I applaud you for doing this. Much better than him getting something from a friend that you aren’t aware of in control of. and you built some trust which means hopefully he will turn to you when he has a question or needs help. Very responsible parenting.
Only potential problem with this, is when he takes on to school gets caught with it and tells the teacher that ‘my dad bought them for me’ !! LOL
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As a father when I read @EyeDentist post I was a bit confused. I honestly didn’t know how I felt about it. Now, seeing your post it’s kinda opened my eyes. The things you pointed out definitely seem like positives that would be helpful in the future.
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I am certainly not suggesting we all go out and show our children porn. But lets face it, they are going to see it and can get access to it on the internet very easily anyway. Heck my son is 8 and talked about pornhub the other day, because one of the kids at school told him about it. My wife and I just explained to him what it was and that is was for adults. He accepted that and we moved onto talking about more appropriate things at the dinner table. I think having a relationship with your children that allow them to be open and talk to you about things is so important.
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I definitely wish my parents were more open about these matters. They had a “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy and my little bro and I have basically been left to figure stuff out for ourselves. I also don’t feel safe talking to my parents about this stuff, which is kind of disconcerting considering that the probability of something happening is not insignificant
One more potential problem–his mom. I told him to hide the magazines under his mattress so she wouldn’t find them.
I then immediately told her about them and where they were hidden, so she could be sure to never accidently find them.
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Some of the most promiscuous girls at my college were the ones who had essentially been locked away until they arrived there, same thing for the party boys who hadn’t been allowed to even discuss alcohol. I don’t think there’s a point in mentioning the promiscuity of boys at college, because most guys’ level of promiscuity was simply determined by how many women they could manage to sleep with.
But yes - having healthy conversations and being truthful and open (within reason) with regards to taboo things like sex, drugs, and alcohol, seems to be the healthiest way to address your kids. Thankfully, I’m a couple years away from those discussions with mine. Phew!
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Yeah. “The Talk” is yet another subject where the landscape has changed, and the things I learned and did do not necessarily apply.
And a few years from now it’s going to be different from how it is now.
Ugh. Thats what I get for having a kid at 40-41.
2031: “Son, your mother and I got you a hotel room for the night, along with a lovely lady named Diamond! Your safe word is ‘Tallahassee.’ Happy 13th birthday!”
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That has to be better than the local catholic school girls basket ball team smuggling you into the bathroom and… pretty much everything.
Or maybe not. 
when I was in HS, it was the Mormon chicks that were the wild ones -
good times
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I dislike podcasts.
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I don’t know who coined the term “super food” (probably some marketing management human). I don’t know what’s supposed to be super about these foods but I get a good laugh out of people buying into it tbh.
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I think I got run out of book club last night.
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Understandable, someone has one too many wines and they won’t accept what they thought was an addiction metaphor was actually a coming of age metaphor and won’t let it go. Then things get heated… We’ve all been there.
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I am curious as to why?
Too inefficient as a means to transport information.
Too boring as a means of entertainment for me.
I see a podcast with interesting guests and a topic that excited me only to realize that I’m basically listen to banter that I could observe in any bar, sprinkled with some interesting bits about what I came here for evey now and then. I feel like most things of relevance that are discussed in a 60 minute podcast fit into a 3 page word document.
I tried listening to an Adam Meakins podcast not long ago for example and it was horrible, although the guests and topic were super interesting in theory.
Also: EVERYONE and their mother has one.
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I agree it’s very difficult to find good ones. Their are only a few I actually listen too. I actually despise the most popular ones like JRE and “Armchair Expert”
I think the best ones keep their episodes to around 30 minutes.
However, I like long form content (at least while I am driving).
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Fully concur. I’ve taken to listening to them while I mow the lawn, just because I don’t have anything better to do, but there’s so much wasted space on these, to say nothing of all the product plugs and adverts.
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I listen religiously to podcasts and have learned a lot over the years. HOWEVER, I also have an inordinant amount of free time
I prefer it to music on walks.
The banter can be annoying sometimes, but other times, I get ideas/ new perspectives or anecdotes that apply to my classes from the banter. There’s one podcast I listen to where the hosts sprinkle in history, literature and sociology into the banter. Really cool.
Product placements are horrid though.
You just going to leave it hanging like that?
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