And his ex wife can not rest assured she has all his money and a dead mule to produce nothing more 
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Poor guy.
Marriage is great; Iāve been very fortunate in that regard.
BUT: be very careful whom you marry.
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Me too. Iāve never been more sure of anything in my life, the easiest and smartest decision I ever made. In the defense of others, there are no guarantees and people change or grow apart over time. A lot goes into it and some of it is luck.
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2 of 3.
I married the devil and paying for it now. Glad I didnāt build an empire with her.
Live and learn.
Sorry to hear that. Proceed with extreme caution.
Yah sheās playing victim. I never understood why guys have such a hard time during a divorce.
Now I get it.
Thank you
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Do yourself a favor and find an impartial advisor who is NOT your lawyer - someone knowledgeable about this issue. And listen to him. Itās exceedingly hard to go through this alone without a wingman to give you perspective, which is easily lost; and when it is lost you become as much as an enemy to your interests as the court system/ex.
Sorry. Good luck with everything.
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Good man. I have a good friend who has done this twice and heās been guiding me.
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My ex wife is a complete mental case. When we went to court to get divorced we had a male judge and he tried talking her out of agreeing to my terms and told her to get a lawyer and come back right in front of me. I got custody and she agreed to not touch my pension and I let her get off without paying child support. Her own mother came with her and told the judge that it was best that way. I thought for sure i was going go get fucked in court and would end up having to disappear with my child so i didnāt file for like 3 years until my current wife was pregnant and was starting to really break my balls about it. I should have gotten a lawyer like 6 years sooner and taken my newborn home from the hospital with a court date.
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I married my wife and after a year of marriage found out sheād been having an affair for over 2 years.
We divorced.
6 months later she breaks it off with the other man and we reconcile. 1.5 years later we remarry. Within a year she is back in her affair. Divorce #2.
Iāll never marry again. Worst experiences of my life and took years to recover from emotionally and mentally.
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Wow, sad stories, sorry to hear that. Know that you are not alone; a great many good men are going through the exact same thing.
Be well and keep in wellness, no matter what. Otherwise you canāt be of help to anyone else, including your kids. (I often think, itās rather like the oxygen masks on the airplane!)
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Are you in the states? TEXAS is community property. She gets half no matter what. Even though I asked for the divorce.
Crazy way to operate. I have a kid with her so paying child support really doesnāt bother me as much.
I live in Rhode Island. Tiny state next to Boston. You can probably get custody of your child if you can prove the cheating and stuff and argue that her lifestyle is guaranteed to eventually put your child in the middle of a violent altercation between a couple of men and her. I think our judge thought maybe i had threatened her or something and that was the reason she agreed to my terms. Since the divorce she has beem arrested for domestic assault vandalism and breaking a no contact order with the guy she moved in with. She now lives with her mother and has been through like 5 short lived bfs. She is currently on probation for like 6 charges and in mandatory domestic violence classes. I could be getting child support from her but she lost her medical job due to the arrest ( lol i love it) so she has nothing for me.to take. She has two sons from relationships before me and one lives in V.A. and she basically never sees him and the other lives near me and she sees him like twice a month like my.daughter.
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It boggles my mind when mothers disregard their responsibility even more than when a father does so.
Itās great that you are a good father. Hats off to you sir!
Oof. Thats a lot of shit! Damn.
I lived in East Greenwich RI for a few years. Graduated HS in Warwick.
I live in Riverside. Born and raised.
I just wish I had seen what was so obvious at the time when i met her but i was young and had my head up my ass with the drugs. Cant complain too much tho i got my.1st born out of it and she changed my life.
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Good for you!
I had to look it up. I had never heard of it.