PMPM, sorry to hear about the relationship stress with your husband.
You have gotten a lot of good advice here. My question is, are lines of communication still open? Is he willing to work out issues still? Something I constantly have to remind myself of is that in marriage, compromises have to be made along the way. I’m not good at it but I can’t stop trying.
Is there a way you could workout more at home? That would mean less time away from him.
And for what its worth, (I hope this doesn’t sound wrong) please try not to save your marriage with kids. As others have said, not only is there joy but there is also great stress. When your marriage is solid again, that is the time for children.
He’s a better communicator than I am, or at least he’s better at trying to talk. I tend to project a lot, make assumptions, and have a terrible self-critic. But at least I know these things.
I can workout more at home, but I love getting out of the house for the gym. I can do most everything at home, but I don’t feel like I get anything done, I just want to get out of the basement and go do stuff upstairs. Lazy me.
[quote]pushmepullme wrote:
I can workout more at home, but I love getting out of the house for the gym. I can do most everything at home, but I don’t feel like I get anything done
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Same here. I love leaving the house to workout (most of the time, until I pull into the gym parking lot and there’s 1000 cars there…) unless it’s really late. I don’t mind training at home when it’s really late and the kids are asleep. There’s something about stepping out of the home gym and into the kids playroom that’s “off” a bit. Not sure what it is, but tripping over toys puts me in a bad mood, haha!
When is the last time you two had a date / vacation? Fun time away from the house might be helpful. I understand how it can be hard to get out of a rut.
My wife and I enjoy the few hours out when our son is away for an evening. It reminds me of when we were dating. We need a family vacation, but scheduling is difficult.
[quote]binky wrote:
When is the last time you two had a date / vacation? Fun time away from the house might be helpful. I understand how it can be hard to get out of a rut.
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Vday, I took him out to a breakfast place, then the museum for a movie, then to look at boats, then to the bar.
Vacation with just us might come in August, but every other vacation I get is spent visiting inlaws in NY or going to meets. Last time we had a vacation, just the two of us, for fun, was the honeymoon. I’m not counting the occasional overnight camping trip, but even those haven’t been in close to two years.
<-----------------Hates working out at home…can NOT get in the zone at home.[/quote]
The zone tends to be a mere fraction of the size it is at a gym, no?
Ahhhh… Wasted 5 or so days playing computer games and not doing much else. Last time was over a decade ago.
On another note… Holy shit Japan… I hope those guys will be able to recover… Just a month or two ago I started reading a manga about pretty much this very situation. Blew my mind when I saw the news.
[quote]byukid wrote:
Phone interview Thursday with a company in Houston for a job this summer.
Yay![/quote]
Who and doing what?[/quote]
Hampson Russell CGGVeritas, and just a technical assistant position with more exposure to the industry. Maybe some acquisition and processing. I’m just excited and really hoping I get it.
Lulz: I just got a call at work, it’s a telemarketing call for some A/C company. Now why our number is listed as residential and not commercial is beyond me, but we get these calls al the time. I’ll say “This is a business” and they say (usually) “Oh sorry about that sir, have a nice day” and click
Well, the dude that called just now started talked from the instant the machine clicked over to a “human”, non-stop about what services they provide, how great they are, and on to even telling me available time slots they have for someone to come out to my home tomorrow. This went on for 2:30 until he asked:
“Which one of those times sounds best for you?”
“None of them, actually. This is a business”
Dude was all confused and flustered, obviously wondering what kind of an asshole would let him ramble for 2.5 minutes without interruption when it’s not even a possibility that I’m going to set up an appt.
<—This kind.
Take this number off of your list, and have a nice day!
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The zone tends to be a mere fraction of the size it is at a gym, no?[/quote]
<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<< Never thought he’d say it, but wished he had his own gym with his own equipment to work with, that way he’d never have to deal with random gym unpleasantness. Herc trains alone as it is, and rarely uses a spotter.
[quote]Heracles_rocks wrote:
Herc trains alone as it is, and rarely uses a spotter.
Only downsides Herc sees are cost and space.
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I never ask anyone at the gym to spot me, probably hold me back for benching but I’d rather just keep to myself in my own bubble, free of douchers.
[quote]Heracles_rocks wrote:
Herc trains alone as it is, and rarely uses a spotter.
Only downsides Herc sees are cost and space.
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I never ask anyone at the gym to spot me, probably hold me back for benching but I’d rather just keep to myself in my own bubble, free of douchers.[/quote]
Herc knows that not many people could keep up. Herc would run them into the ground.
Herc has tried to train with others of like goals, but after one leg workout, they never want to train with Herc again. They just don’t have the heart, and they melt at the mere presence of Herc’s intensity. They like to talk training, but when it comes to the doing part they disappear. Herc disapoint and don’t ask anymore. Herc just put headphones on and attempts to go into beastmode.
Haha it’s kinda fun talking in the third person. Though i need to say this isn’t about anyone from T-Nation, just the other people i’ve met at the gym and etc.
