[quote]Samir wrote:
That’s the worst life imaginable Edgy.
The rule of thumb for me is this: I intervene once un-solicited. I intervene if solicited. Aside from that, I leave the fate of a man in his own hands.
I was once 50% BF and someone intervened on me. Someone showed some caring. But then, I took the ball and ran with it. He didn’t need to give me the message twice.[/quote]
That’s great, Samir. I’d never have guessed you were once obese.
Thanks ID.
[quote]Ct. Rockula wrote:
[quote]kjmont wrote:
This is going to sound fucked up but is it possible he is trying to kill himself by doing this?[/quote]
I want to says its him being new to diabettes but suicide is a possiblity…
Sigh
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I’d say that you should really look at this, of course, if you are that invested in the person.
I watched my mom kill herself over the span of 40 odd years. It’s only recently that we came to understand the mental disease was always there, but the physical disease is what did her in.
The healthy approach to discovering you have diabetes, or any other manageable health issue, is to learn how to live and deal with it. Denial of the issue is a symptom of something else.
Hopefully he will learn how to handle the disease and control and monitor his BGL.
It’s not the death sentence that too many people make it out to be, IF you manage it and not let it manage you.
We get to run on too many EMS calls that are low BGL because the person isn’t very good at knowing how to manage the disease (mind you some of these people have been diabetics a long time). Others are people that just didn’t eat enough or the right kind of foods after taking their insulin.
Good luck with your friend.
Rock, look for the quiet, untold signs of depression and all things associated.
It sounds to me, from the minimal info that I can infer from, that there’s some kind of underlining issue here that isn’t being seen. I don’t think it’s as easy as “doesn’t give a fuck” or just “ignorant to how he needs to treat himself.”
Usually, if my physique / appearance / disposition towards ANYTHING starts to become noticeably dampened, it’s typically the times when I’m depressed, or just generally not in a good place. Who knows, he may have gotten this news and taken it very seriously - However, because he took it so seriously, he could see it as an ultimate dead-end, and may have lost the gusto to go into each day, ready to kick ass and take names.
I think the support group for the 'beetus is a great idea.
Also, again, I would pay attention to his subtle actions. I’m sure you know as well as anyone that legitimate depression is serious business, and if a person is feeling it more often than not they’re NOT looking for attention, but rather feel guilty about trying to call attention to themselves. It sounds like there’s a lot more going on underneath even what you can see from your angle, IMO.
Good luck with this man, that’s scary stuff. I can’t even imagine being there for a friend who was in a similar situation man. Updates along the way plz.