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^ I get the ‘emotional well being’ thing. Sometimes it is enough to just listen intently and actively, and if there is mutual respect and love, then both sides make the effort.

It sounds like you are presenting the options in workable solutions, like us Mens like it, and he’s still not responding an a manner that you require, I get that too.

Relationships are tough. for a variety of reasons. Communication is usually the issue.

In any event, I am far from an authority, so will change the subject…

wanna get a beer after work?

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[quote]WolBarret wrote:

[quote]polo77j wrote:

[quote]ucallthatbass wrote:

[quote]countingbeans wrote:
Fuck, I missed my 5000th post. was it epic?

Twas not…

So I’ll bring 2.5 lbs. One for you, one for me and a half for toots[/quote]

FUCK YOU BEANS…iz likes steaks…and polo likes Portuguese people[/quote]

polo iz Portuguese peeplez [/quote]

I call bullshit. You’re as Portugese as Ct.Rockula is a vampire.[/quote]

sorry … of Portuguese descent … happy? My grandparents were born on the Island of Madeira

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PCH- you said vertical press, so it’s another option is all…if you want to work on dips, I’d go with the assisted machine to build up strength…lower the weight each week, etc…or give the bench ones a try…but be careful of the shoulders rolling forward too much…

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[quote]Edgy wrote:
^ I get the ‘emotional well being’ thing. Sometimes it is enough to just listen intently and actively, and if there is mutual respect and love, then both sides make the effort.

It sounds like you are presenting the options in workable solutions, like us Mens like it, and he’s still not responding an a manner that you require, I get that too.

Relationships are tough. for a variety of reasons. Communication is usually the issue.

In any event, I am far from an authority, so will change the subject…

wanna get a beer after work?

[/quote]

I’m with Edgy. Once a guy starts talking about his feelings too much, I’m out like trout. I’ve gone out with plenty of emotionally retarded men because I can’t take mushy men. They are just too girly to me.

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[quote]Edgy wrote:
^ I get the ‘emotional well being’ thing. Sometimes it is enough to just listen intently and actively, and if there is mutual respect and love, then both sides make the effort.

It sounds like you are presenting the options in workable solutions, like us Mens like it, and he’s still not responding an a manner that you require, I get that too.

Relationships are tough. for a variety of reasons. Communication is usually the issue.

In any event, I am far from an authority, so will change the subject…

wanna get a beer after work?

[/quote]

Ironically this was also his response. I got a case of homemade beer as a consolation prize. It’s actually really good. He can make his own beer, and all of the equipment, he even built his own grain mill, but can’t tell me why he doesn’t respond to texts? Cereal?

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^mebbe he has fat fingers?

I know I do, 'sall.

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[quote]Edgy wrote:
^mebbe he has fat fingers?

I know I do, 'sall.[/quote]

Hey…are you in Ohio?

This was his first reason, but then he got a new phone with a bigger keyboard. So, that no longer cuts it. There is also the magical option of calling.

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yeah…there IS that.

but there’s the communication disconnect between wimmens and mens.

ya’all like to be called alot, and ya’all have a lotta words, and like to tell us every conversation you had up to that point, and what you think they meant when they said it…

And ya’all like to be consulted on our every move, and comment on what we’ve done, or what our stupid friends had done or said.

We don’t have room in our brains for that.

I know it sucks, I’m afflicted with that maleness too, there’s really no hope for us, I’m afraid.

how’s about that beer? gonna join us Toots?

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[quote]pch2 wrote:

[quote]Edgy wrote:
^mebbe he has fat fingers?

I know I do, 'sall.[/quote]

Hey…are you in Ohio?

This was his first reason, but then he got a new phone with a bigger keyboard. So, that no longer cuts it. There is also the magical option of calling. [/quote]

Please…who actually calls anyone anymore? Talking is so…last decade!

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[quote]Edgy wrote:
ya’all like to be called alot, and ya’all have a lotta words, and like to tell us every conversation you had up to that point, and what you think they meant when they said it…

And ya’all like to be consulted on our every move, and comment on what we’ve done, or what our stupid friends had done or said.
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If I hadn’t been hormone tested and checked out as 100% female, I would want to be tested for gender after reading posts like this. I hate the phone. I hate small talk. I know you’re a grown up and can live your life without me advising on the minor shit. Just fucking live it!

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^ too good to be true.

I am believing that PMPM is an apparition sent to confuse and confound.

Wanna grab a beer with me, Toots and PCH?

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[quote]Edgy wrote:
yeah…there IS that.

but there’s the communication disconnect between wimmens and mens.

ya’all like to be called alot, and ya’all have a lotta words, and like to tell us every conversation you had up to that point, and what you think they meant when they said it…

And ya’all like to be consulted on our every move, and comment on what we’ve done, or what our stupid friends had done or said.

We don’t have room in our brains for that.

I know it sucks, I’m afflicted with that maleness too, there’s really no hope for us, I’m afraid.

how’s about that beer? gonna join us Toots?[/quote]

I see where you are coming from, but there is a big difference between calls/texts just to say hi and basic consideration for another person.

PCH, I don’t know your situation and apologize if this in no way applies to you, but I run into this problem regularly with my bf. He’s a bartender and it is a constant struggle to get him to text after work. My side is that I want to know about what time he will be home so I can either wait up, make other plans or go to bed.

However, he doesn’t want to look like the guy who has to “check in” so he opts not to let me know. This angers me greatly. I’ve told him repeatedly that I don’t care if he goes out with friends after work, just let me know so I am not sitting around waiting for him. To me that sounds fair, but it is apparently a huge afront to his masculinity.

Similarly, he has been known to call my parents if I take to long to return a call of text and gets all butt hurt if I want a night out without him (we’ve been together for 3+ years, sometimes you just need a fucking break).

Sorry to hijack your rant with my own. I go through this shit every 6 months or so and it always sucks. Like I said before, I don’t know your situation, but speaking from my own, it sounds like the hard part is over, just stick to your guns. I always cave and then 4 months later the same shit pops up again. Good luck.

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[quote]pushmepullme wrote:

[quote]Edgy wrote:
ya’all like to be called alot, and ya’all have a lotta words, and like to tell us every conversation you had up to that point, and what you think they meant when they said it…

And ya’all like to be consulted on our every move, and comment on what we’ve done, or what our stupid friends had done or said.
[/quote]

If I hadn’t been hormone tested and checked out as 100% female, I would want to be tested for gender after reading posts like this. I hate the phone. I hate small talk. I know you’re a grown up and can live your life without me advising on the minor shit. Just fucking live it!
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As compared to the T-Nation crowd, I’m probably a girly girl, but as compared to the average girl, I’m not by any means. I don’t text to randomly chat, but if I ask you what we’re doing this weekend, I’d like a response rather than a doorstep show up at the last minute.

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^SP - thanks for chiming in…

but from my perspective, it is checking in, whether you do it in front of your friends or not, it is checking in, and is an affront to our hunter mentality.

and I am sure you never give him any attitude when he has checked in in the past, right? (sarcastic)

but to let you know when he/we will be in, would be setting us up for failure, since if we’re having a good time, we’ll stay out later, and if it sucks, or we’re tired, we’ll head on home.

It is simplistic, I know.

am I wrong here Men? ( feels kinda like an episode of oprah )

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(looks around, notices that I’m the only man in the room…politely excuses myself, leaves the room and starts sobbing in the hallway uncontrollably.)

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[quote]SmilingPolitely wrote:

[quote]Edgy wrote:
yeah…there IS that.

but there’s the communication disconnect between wimmens and mens.

ya’all like to be called alot, and ya’all have a lotta words, and like to tell us every conversation you had up to that point, and what you think they meant when they said it…

And ya’all like to be consulted on our every move, and comment on what we’ve done, or what our stupid friends had done or said.

We don’t have room in our brains for that.

I know it sucks, I’m afflicted with that maleness too, there’s really no hope for us, I’m afraid.

how’s about that beer? gonna join us Toots?[/quote]

I see where you are coming from, but there is a big difference between calls/texts just to say hi and basic consideration for another person.

PCH, I don’t know your situation and apologize if this in no way applies to you, but I run into this problem regularly with my bf. He’s a bartender and it is a constant struggle to get him to text after work. My side is that I want to know about what time he will be home so I can either wait up, make other plans or go to bed.

However, he doesn’t want to look like the guy who has to “check in” so he opts not to let me know. This angers me greatly. I’ve told him repeatedly that I don’t care if he goes out with friends after work, just let me know so I am not sitting around waiting for him. To me that sounds fair, but it is apparently a huge afront to his masculinity.

Similarly, he has been known to call my parents if I take to long to return a call of text and gets all butt hurt if I want a night out without him (we’ve been together for 3+ years, sometimes you just need a fucking break).

Sorry to hijack your rant with my own. I go through this shit every 6 months or so and it always sucks. Like I said before, I don’t know your situation, but speaking from my own, it sounds like the hard part is over, just stick to your guns. I always cave and then 4 months later the same shit pops up again. Good luck.[/quote]

Ah, this is exactly us, but two years of this fight every few months is enough. It’s exhausting, and if he seems to making no apparent effort, why should I? Why do you?

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[quote]Edgy wrote:
^SP - thanks for chiming in…

but from my perspective, it is checking in, whether you do it in front of your friends or not, it is checking in, and is an affront to our hunter mentality.

and I am sure you never give him any attitude when he has checked in in the past, right? (sarcastic)

but to let you know when he/we will be in, would be setting us up for failure, since if we’re having a good time, we’ll stay out later, and if it sucks, or we’re tired, we’ll head on home.

It is simplistic, I know.

am I wrong here Men? ( feels kinda like an episode of oprah )[/quote]

I getcha Edgy … I don’t “check in” but I let my gf know when I’ll be home. If I’m not sure what time I’ll be home I let her know not to wait up or whatever. I don’t really see it as a chore though, I think it’s just being conciderate to your significant other. If I didn’t care about my girlfriend I wouldn’t even bother calling at all, but then again i wouldn’t be living with her either so…

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[quote]Edgy wrote:
^SP - thanks for chiming in…

but from my perspective, it is checking in, whether you do it in front of your friends or not, it is checking in, and is an affront to our hunter mentality.

and I am sure you never give him any attitude when he has checked in in the past, right? (sarcastic)

but to let you know when he/we will be in, would be setting us up for failure, since if we’re having a good time, we’ll stay out later, and if it sucks, or we’re tired, we’ll head on home.

It is simplistic, I know.

am I wrong here Men? ( feels kinda like an episode of oprah )[/quote]

I hate to take my anger out on you, but why the hell is it OK for him to stay out and party with friends while I sit at home all dressed up waiting to go out?

And then when I do go out by myself it is always the nights when his plans fall through so he tags along with me and my friends. That is bull shit!

I’m not asking if he will be home at 12 and then get pissy if he gets in at 12:30. I am asking if he is going out with friends…period!

I refuse to believe that stepping in to the bathroom to shoot me a text that says, “getting together with Tony. Be home late” is that demanding.

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[quote]Edgy wrote:
^SP - thanks for chiming in…

but from my perspective, it is checking in, whether you do it in front of your friends or not, it is checking in, and is an affront to our hunter mentality.

and I am sure you never give him any attitude when he has checked in in the past, right? (sarcastic)

but to let you know when he/we will be in, would be setting us up for failure, since if we’re having a good time, we’ll stay out later, and if it sucks, or we’re tired, we’ll head on home.

It is simplistic, I know.

am I wrong here Men? ( feels kinda like an episode of oprah )[/quote]

You’re wrong. It’s not a keeping tabs concept. It’s a basic consideration concept.

I’m supposed to make contingency plans for each possible outcome? Is my time and effort not worth the time it takes to send a text? You’d rather I just don’t care what you do? I can do that, but then it’s not a relationship, because intrinsic to a relationship is the idea of taking the other persons’ feelings into consideration.