[quote]Vegita wrote:
Go Patriots!!! Guys, this is Vegita and I’m a closet Patriot’s fan. I was Pat the Patriot for Halloween for the past 5 years. I have Patriots footsie pajamas that I wear every night. I’ve been living a lie and I named my first born son Brady, after Tom Brady.
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Veg, I have no idea…[/quote]
Yea, thats about what the word “poop” would translate into I guess. Syn-… Hom-… Anal-… There is some english word that means two things are the same thing. it’s like one of those.
My parents had an arranged marriage, they met twice before they got married. It’s been 30 years, and I know they will never divorce. They will always work to make it work. They go on honeymoons every few years. It’s made me think that falling in love is a choice, there’s no magic. Attraction is the initial chemistry, but you can fall in love with anyone and make it work. I hadn’t realized how much it affected my view of relationships until now. It feels like he choose not to want me, and I keep trying to put logic on it, when in fact for him it’s about the magics. I don’t even believe in the magics.
pch2 - that is a great story 'bout your parents, and I also believe that love is a choice, and two committed people can make it work.
I also believe in the magic of love, and wish it for you.
I hope you don’t become a jaded old Viking like me, I want more for you, you seem, sweet, charming, intellegent and dedicated. I want things to be magical for you.
I hope I didn’t infuse you with my negativity, I am not like that in real life (fuck you Vegita) and hate that I project that in this forum.
[quote]Vegita wrote:
Go Patriots!!! Guys, this is Vegita and I’m a closet Patriot’s fan. I was Pat the Patriot for Halloween for the past 5 years. I have Patriots footsie pajamas that I wear every night. I’ve been living a lie and I named my first born son Brady, after Tom Brady.
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Veg, I have no idea…[/quote]
Yea, thats about what the word “poop” would translate into I guess. Syn-… Hom-… Anal-… There is some english word that means two things are the same thing. it’s like one of those.
I think many people don’t know how to be FRIENDS with their partner. Of all the people you’re going to invite in your life, they’re the ones that are going to be the most intimate with you… SHOULD be your BEST friend.
[quote]Edgy wrote:
pch2 - that is a great story 'bout your parents, and I also believe that love is a choice, and two committed people can make it work.
I also believe in the magic of love, and wish it for you.
I hope you don’t become a jaded old Viking like me, I want more for you, you seem, sweet, charming, intellegent and dedicated. I want things to be magical for you.
I hope I didn’t infuse you with my negativity, I am not like that in real life (fuck you Vegita) and hate that I project that in this forum.
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Oh despite being pragmatic about the choice of love and commitment, I’m still all about romance. You choose for it to be magical. I just need to find someone that shares my view point. I don’t feel jaded. Dallas had made me hyperaware of some issues now, but with time I’ll take the good parts and leave the bad. Right now my emotions are high and I’m still trying to figure out the good and the bad.
[quote]imhungry wrote:
I think many people don’t know how to be FRIENDS with their partner. Of all the people you’re going to invite in your life, they’re the ones that are going to be the most intimate with you… SHOULD be your BEST friend.
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That was one of the shocking parts, I thought he was my best friend, I treated him like my best friend and he didn’t reciprocate. I just thought he did.
[quote]pch2 wrote:
My parents had an arranged marriage, they met twice before they got married. It’s been 30 years, and I know they will never divorce. They will always work to make it work. They go on honeymoons every few years. It’s made me think that falling in love is a choice, there’s no magic. Attraction is the initial chemistry, but you can fall in love with anyone and make it work. I hadn’t realized how much it affected my view of relationships until now. It feels like he choose not to want me, and I keep trying to put logic on it, when in fact for him it’s about the magics. I don’t even believe in the magics. [/quote]
I know it’s hard, but try to stop figuring out what is going on in his head. Even if you do figure it out, it doesn’t make you sleep any better at night. Trust me. Next thing you know, you will be someone in your middle thirties with a bunch of cat pics and foreign objects.
[quote]imhungry wrote:
I think many people don’t know how to be FRIENDS with their partner. Of all the people you’re going to invite in your life, they’re the ones that are going to be the most intimate with you… SHOULD be your BEST friend.
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That was one of the shocking parts, I thought he was my best friend, I treated him like my best friend and he didn’t reciprocate. I just thought he did. [/quote]
Maybe he thought he was, too?
To me, that’s the hardest part of the break up…and we’d still try to be friends afterwards. That hasn’t worked out very well…
[quote]pch2 wrote:
My parents had an arranged marriage, they met twice before they got married. It’s been 30 years, and I know they will never divorce. They will always work to make it work. They go on honeymoons every few years. It’s made me think that falling in love is a choice, there’s no magic. Attraction is the initial chemistry, but you can fall in love with anyone and make it work. I hadn’t realized how much it affected my view of relationships until now. It feels like he choose not to want me, and I keep trying to put logic on it, when in fact for him it’s about the magics. I don’t even believe in the magics. [/quote]
I know it’s hard, but try to stop figuring out what is going on in his head. Even if you do figure it out, it doesn’t make you sleep any better at night. Trust me. Next thing you know, you will be someone in your middle thirties with a bunch of cat pics and foreign objects.
Wait, what?!?!?![/quote]
I like the cat pictures, and I already have a collection of foreign objects…
Oh, I’m going with I gave him way too much credit and he’s stupider then I thought he was. I’m not dwelling on him for the most part, just me.
[quote]imhungry wrote:
I think many people don’t know how to be FRIENDS with their partner. Of all the people you’re going to invite in your life, they’re the ones that are going to be the most intimate with you… SHOULD be your BEST friend.
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You’re right Hungry. This is key. The initial, rapid heart beat stuff recedes. If you have a very strong friendship you have the basis for a long lasting relationship.
[quote]imhungry wrote:
Maybe he thought he was, too?
To me, that’s the hardest part of the break up…and we’d still try to be friends afterwards. That hasn’t worked out very well…
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That’s not how you treat your friends esp the friends closest to you. You’re supposed to watch out for your friends, you have their back and keep them from being hurt. He didn’t do that for me, how was he my friend?
[quote]imhungry wrote:
Maybe he thought he was, too?
To me, that’s the hardest part of the break up…and we’d still try to be friends afterwards. That hasn’t worked out very well…
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That’s not how you treat your friends esp the friends closest to you. You’re supposed to watch out for your friends, you have their back and keep them from being hurt. He didn’t do that for me, how was he my friend? [/quote]
[quote]imhungry wrote:
I think many people don’t know how to be FRIENDS with their partner. Of all the people you’re going to invite in your life, they’re the ones that are going to be the most intimate with you… SHOULD be your BEST friend.
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You’re right Hungry. This is key. The initial, rapid heart beat stuff recedes. If you have a very strong friendship you have the basis for a long lasting relationship.[/quote]
Yes, that strong infatuation and new-ness does wear off, and when it does, that’s when you start seeing people as they really are. Although, I think that there can still be those sweet, sappy feelings during that part of the reltionship, too. It’s just different.
Hell, Greeny and I were very much ourselves from day one. We weren’t on our best behavior, like many people do when they start seeing each other…
