[quote]Heracles_rocks wrote:
My viewpoint is diverse in that my parents have been married for 27 years, but fight constantly, and separated several times temporarily during my teens. My grandparents have been married for 57 years i believe and happily at that. So i do believe and want to meet that one special lady, but i have endured and witnessed alot of crap both first hand and in the relationships around me that has cast doubt upon whether or not it would be worth it. It is hard i’ll admit to not fall into the trap of thinking they’re all bad, but i make it a point to view it objectively. But on the other hand i have seen alot of awesome relationships flourish through luck, hard work and mutual attraction.
All i’m saying is that i would never cheat, and that i have seen alot of cheating going on as well. I also understand that not all guys and gals do it, but enough do that it leads me to view the whole relationship thing sourly.
Congratulations to all who have found love and etc. I just have my doubts whether that is to be for me. [/quote]
Here’s the question I’m going to pose: Is it that a lot of cheating is going around or is it, when cheating DOES happen, that it is talked about incessantly to the point it SEEMS that cheating is the norm? Also, no one ever talks about when people AREN’T cheating, but they do talk about it when it’s being done.
I’ll use me for an example. Earlier I stated that I had never been cheated on. I forgot about this girl I dated my senior year of high school. Now, like I said, I dated quite a few women in my life and only 1 has cheated on me.
There are people who have cheated on everyone they’ve been with, but I woudln’t say that that’s the norm, nor would I say that most people view that as honorable and something to strive for. Again, some people do, or might, but then again, they’re not the norm.
As you acknowledged you’ve had experiences on both sides of the coin and I also acknowledge that heart break is a risk you take everytime you meet someone new. The question you have to ask yourself is: Is the reward greater than the risk? I’ve been dumped and heartbroken before but I gotta say that I also haven’t been happier than I am right now. Will it last? No. It won’t. No matter how long this relationship lasts I know that it will end in heartbreak … at some point someone has to die. I’m comfortable with this scenario. I also know that it’s the worst case scenario even if she ends up dumping my sorry ass like yesterday’s trash. But I don’t worry about this because it’s not the end result I’m concerned with since, on a long enough time line, it’ll end in heartbreak. I’m concerned with what we do between then and now to make it worth it.
