I just did an arm day, I’m a bodybuilder now.
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heretobodybuild
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Your hereto puns are both funnier and more creative than my username lol
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You can hold up your end but you can’t hold up both ends.
Ive had some friendsips from childhood just kind of fizzle out, and some in adulthood that needed to end for various reasons, but really only one that has endured since about 10th-11th grade- My one buddy I cut trees with. We started that a few years after high school, and continued for about 13 years. I got sober and jumped into other stuff, and he continued with business and whatnot. We’d bump into eachother here and there but then part ways again, but not with any animosity, just drawn in different directions.
Now, many years later, with me all busted up and him all busted up, we hang out, goof off, fix the equipment and find new stuff to laugh about and have a good time with.
Life can take people in different directions. I dont think that really ends friendships. It just postpones them. But it does give you a lot to catch up on when (if) you do get the chance to.
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Had a “Bayou Boil” for dinner at a local restaurant tonight. 2.5 lbs of crawfish and shrimp and an Andouille sausage with two ears of corn.
That’s heathy right?
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I confess I just learned a new usage of persevere.
I have (had) 3 friends from high school (over 4 decades ago LOL), call them A, B, and C. “C” no longer contacts me regularly because we have zero in common, plus I would be judgmental of his current lifestyle and life choices. I still talk to “B”, but he is 3 time zones away, so I only see him infrequently. “A” calls me at least once a week, because I’m the only person in the world who understands him from his very humble beginnings to his current societally (@EmilyQ pls check for correct usage) exalted status.
“A” no longer communicates with B or C. “C” calls “B” all the time.
I also have one friend from college who I briefly severed relations with, but then reconciled due to being older, wiser, and a teeny bit more mellow.
@Bagsy Times change, people change, I would say the person you’re talking about is no longer your “best” friend. That said, one never knows what the future holds, so IMHO there is no need to make what I would consider a dramatic, bridge burning statement by not showing up to the wedding. You could always be pleasantly surprised by having fun… My .02
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Often difficulty exists between determining who has been our friend for 20 years vs who was our friend 20 years ago.
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Thanks to those who read my bitterness lol. It sucks when hundreds of miles, a pandemic, and whatever else don’t affect a friendship whatsoever… until wedding planning comes along.
Your perspectives give me more to consider, which is probably for the better. I am very good at saying “no” to things.
Yeah, I believe in “showing up.” Though I am going on another trip around a week afterwards, which I have been waiting to take for nearly half my life, and I will be 110% devastated if one of my friend’s infects me. Selfish, but it is a reason why I am less enthusiastic about taking the risk.
I doubt she would stop being my friend if I didn’t go. It would definitely strain things, but I think she could get over it. She values our friendship enough to not throw it all away.
It’s only one type of friendship, for which I presume there are multiple subtypes. I do think that a lot of people feel obligated to maintain childhood friendships when they probably would be better off going separate ways, or at least losing touch a bit.
Quality over quantity or something like that, right?
I’m 110% introverted and greatly dislike most people. If someone asks me for advice on working through issues in a problematic relationship of any kind, I tell them I would leave that person 
For sure. I had another extremely close friend since eighth grade, and we seemingly randomly stopped speaking to each other altogether when I was in college. It makes sense because we grew out of each other.
I live far away from any friends I made in college or pre-college – though the only one in the latter category is said friend – so most of them are low-maintenance friendships. In a good way though. Distance doesn’t let me bump into them casually.
I genuinely thought my moving states more than once in the past few years would jeopardize my relationship with my best friend, but nah. I don’t think we would stop being friends, but I realize that she might become a less important friend to me. Probably not uncommon. I bet a lot of people read my spiel and think, “Oh, you’re an adult. That’s what happens to everyone.” I guess I should have internalized that more, as I knew for a while that her life experiences would differ from mine. Especially right now. I am at the age where it seems like half get married and all that jazz, and the other half “hang out.” Not that they’re entirely opposed to each other, and there’s probably some other camp, but whatever. I liked the idea of vicariously living through her, at least.
I sadly think you’re right.
Probably so. I think I’m mentally trying to attach a price to risking myself to show up for support and to meet her fiancé in person for the first time. But that’s all.
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I dunno. I didnt mean to imply naivete or anything. I dont actually know much about normal people.
I completely missed several waves of these changes due to “partying”. Like, one day things cleared up and half of my friends were married. Then a bunch sort of faded because we Weren’t partying. Then working like crazy to establish a profession, and every couple of years "Hey, did you hear about so and so? Yeah, he (od’d, ate a gun, car wreck,etc.). ". BUT a lot of people I hung out with skew in that direction.
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The things you encounter working in a hospital…
So yesterday I was entering a patient’s room (oncology) to do a regular treatment (physio), when a nurse interrupted me and asked to “come quickly with her” because apparently a patient of hers had some “bad back pain” and she wanted to ask me if I could do anything about it.
So we enter the room of said patient. There was a man in his bed, legs propped up pretty high on a bag and blankets, he had cold sweat all over his body, basically full body seizures/ tremors because of his pain and shallow breathing with full pauses.
I couldn’t help but think “what exactly do other health care professionals think physios do - magic?!”.
I asked if his vitals have been checked (because this could also be related to shock or a heart attack) and asked her to get the doctor immediately, while thinking “and the morphium”. The weirdest thing was when she got the doc (a young assistant doc, I think) that doc was standing by the bed and kind of still waiting for me to lead the situation (ffs?!) and tell her what to do, it seemed. The patient only pressed “help me” out at this point. She eventually got moving after I informed her about the situation and what might be happening though and in the end I was even able to help the patient resolve some of his pain before ultimately the heavy pain medication was given and took effect.
So confession: I was scared, yet very calm and am a little proud of myself.
Worst thing is, I am a physio student btw. 
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I find that I can’t keep friends when there’s distance.
I’m worried bc I finally have actual friends (my team and a sorority sister) and I don’t want to lose them after I graduate
I’ve also been distancing myself from my friend (that one). It’s a good decision for me in the short run, but it might bite me in the arse in a few years. He’s going to do some really cool stuff with market design on the theory side. I feel like I’ve given up a big opportunity
Holy crap!!
I’m friends with a bunch of CS ppl and every week one of them goes on a rant about various family members asking for computer help
I’m in a bind.
My recovery ability has increased significantly lately, so… I feel compelled to workout more… BUT… I need to be restricting exercise output…
Today, I really want to do farmer carries, but I also haven’t taken a day off this week and I used to take at least 1 day off a week
Do I take today off?
I have 2 friends. 2. One I haven’t talked to in 3 years, but I know if I called him today he’d drive here in a heartbeat and bury a body with me. I’d do the same for him. The other I talk to daily. Always have whether we lived 15 minutes or 15 hours apart. Known him 34 years. I feel like you should go to the wedding. Don’t let not going be the thing to ultimately end the relationship. If it does just fade away over time and distance, that’s understandable and kind of sad but don’t put a dagger in it.
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We grow by overcoming challenges.
Taking a day off sounds more challenging to you than not taking one.
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So my wife and I try to have two date nights a week. One where we go out, and one where we cook in at home. Tonight we planned to cook at home, and my wife was craving spaghetti.
Well, I’m full send on my weight loss atm. Down 47lbs in the last 6 months, and a big plate full of spaghetti does not sound friendly to a recovering fat ass like myself. So I had the bright idea to cook 2 dishes. One for my wife, and then a healthy spaghetti for me. I grabbed some weird healthy noodles, some turkey meatballs, scoured for the lowest cal spaghetti sauce recipe we could find, and went to work.
Front start to finish, the product didn’t look bad. Maybe not as good as my wife’s, but pretty decent.
I confess it tasted like absolute shit. Just wrong. The noodles were crap, weird texture that I just couldn’t get over. Meatballs were meh. Sauce was the only real saving grace. Just a bad tasting meal, definitely not trying that one again.
On the plus side, I am absolutely stuffed, having slammed a ton of meatballs and a decent amount of the weird fake noodles, and the whole meal still comes out under 600 calories. So nutrition wise, it was a win… but taste wise, bleh
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Man! We have a wierd noodle theme happening. See food porn thread for details. 
And sorry to hear about the blah food. That can be such a let down.
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Checking out now lol
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@doogie @T3hPwnisher @Emily It’s the “S.E.L.A.D” method and it works every.single.time. Results guaranteed or your money back! And it’s 100% Registered Dietitian approved!
S.E.L.A.D: Stop Eating Like an Asshole Diet (pronounced like “salad” to help reiterate it’s outstanding results and health benefits).
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Dan John had “Eat Like an Adult”, and I feel like this is the Yang to that Ying
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