Hi fellas:
So an old friend comes to ask me for help about training, nutrition, etc… I even joined the gym he’s in 'cause I liked the environment.
He’s been training for almost 5 years: 5 7’, 160 lbs… love handles, no definition at all, so you get the picture.
He wants to look like Vin Diesel, which I don’t consider impossible for anyone, but requires it’s due effort.
So I tell him “We’ll build a base on you, enough to look noticeable when you cut”. He accepted, but other day when we finished the workout I asked him if there was any suggestion, comment, etc… and he told me “I wanna get rid of those love handles and look defined” like telling me he didn’t want to put on mass and get straight to the cut. This implies he has no idea what he’s talking about.
The problem is evident, and many guys surely will know by reading the second sentence of this post.
Lack of effort; one day we were ramping up on leg curls, trying to making him understand the concept (which I think he hasn’t yet), and he got up from 50, then 70, then 90lbs… the next session I didn’t tell him anything and started with 40lbs.
Second situation:
I’ve been pushing him for one month, he started at 150. When he tipped 160 he freaked out thinking he was getting fat, then I told him “What can you expect if someone gets with you in the gym to make you actually train?” he didn’t understand and started to say that’s not normal.
Third situation:
We were training legs. And suddenly the guy starts telling me about vigorexia, which kinda pissed me off. I wondered why the fuck would a guy who is looking for help complains about my results with vigorexia. That’s not an attitude someone gets to the gym with.
Edit(bonus situation):
Was on the cellphone, then headed to do the leg curls while he was talking. Then he passes me this chick on the phone an we started talking. When my set began I purposedly told to the chick “let me hand you my friend, time to lift”, but he didn’t reply.
When I started to train, I didn’t have the idea to search my info on the web, but at least I had some idea of what I was doing. My eating was crap, and outside of the gym I fucked up, but I always had a hunger for challenging myself against the weights everytime I went to the gym. Then I researched on the web, learned a lot, logged and read the forums and learned a lot more, but it wasn’t something I had to be told to do, my ambition of having a greater physique made me go through everything I’ve gone through.
The guy lacks intensity in the gym, willingness to increase his bodybuilding knowledge, and apparently suffers from manorexia.
What would you do to turn this guy from a 160lb skinny-fat frame to a lean 170-180?