[quote]countingbeans wrote:
I say tell him right away. I’m not the only dude in the world who wouldn’t freak out about it. But expect the whole “ohhh you can beat me up?” bullshit. As we (men) typically aren’t that creative, and most of the creative ones are gay or married.
So as your talking about it, explain that is a turn off. If he still doesn’t get it, fuck em’ he is a retard and needs to not get any.[/quote]
How do guys not realize off the bat that ‘oh you can beat me up’ is a turn off? It’s like screaming ‘I’m weak,’ for you Beans though I’ll give each guy one free pass.
[quote]My wife thinks I’m a freak, and really doesn’t get the “I have to be 280 soft to be 230 cut up in a few years” thing. Right now she is fine with it, because I’m starting to show some separation and have some sort of semblance of ab shadows. Getting her was a huge issue tho.
Now she just picks on me for drinking 4 gallons of milk a week and 5 dozen eggs, and 7-10lbs of red meat. Just like she picks on me when she catches me flexing in the mirror. She always makes a funny face, flexes and kisses her biceps.
She loves me though, and i assume she finds me attractive do to the fact I still get laid now and again. Thing is, part of being someone’s significant other is being supportive of their good habits, and nagging the fuck out of the bad ones until they go away. (Or at least that is what she does for me.) [/quote]
Aww Beans, I hope your wife knows how much you love her. It’s wonderful!
[quote]Ct. Rockula wrote:
I am not doing that. You obviously know what you’re doing, I mean, look at your progress so far. I really doubt you need a trainer at this point even. You’re highly motivated and that is what’s importatnt…especially with this trial and error game we’re in.
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I tend to think most people are better off without a trainer anyhow. Unless you’re being coached for a competition of some sort, then having a professional guide you along seems like a good idea.
I could be wrong but it seems to me that people are better off getting the concepts right and wrong themselves.
Anyone agree or disagree?[/quote]
I think a lot of women would benefit from starting with a coach or “trainer” that is going to have you do the basic compounds over the stupid shit I see them putting people through. I feel like this will go a long way to help them warm up to the free weight section.
Men and boys, if they can’t sack up enough to figure out the basics on their own, fuck em… Thins the herd.
I saw tshirts at Target for the movie which shall not be named in this forum and wanted to take a pic and post it but then I thought Ct. would probably stroke out
Also, as for eating like a freak - I would just have it be “yes I will have a green salad” rather than “Hi, my name is pch2 and I eat like a freak.” Talking too much about eating weird will raise red flags.[/quote]
Be upfront about not eating meat, but don’t be obsessive about it. Don’t talk about beyond the initial conversation and any questions he has. Particularly if he likes steak and you still want to bone him.[/quote]
And this. There are just too many girls who have food issues, so I think it’s best to just not make an issue out of things.[/quote]
Oh, I’ve always dated meat and potato farm boys, the meat part hasn’t ever been and issue, but I need to stop compromising on the potato part. It’s why relationships make me fat. I think most of society is okay with girls having eating issues, it’s widely accepted as long as you don’t make a huge fuss.
[quote]Ct. Rockula wrote:
I am not doing that. You obviously know what you’re doing, I mean, look at your progress so far. I really doubt you need a trainer at this point even. You’re highly motivated and that is what’s importatnt…especially with this trial and error game we’re in.
=)[/quote]
I tend to think most people are better off without a trainer anyhow. Unless you’re being coached for a competition of some sort, then having a professional guide you along seems like a good idea.
I could be wrong but it seems to me that people are better off getting the concepts right and wrong themselves.
Anyone agree or disagree?[/quote]
I think a lot of women would benefit from starting with a coach or “trainer” that is going to have you do the basic compounds over the stupid shit I see them putting people through. I feel like this will go a long way to help them warm up to the free weight section.
Men and boys, if they can’t sack up enough to figure out the basics on their own, fuck em… Thins the herd.[/quote]
I tend to agree. But, i’d also think that women would benefit more from a female trainer, since womens bodies are touchier when it comes to food and hormone fluctuations. re: period.
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
I say tell him right away. I’m not the only dude in the world who wouldn’t freak out about it. But expect the whole “ohhh you can beat me up?” bullshit. As we (men) typically aren’t that creative, and most of the creative ones are gay or married.
So as your talking about it, explain that is a turn off. If he still doesn’t get it, fuck em’ he is a retard and needs to not get any.[/quote]
Then he’s not worth it. A lot of men who have flirted with me want me to like, beat them up and dominate them - eww, gross, not my thing. They are culling themselves for you.
Thanks god he doesn’t look at his wife’s CC statment
I apparently would have a coronary.
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Beans, seriously, the money some of us spend on girl stuff WOULD make you faint. Did she care that you bought your sled? I’m thinking if I do the relationship thing again we’ll just keep finances completely separate. Split the household bills and each keep the rest. That way no one is stroking out over purchases.
[quote]Ct. Rockula wrote:
I am not doing that. You obviously know what you’re doing, I mean, look at your progress so far. I really doubt you need a trainer at this point even. You’re highly motivated and that is what’s importatnt…especially with this trial and error game we’re in.
=)[/quote]
I tend to think most people are better off without a trainer anyhow. Unless you’re being coached for a competition of some sort, then having a professional guide you along seems like a good idea.
I could be wrong but it seems to me that people are better off getting the concepts right and wrong themselves.
Anyone agree or disagree?[/quote]
I think a lot of women would benefit from starting with a coach or “trainer” that is going to have you do the basic compounds over the stupid shit I see them putting people through. I feel like this will go a long way to help them warm up to the free weight section.
Men and boys, if they can’t sack up enough to figure out the basics on their own, fuck em… Thins the herd.[/quote]
I tend to agree. But, i’d also think that women would benefit more from a female trainer, since womens bodies are touchier when it comes to food and hormone fluctuations. re: period.[/quote]
[quote]pushmepullme wrote:
Then he’s not worth it. A lot of men who have flirted with me want me to like, beat them up and dominate them - eww, gross, not my thing. They are culling themselves for you.[/quote]
Yeah, I’ll tie a guy up, but I’m no top. There’s nothing wrong with being a submissive guy, but it’s not at all my cup of tea.
I think a lot of guys assume that because we want to be strong we want to be dominant, in fact it just raises the bar for them. If I’m strong, you have to be stronger.
[quote]pushmepullme wrote:
Then he’s not worth it. A lot of men who have flirted with me want me to like, beat them up and dominate them - eww, gross, not my thing. They are culling themselves for you.[/quote]
Yeah, I’ll tie a guy up, but I’m no top. There’s nothing wrong with being a submissive guy, but it’s not at all my cup of tea.
I think a lot of guys assume that because we want to be strong we want to be dominant, in fact it just raises the bar for them. If I’m strong, you have to be stronger. [/quote]
Thanks god he doesn’t look at his wife’s CC statment
I apparently would have a coronary.
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Beans, seriously, the money some of us spend on girl stuff WOULD make you faint. Did she care that you bought your sled? I’m thinking if I do the relationship thing again we’ll just keep finances completely separate. Split the household bills and each keep the rest. That way no one is stroking out over purchases.[/quote]
The sled was my tax season and father’s day gift to myself. I went ipod for mothers day, so If I nail her B-Day I might get a Christmas present. Otherwise it was christas too.
We can afford the sled, that is why i could get it. If we couldn’t we wouldn’t have.
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
I say tell him right away. I’m not the only dude in the world who wouldn’t freak out about it. But expect the whole “ohhh you can beat me up?” bullshit. As we (men) typically aren’t that creative, and most of the creative ones are gay or married.
So as your talking about it, explain that is a turn off. If he still doesn’t get it, fuck em’ he is a retard and needs to not get any.[/quote]
Then he’s not worth it. A lot of men who have flirted with me want me to like, beat them up and dominate them - eww, gross, not my thing. They are culling themselves for you.[/quote]
Argggg PMPM for me it seems to relate to the profession. A ton of guys assume we’re all closet dominatrixes and that drives me flipping nuts. Ugh, how about I like a man who is in charge? Dumb asses.
