[quote]Egg Head wrote:
I have read each and everyone of the posts on this thread. As many of you have mentioned, my dad also never lifted. However unlike many/all of you the mother fucker VEHEMENTLY opposed my dedication to lifting.
From the day I touched a barbell as a teenager, I was the recipient of some of the most harsh, mentally deranged , logic defying verbal tirades, accusations, criticisms, delusional stories and just bona fide organic mental illness. It was the expression of my passion for something which he sought to destroy with his sickness. In his presence you would have thought lifting/working out was akin to the world’s greatest sin.
To this day, more than 25 years later, the mother fucker (in his mid-80s) still spews poison in his letters about my life-long pursuit of training. I still fantasize of a slow and brutal death for the mother fucker just as intensely as I did as a teenager. Yet there is no end in sight.
I envy all the posts I read on this thread. Wish I had it that good.[/quote]
Take a deep breath and let it go man. Life is to short to continue to let you have this much hate. [/quote]
Well fortunately he’s far away and I recently started dumping his letters (without reading them) in the trash. This has helped greatly.
-Thanks
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No worries man, its harder when its family. I have had to make some of those hard choices in life in regards to family.
[quote]MaximusB wrote:
Never lifted a weight but was strong from manual labor type stuff.
He couldn’t bench press 135 to save his life, but could tool me in wrestling as I stood 6’1 250ish at the time.
He was 6’3 and 235 so the loss didn’t sting too much.[/quote]
By “couldn’t bench press 135 to save his life,” do you mean he just wasn’t good at lifting, or that he literally couldn’t bench 135? I’d find the latter a little hard to believe, just due to his size alone lol.
Dad was a college wrestler in the 1950s. 5’11" and wrestled at 136. Bought my brother and me a bench and weight set when I was 6 years old as he wanted us to become champion wrestlers. Lifted with us as kids until his back gave out in his mid-50s. I dedicate every powerlifting competition I do to him. My young daughters love to lift with me whenever they can.
Ironically, my brother and I never wrestled as our town dropped wrestling shortly after my father bought us the weight set.
My father lifted from as far back as I can remember; he was a high school athlete and coached baseball and football for youth leagues into his 30s. There was always a weight set in the basement and he always had large arms, though I don’t recall seeing him do a lot of leg work. I’m going to be 34 next month and I don’t recall a time of there NOT being a bench, barbell, plates and DBs in our basement.
Dad is in his mid-50s now, and while he has quite a lipid retirement community hanging around that midsection, he still has a full gym in the basement and keeps in decent shape for his age. Dad is 5’11" and can still consistently bench 225 lbs, though he’s not nearly as lean and mean as he was 20+ years ago (at that time I’d say 5’11" and 185-190 lbs with a solid core and low BF).
I think my dad used to lift a little back in college. He was a swimmer (swam the mile), so I think all he ever used to do was light, high-rep pulldowns. He always half-discouraged me from lifting. Nothing overly subversive, just the usual “don’t get too big - you don’t want to end up looking like a freak” type stuff. I wanted to start lifting when I was 8 or 9, but my parents were adamantly opposed.
I wasn’t allowed to get a pair of DBs until I was 10, and they finally relented and got me my first bench for my 12th bday and my first gym membership when I turned 13.
[quote]Steel Nation wrote:
I think my dad used to lift a little back in college. He was a swimmer (swam the mile), so I think all he ever used to do was light, high-rep pulldowns. He always half-discouraged me from lifting. Nothing overly subversive, just the usual “don’t get too big - you don’t want to end up looking like a freak” type stuff. I wanted to start lifting when I was 8 or 9, but my parents were adamantly opposed.
I wasn’t allowed to get a pair of DBs until I was 10, and they finally relented and got me my first bench for my 12th bday and my first gym membership when I turned 13.[/quote]
How does he react to you now? You’ve got one of the more impressive physiques on this site in my opinion…
[quote]Steel Nation wrote:
I think my dad used to lift a little back in college. He was a swimmer (swam the mile), so I think all he ever used to do was light, high-rep pulldowns. He always half-discouraged me from lifting. Nothing overly subversive, just the usual “don’t get too big - you don’t want to end up looking like a freak” type stuff. I wanted to start lifting when I was 8 or 9, but my parents were adamantly opposed.
I wasn’t allowed to get a pair of DBs until I was 10, and they finally relented and got me my first bench for my 12th bday and my first gym membership when I turned 13.[/quote]
How does he react to you now? You’ve got one of the more impressive physiques on this site in my opinion…
[quote]strungoutboy21 wrote:
My dad didn’t lift but he was a UPS driver and did a lot of work around the house like building shit. He can pretty much hold his own.
As I remember as a kid, he also had a good size dad dick.
My dad lifted on an off. He played Center (football) for Ottawa, so he lifted for one year in college. Then lifted a few years once he moved to this state.
His stats are messed up because he had half his left bicep ripped off by a rock when he was younger (almost lost his arm). Dead lift was by far the lowest. I think he said around 3-315 (he could hold onto the bar with his right hand, but his left hand would just start slipping once it got around that weight. However, he has always been a farmer/rancher and before his last surgery he could easily jump off a horse and flip a calve or bulldog a steer (though he stopped doing that so much after his knee replacement surgery.
Bench was around 315 and squat was 400-500.
However, dad dick was pretty impressive when I was a kid. When I took a shower with him, if I walked between his legs I would have definitely get hit.
[quote]carbiduis wrote:
How much do I have to be able to lift for my future kid to respect me? …Or even consider me a “monster”[/quote]
It depends on the environment that the kid is raised in. I use myself as a benchmark. If someone isn’t stronger than me, they aren’t a monster.
[quote]carbiduis wrote:
How much do I have to be able to lift for my future kid to respect me? …Or even consider me a “monster”[/quote]
It depends on the environment that the kid is raised in. I use myself as a benchmark. If someone isn’t stronger than me, they aren’t a monster.[/quote]
so wait, all you have to be is stronger than your kid and he will consider you a monster?..pfft, that sounds easy
you’d just better hope that when your kid goes to school and talks about you…you’d better be the strongest dad.
[quote]carbiduis wrote:
How much do I have to be able to lift for my future kid to respect me? …Or even consider me a “monster”[/quote]
It depends on the environment that the kid is raised in. I use myself as a benchmark. If someone isn’t stronger than me, they aren’t a monster.[/quote]
so wait, all you have to be is stronger than your kid and he will consider you a monster?..pfft, that sounds easy
you’d just better hope that when your kid goes to school and talks about you…you’d better be the strongest dad.[/quote]
No lol.
[quote]Steel Nation wrote:
I think my dad used to lift a little back in college. He was a swimmer (swam the mile), so I think all he ever used to do was light, high-rep pulldowns. He always half-discouraged me from lifting. Nothing overly subversive, just the usual “don’t get too big - you don’t want to end up looking like a freak” type stuff. I wanted to start lifting when I was 8 or 9, but my parents were adamantly opposed.
I wasn’t allowed to get a pair of DBs until I was 10, and they finally relented and got me my first bench for my 12th bday and my first gym membership when I turned 13.[/quote]
How does he react to you now? You’ve got one of the more impressive physiques on this site in my opinion…[/quote]
I appreciate the compliment.
After college (when football ended), he started to give me a little more shit here and there about how I should just settle down and “work out” a little to be healthy, etc; but when I got married and had my first daughter that all stopped. Thankfully he is reasonable enough to recognize that I’m capable of making my own decisions about what I do with my time and money at this point in my life. So he has reached the “begrudging acceptance” stage now.
