Hmmmm,
I would have to say face. Like many have alluded to already. One can always make alterations to their body through working out, but the face, well…there ain’t nothin you can do if she fell off the “ugly” tree…;o) HOwever, I agree with Magnus in that a solid mind can make someone VERY attractive. I met a girl awhile ago who on the outside was VERY attractive. Great body, nice face…had similiar interests, but she ALWAYS talked about herself which just turned my off BIG TIME. It seemed she always needed reassurance that she looked good which just isn’t cool with me. MOre annoying than anything. In any case…the full package would be nice, but that is pretty hard to find nowadays.
Well, since the eyes are considered part of the face, I’d have to go with face. But attitude is what does it for me.
Magnus: Point taken. However, the very best answer one can give usually transcends the question.
Face will go a long way and the body can always be
Why settle for less than the total package? My ex has a really pretty face but she’s put on weight and is now chubby. She hates herself and is so self-conscious to the point where it gave her an inferiority complex because I’m into working out and eating somewhat healthy. Recipe for disaster in a relationship. You have to be evenly matched on the superficial things, I hate to admit it.
So I guess my answer is really whatever it takes for that person to have a positive self image. If a girl thinks she’s unattractive, no matter how many times I tell her I like her the way she is, it’s a major turn off. But if a girl with a pretty face and a flabby body is happy with herself, I’m fine with that. People have different values. I just happen to prefer girls who workout, like most T men. Just my opinion, but how a person takes care of their body reflects what they’re made of inside. If she’s a butterface, but she works hard to stay in shape, I’d probably like her personality better, which would make her more attractive.
Who the hell wants to be with the high school beauty queen who was just naturally pretty, but after high school let herself go to shit because she has no work ethic? Been there, done that, and it aint cool. Talk about being stuck in the glory days of high school. Very sad.
chubby chaser!!
MD, if you’re watching me, then unfortunately that means that I’m not f…oh, wait. 
im a sucker for a pretty face. that is the first thing i see so thats what gets my initial attention. but its hard to judge a womans body til you’ve seen her naked. they’ve got so much shit to “enhance” their appearances without surgury its insane. id get with a girl with a knockout face and decent body, but not the other way around
when i said “decent” i meant “decent” not “flabby” just wanted to clarify
Scrub - that’s why you should go after an older woman. If they’re still hot in their 30s, chances are they’re going to keep taking care of themselves. Being hot at 18-22 isn’t terribly hard for a lot of girls, but it doesn’t always translate into good-looking older women. You have to remember that they’re only going to be young (18-early twenties) for so long and that you’ll be stuck with them for another 50 years (hopefully) after that.
Body. If her body isn’t in shape when you meet her it’s not likely to get that way. People stay fit either because they enjoy physical things or for their own reasons. They don’t get fit for you.
As far as faces go most average women are actually really pretty. Sometimes a hair cut, contacts instead of glasses, or some work on their teeth (most common detractor from the perfect face, I think) will really bring that out. She’s more likely to do those things than start working out.
How many, after spotting someone at a bar, in a grocery store, etc., can actually say, “wow, that person’s got a incredibly attractive mind…” - uh, probably NO ONE.
First thing I notice: face…then my eyes will look over body…and then after a conversation with the dude, I will either be STILL attracted or pat the guy on the shoulder with a “have a nice life” and walk away.
your hypotheses are critically flawed. Contrary to popular belief you can not “fix” a body. Some women will never ever have an ass. You can’t grow one with workouts.
If a women is born with the Naussitall conditon, it is terminal. Sorry.
Hence, when I see a nice body (see: ass) I’m interested.
So THAT’S what that pat on the shoulder meant…
;^)
You’re right, Patricia. Nobody, including me, will say to herself “what an incredibly attractive mind” after spotting someone in a grocery store.
I just thought it interesting that a man said he thinks a woman’s mind is what makes her attractive.
I haven’t seen too many posts like that on this forum.
Gosh, if this trend continues, maybe soon the boys will be talking about how a woman’s strength makes her attractive. We can only hope.
No, as Patricia has recently learned, strength apparently makes women “less feminine”.
I got a new one: a woman’s strength makes her attractive. Oh yeah, baby, how much can you deadlift?
Who wouldn’t agree that a woman with strength and good head on her shoulders is attractive. However, In my experiance alot of very attractive girls don’t have either and as scrub points out they usually have some sort of a complex. In fact overall I would agree with scrub that I’m definitely attracted to women who are comfortable with themselves in some way be it their mind, sense of humor, raw sexuality, any or all of the above. But to adress the ? at hand when I’m old and gray I wouldn’t mind staring into a pair of warm beatiful eyes every night while I watch the sun go down.
The face has got to be good… I don’t care how hot their body is… we can work on that. I will sometimes ride the bike if the helmet is cracked, but if I am buying the bike, I need a nice helmet to go with it.
I think its all relative to the situation and what you want out of them…ie. if its a one nighter then either would do, lets face it. But I think that I would go for a great face if it was only a small amount of weight she needed to lose. But then again the body?? it depends on how so so the head is…oh I don’t know!! these hyperthetical questions always get me…I think I have to take every situation as they come and weigh up all the options…face, body, personality, sexual compatibility etc etc. But it all doesn’t matter for me anymore since I just got engaged!! and she has it all I must say