[quote]pushmepullme wrote:
No one should even consider getting married before 30. Except byukid.[/quote]
Yup. He needs to get laid![/quote]
I’m glad you support this.
Also, just out of curiosity, does anyone know about “hymen expanders” or “cervix expanders?” Allegedly it’ll make her first time a lot less painful, but I’m not sure how I feel about this all. It makes me very uncomfortable when she talks about it. [/quote]
Ok I thing you should start listening to this podcast http://sexisfun.net/podcast/ Skip the ones that are not relevant to you if you think they may offend. He’s kinda negative about religion at times, but there are some really good ones about making your wife comfortable with sex, talking about it within your relationship and there was one great one about your exact situation. Waiting for marriage, preping for the first time.
I suggest you listen to them alone, filter through them and then determine what more sensitive ears should hear and then pass them on to her. Your job at this point is to make sure she feels safe and happy, and being informed will help her a lot with that.
The key here is to relax and let life take its course. What will be, will be. You can’t force a marriage because you want it. If you do, you will end up divorced and with half his shit.
Just let your love together eitehr become one, or break apart. Don’t force shit, it never works out in the end.[/quote]
We’ve already established now is not Joke time.
He has some awesome shit, I don’t know what I would do with a bunch of fly fishing gear, but it could be awesome to have.
[quote]pch2 wrote:
I’m not looking to force, just gently guide. [/quote]
That is forcing. If he isn’t ready, it will fail.
trust me.
The grass is always greener. And Marriage is a bitch sometimes. Wonderful beyond words sometimes, but the meanest fucking bitch on earth at others.[/quote]
Oh please, if I were to switch the word marriage with sex in all my posts you guys would be all about gently guiding.
I don’t want to get married now, just to know that it will eventually happen.
[quote]byukid wrote:
Thanks pch2, I’ll give them a listen.[/quote]
I know you’re not naive, but just to warn you that while they are mostly educational they do get into some pretty hardcore stuff. If a question about gay sex or fisting is going to bother you, just read the synopsis before listening.
Marriage and sex are two wholly different things. Forcing sex is hot. Forcing marriage just leads to resentment. But I guess forcing sex can too…
That kind of sounded bad, but you know what I mean.
Seriously, he knows how old you are, he knows what your family etc. are like, and he KNOWS that you’re wondering when you’re going to get married. If you think you’re going to be able to subtly hint about this, you’re wrong. He is on high alert for any marriage talk, especially since your friend got engaged. Anything you think is subtle will be NEON BRIGHT FLASHING CAPS to him.
[quote]pushmepullme wrote:
No one should even consider getting married before 30. Except byukid.[/quote]
Yup. He needs to get laid![/quote]
I’m glad you support this.
Also, just out of curiosity, does anyone know about “hymen expanders” or “cervix expanders?” Allegedly it’ll make her first time a lot less painful, but I’m not sure how I feel about this all. It makes me very uncomfortable when she talks about it. [/quote]
Ok I thing you should start listening to this podcast http://sexisfun.net/podcast/ Skip the ones that are not relevant to you if you think they may offend. He’s kinda negative about religion at times, but there are some really good ones about making your wife comfortable with sex, talking about it within your relationship and there was one great one about your exact situation. Waiting for marriage, preping for the first time.
I suggest you listen to them alone, filter through them and then determine what more sensitive ears should hear and then pass them on to her. Your job at this point is to make sure she feels safe and happy, and being informed will help her a lot with that.
[quote]pushmepullme wrote:
No one should even consider getting married before 30. Except byukid.[/quote]
Yup. He needs to get laid![/quote]
I’m glad you support this.
Also, just out of curiosity, does anyone know about “hymen expanders” or “cervix expanders?” Allegedly it’ll make her first time a lot less painful, but I’m not sure how I feel about this all. It makes me very uncomfortable when she talks about it. [/quote]
Ok I thing you should start listening to this podcast http://sexisfun.net/podcast/ Skip the ones that are not relevant to you if you think they may offend. He’s kinda negative about religion at times, but there are some really good ones about making your wife comfortable with sex, talking about it within your relationship and there was one great one about your exact situation. Waiting for marriage, preping for the first time.
I suggest you listen to them alone, filter through them and then determine what more sensitive ears should hear and then pass them on to her. Your job at this point is to make sure she feels safe and happy, and being informed will help her a lot with that.
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This is the weirdest thing I’ve ever listened to.[/quote]
Hopefully you searched for one that’s relevant to you?
Don’t listen to the product reviews, the ones about Desire, or the ones where they read erotica. They’re weird and not informative.
[quote]pch2 wrote:
Don’t listen to the product reviews, the ones about Desire, or the ones where they read erotica. They’re weird and not informative.[/quote]
I’m listening to the first time one. I was really hoping they knew about hymen expanders.
I’m uncomfortable because I’ve never heard of them, and it seems like just a set of short, graduated dildos.
[quote]pch2 wrote:
Don’t listen to the product reviews, the ones about Desire, or the ones where they read erotica. They’re weird and not informative.[/quote]
I’m listening to the first time one. I was really hoping they knew about hymen expanders.
I’m uncomfortable because I’ve never heard of them, and it seems like just a set of short, graduated dildos.[/quote]
Exactly they probably have anal ones also, but that can wait until the honeymoon.
