going to concerts, doing certain sports, building things… Some of these things will be appealing to a niche, but I think that is a good thing.
@Spock81 one thing I’ll leave you with is that men almost always do the offering when it comes to dates / relationships. Women generally evaluate the offer and accept or reject. If you aren’t liking the current offerings, maybe consider flipping the script, or making it easy for the man you desire to make the offer. I think a lot of women could get what they want if they had the courage to go after it (and no, giving a side look to a guy then glancing away isn’t enough for most guys). Go after it if he is someone you like. Yes, rejection is scary, but if you get over that I think you will have a different outlook on dating (the same is true for most men). I say this as a guy who wouldn’t be with my wife if she didn’t make the first move. She didn’t ask me out, but she made it clear that the answer would be yes if I asked (basically just made it easy for the guy she fancied).
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I should be clear, it’s not the actual home owning or stable job I have issues with, it’s how it’s presented almost defensively in a bio and how that is the only thing technically listed that’s “about them”.
I care a lot more about someone’s values than their possessions or their travels.
Talking about your successes and nothing else gives me no indication of our compatibility.
Ok, great, you enjoy working.
Do you value a healthy lifestyle?
Do you value monogamy? Loyality?
Family?
What are you looking for in a partner and what are your passions?
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It probably is subconsciously defensive. I don’t have experience with online dating, but I do have male friends that have varied experiences with online dating. A few of them are frustrated because the women they have interacted with have checklists of qualifications (some of which they don’t meet). They put the qualifications they meet in the bio so that women can see that they meet at least a few things they likely have on their checklists.
If things that matter a lot to other women matter less to you, use that to your advantage. Some guys with great values are being passed up because they don’t make 6 figures, or are under 6’ tall for example. There are a lot more men that have a lack of dates because they don’t meet the qualifications that most women have than ones who do. You have a large pool of candidates that have what you want.
This reminds me of this clip from “The Big Short”. He describes how he met his wife online because his profile was different than everyone else. “I met my wife on Match.com. My profile said that I am a medical student with one eye, an awkward social manner, and 145K in student loans. and she wrote back, you’re just what just what I’ve been looking for. she meant honest”.
I think you can be successful with finding a relationship if you value things like character over things that are more typically valued by women. Just look for the profiles that have those things. It takes time, but if you want it, you can do it.
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If I ever got divorced, I would be done and never re-enter the dating pool.
I would just enjoy my children and money.
I am so glad I got out of that shitshow toilet bowel before the “modern” era of dating.
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