Extreme Wedding Preparation?

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[quote]OBoile wrote:

[quote]Dr.Matt581 wrote:

[quote]OBoile wrote:

That is true. I work with a lot of physics PhDs in my field (finance) and everyone is on a first name basis at work (although their business cards will say “Dr”).[/quote]

And I bet that all those who are on a first name basis know each other pretty well and are friends/friendly with each other. It is that way just about everywhere. To my friends I am Matt, or some other nickname; but to my students, bosses, people I know in a professional capacity but am not friends with, and at formal events I am Dr. Whatever.
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No. At the office we’re all on a first name basis. No one goes by “Mr” or “Dr”. As I posted above (edited after you quoted it) my boss has a PhD, but I didn’t know he was a doctor for the first year and a half that I worked for him. He was just “Duncan”. I work with a lot of PhDs, but I don’t usually find out that they are unless I see their business card, or their name on a power point presentation or email.

If I were to call someone in our research department (probably a PhD) I wounldn’t bother to check if he was a doctor, and he wouldn’t expect me to care.

That being said, I know school isn’t the same. I got in a bit of trouble once when contacting a professor while at work to enquire about a course. Without thinking, I used his first name like I would with anyone in my industry and he wasn’t a fan.

Interestingly enough, I’m watching the movie “Contact” right now, and the main character is called “Doctor” several times. She is not an MD but has a PhD in something else.[/quote]

Yeah, probably astronomy or physics or both. And it’s perfectly okay for her to be called Dr. since she has a PhD. And I’m sure those are all formal situations. I love that movie.

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Wow… just wow…

Are people really having a go at Doc for using his title? LMAO!! Fucking hilarious.

Dr Matt, please stop justifying yourself to strangers on the interwebz.

And your fiancee can spend as much as she likes for her wedding. After all it’s her money and it’s her special day.

I don’t believe in love, and wedding and marriage, and all that shit, but people already predicting failure in your relationship only 'cos your fiancee and you plan to have a big motherfucking wedding, that’s low, guys. Fucking low.

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[quote]DarkNinjaa wrote:
Wow… just wow…

Are people really having a go at Doc for using his title? LMAO!! Fucking hilarious.

Dr Matt, please stop justifying yourself to strangers on the interwebz.

And your fiancee can spend as much as she likes for her wedding. After all it’s her money and it’s her special day.

I don’t believe in love, and wedding and marriage, and all that shit, but people already predicting failure in your relationship only 'cos your fiancee and you plan to have a big motherfucking wedding, that’s low, guys. Fucking low.[/quote]

Thanks DN. You know that is twice now that we have agreed on something. If we keep up this agreeing with each other and getting along stuff people might start to expect it :wink:

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[quote]DarkNinjaa wrote:
And your fiancee can spend as much as she likes for her wedding. After all it’s her money and it’s her special day.

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Is it though? As far I know, wedding costs are split. I’d certainly not pay any big sum for a wedding because I consider that it’s a waste of money. I’m quite pragmatic and I’d rather use the money to pay the mortage or save it for the kids.

The wedding thing is something that somehow terrifies me. There’s so much pressure on having it as a grandious day with tons of people. Only to think about it I get stressed considering how I am with people. I’d want my father, my mother and my brother, maybe one friend and that’s it.

Onto the doctor thing, I’ve mixed feelings…it all comes down to Doctor Indiana Jones versus Doctor Ross Geller.

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Firstly, that shit is ridiculous. Why cant they find a better method of application then through the GD nose.

Secondly, Dr. is kind of pretentious I think and overly broad. I mean a lawyer gets a juris doctor, so technically they could write Dr. in front of their name. Seems overboard, since the common association is with medicine.

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[quote]Edevus wrote:

[quote]DarkNinjaa wrote:
And your fiancee can spend as much as she likes for her wedding. After all it’s her money and it’s her special day.

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Is it though? As far I know, wedding costs are split. I’d certainly not pay any big sum for a wedding because I consider that it’s a waste of money. I’m quite pragmatic and I’d rather use the money to pay the mortage or save it for the kids.

The wedding thing is something that somehow terrifies me. There’s so much pressure on having it as a grandious day with tons of people. Only to think about it I get stressed considering how I am with people. I’d want my father, my mother and my brother, maybe one friend and that’s it.

Onto the doctor thing, I’ve mixed feelings…it all comes down to Doctor Indiana Jones versus Doctor Ross Geller.
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The social convention is that the bride’s family pays for the wedding, but that has kinda gone by the wayside in the last 30 years.
What kind of doctor was Dr. Doolittle?

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[quote]DarkNinjaa wrote:
Wow… just wow…

Are people really having a go at Doc for using his title? LMAO!! Fucking hilarious.

Dr Matt, please stop justifying yourself to strangers on the interwebz.

And your fiancee can spend as much as she likes for her wedding. After all it’s her money and it’s her special day.

I don’t believe in love, and wedding and marriage, and all that shit, but people already predicting failure in your relationship only 'cos your fiancee and you plan to have a big motherfucking wedding, that’s low, guys. Fucking low.[/quote]

You don’t believe in love? ok, im going to have to call ya out on this one. You never loved Anyone?

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[quote]Dr.Matt581 wrote:

[quote]DarkNinjaa wrote:
Wow… just wow…

Are people really having a go at Doc for using his title? LMAO!! Fucking hilarious.

Dr Matt, please stop justifying yourself to strangers on the interwebz.

And your fiancee can spend as much as she likes for her wedding. After all it’s her money and it’s her special day.

I don’t believe in love, and wedding and marriage, and all that shit, but people already predicting failure in your relationship only 'cos your fiancee and you plan to have a big motherfucking wedding, that’s low, guys. Fucking low.[/quote]

Thanks DN. You know that is twice now that we have agreed on something. If we keep up this agreeing with each other and getting along stuff people might start to expect it :wink:
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I agree that doc and his soon to be Mrs spending what they can afford on a over the top ceremony is no big deal. They can afford it and it seems to be an agreement they both are in on. But i’m willing to bet that is not the norm with most couples. Ive seen so many people spend half a years budget on a one day ceremony and neither party owned a home and still had payments on cars over 5 years old. Now that seems insane…at least to me.

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[quote]four60 wrote:

[quote]DarkNinjaa wrote:
Wow… just wow…

Are people really having a go at Doc for using his title? LMAO!! Fucking hilarious.

Dr Matt, please stop justifying yourself to strangers on the interwebz.

And your fiancee can spend as much as she likes for her wedding. After all it’s her money and it’s her special day.

I don’t believe in love, and wedding and marriage, and all that shit, but people already predicting failure in your relationship only 'cos your fiancee and you plan to have a big motherfucking wedding, that’s low, guys. Fucking low.[/quote]

You don’t believe in love? ok, im going to have to call ya out on this one. You never loved Anyone?

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She probably did, but a bad experience forced her to reconsider her belief in love. That’s my guess, although I don’t know DN well.

Matt: Do whatever you like for your wedding. Fuck the haters, again. As long as you two are in agreement about stuff then there is no blame to place in the future if money gets tight, etc. My wedding was originally costing about $3,000 to $5,000 but increased to around $13,000 after she starting getting “ideas” and reading wedding magazines. That was in violation of our original agreement, so we split (for other reasons, too). She justified it because the average American wedding costs $26,000, which for an average Joe like me is not affordable.

Meanwhile, she wanted to buy a $30,000 SUV for herself, a big house with a big lawn, all new furniture, and a bunch of other American-dream materialistic bullshit. She wanted to have kids immediately. She didn’t have much money, a good job, or a college degree either.

Just be realistic dude. You seem like a levelheaded guy though.

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no one is going to call him on the fact his screen name even has Dr in it? I couldn’t care less, just busting balls

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[quote]njrusmc wrote:

She probably did, but a bad experience forced her to reconsider her belief in love…[/quote]

Have you ever known anyone that has not had a bad relationship experience at some point in their life?

OF course some people’s bad experience (and how they delt with it) are vastly different.

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For some reason, I shall forever picture Matt as looking like “The Doctor.”

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[quote]jehovasfitness wrote:
no one is going to call him on the fact his screen name even has Dr in it? I couldn’t care less, just busting balls[/quote]
I think that’s what we’ve been doing is busting on him for the “Dr” title, but not the wedding stuff.
Spend what you want to, who cares what other people think. I wouldn’t spend that kind of $$ for one day, but to each his own.
Except for titles ;/

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[quote]anonym wrote:

[quote]Otto the Ecto wrote:

[quote]Johnny T Frisk wrote:
Bitches be crazy.[/quote]

x over 9000[/quote]

Woman logic thread?[/quote]

Women have no logic.

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[quote]four60 wrote:

I agree that doc and his soon to be Mrs spending what they can afford on a over the top ceremony is no big deal. They can afford it and it seems to be an agreement they both are in on. But i’m willing to bet that is not the norm with most couples. Ive seen so many people spend half a years budget on a one day ceremony and neither party owned a home and still had payments on cars over 5 years old. Now that seems insane…at least to me.[/quote]

You are right, my fiance and I are not the norm, and an average couple trying to throw a wedding like what we are would be a huge mistake, similar to what njrusmc described below your post. It would have been a mistake for him to do the type of wedding he described and was right to call things off. What would have been a red flag to me was her not being willing to do a prenup, since we both have assets that should be protected in case this does not work out, which I don’t see happening.

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[quote]jehovasfitness wrote:
no one is going to call him on the fact his screen name even has Dr in it? I couldn’t care less, just busting balls[/quote]

One or two people kind of were. I put it in my screen name because it describes me. A lot of people do that. Professor X is a bald mutant, hence his screen name, Dark Ninjaa is black and does martial arts, I bet Grneyes has green eyes, and imhungry is probably hungry a lot. My screen name is no different.

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[quote]thethirdruffian wrote:
For some reason, I shall forever picture Matt as looking like “The Doctor.”[/quote]

He is awesome, but I am not THAT old, and I have hair.

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This spells out the whole “doctor” thing rather nicely…

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^^^
Awesome. Pimpbot, you are a treasure to the thread.

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[quote]njrusmc wrote:

[quote]four60 wrote:

[quote]DarkNinjaa wrote:
Wow… just wow…

Are people really having a go at Doc for using his title? LMAO!! Fucking hilarious.

Dr Matt, please stop justifying yourself to strangers on the interwebz.

And your fiancee can spend as much as she likes for her wedding. After all it’s her money and it’s her special day.

I don’t believe in love, and wedding and marriage, and all that shit, but people already predicting failure in your relationship only 'cos your fiancee and you plan to have a big motherfucking wedding, that’s low, guys. Fucking low.[/quote]

You don’t believe in love? ok, im going to have to call ya out on this one. You never loved Anyone?

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She probably did, but a bad experience forced her to reconsider her belief in love. That’s my guess, although I don’t know DN well.

Matt: Do whatever you like for your wedding. Fuck the haters, again. As long as you two are in agreement about stuff then there is no blame to place in the future if money gets tight, etc. My wedding was originally costing about $3,000 to $5,000 but increased to around $13,000 after she starting getting “ideas” and reading wedding magazines. That was in violation of our original agreement, so we split (for other reasons, too). She justified it because the average American wedding costs $26,000, which for an average Joe like me is not affordable.

Meanwhile, she wanted to buy a $30,000 SUV for herself, a big house with a big lawn, all new furniture, and a bunch of other American-dream materialistic bullshit. She wanted to have kids immediately. She didn’t have much money, a good job, or a college degree either.

Just be realistic dude. You seem like a levelheaded guy though.[/quote]

What she wanted was an M.R.S. degree…

Speaking of spending money on one day, I used to work in a heavily Jewish town in IL and we had mitzvahs almost every weekend. This is now just a 13th birthday party since you can’t get married at age 13 anymore (at least not in the US). One mitzvah was 100K!!! 50K per kid! It was black tie, sushi was the main meal and there was a tequila luge with the best Jose Cuervo. The dad passed out in the bathroom and had to be taken to his room on a luggage cart. Another mitzvah had an alligator you could ride! And huge elephant tusks.