Demigod before 35 (Aldebaran)

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Tell me more about belts, please.

On the topic of the IG girl puts me in a Catch-22. I don’t want to make you feel bad about feeling bad. I agree with your friends and the replies you have gotten, you aren’t obligated to feel bad in this scenario.

Did she block you? If not, I believe this could be a situation wherein you could benefit from writing back that she made you feel bad despite not having a leg to stand on so you get to practice being an advocate for your own well-being. No-one is at fault, man or woman, for looking for a romantic, intimate, connection. One is well within their rights to do so, and it’s not a pre-requisite that one has room in life for the ones that don’t pan out to be kept as friends.

While not a perfect mental model for the human experience I believe that we, our bodies and our psyches become better at whatever it is we do. So, the more time you spend feeling bad the easier time you’ll have doing that again in the future. It becomes a habit.

Also, introspect why you feel bad. As an example, let’s say that you talked to some bloke and you suggested that the two of you hung out, he’d express non-interest and then you’d not see the point in continue writing. If he called you a carrion for not maintaining an online friendship then how would you react?

I fear you put women on pedestals. No-one, no person, male or female, belongs on one. Strive to view others as equals, it’s healthier.

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Not at all, I have a 3 years university degree in English and American litterature, and a Bacholor in Communication and marketing lol
But, sports is the only thing I’ve never burnt out of, and I’ve never worked so much for something. I’ve been reading stuff, and doing researches about this for years. Classmates are always like “yeah but he’s special” “he know everything, he’s done every technique you talk us about” lol it’s true, what I love about this and the human body, is that I’ll never stop learning.

Thanks, I quite like o-lifts. The speed and feeling is amazing. Thinking that soon I’ll be PRing 110 and 85

Sure you’ve read “the guide for lifting belts” here and all, and many gurus advocating “you should be able to pass your hand”. Well, I have wide hips, tiny waist, quite lean. If I can pass my hand there’s no way I can push against it. The guys training yesterday were a bit like my build, and they were tightening it as hell, like their “stomach” would go over the belt (they were lean). I always wanted to tighten it more on maxes, I think I have an idea of why. It’s just making the abs box stronger. Today my abs are quite sore. I could feel them already working hard during the first, beltless sets

No. But yeah you’re right, I probably put women on a pedestal. Truth is I’m a people pleaser, I want to avoid conflict.

Ah yes, going out of our comfort zone! I agree with you. Part of me wonders why bother, another wants to keep trying because whatever right, and it doesn’t matter! Maybe I was already in a bad spot because of lack of sleep + alcohol (low T then, and I suspect I don’t have much to begin with lolz). Maybe it’s the winter, night and all that carries a blue feeling!

We’ll see. Honestly I should focus my mind on more useful things lol. Gonna take a 45 min walk with the dog, then try to study

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Feel free to ignore this if I’m misunderstanding your situation or intentions, I’m not caught up on the matter, this sounds like complete bogus, and or I am overstepping boundaries. But you seem consistently frustrated about this topic, so…

I’m not sure social media and dating apps are the way to go. Women are selective (obviously) and in some cases entitled, and apps accentuate this because there’s always another guy to DM or swipe. Not a problem for people who seek hook-ups, but it can definitely make things more difficult for those looking for more. Rejection becomes so much easier thanks to convenience and the number of people that can be reached. People also think they know what they want, much like they shop online and filter products by desired features. Sometimes their intuition is right, but in many cases it can be wrong. Not to mention a lot of people who use social media and dating apps don’t take them very seriously anyway, more like a time waster for them. So, as virtual interaction is already limited relative to in-person interaction, it can be harder to understand the other person’s intentions.

Of course, those are simply my opinions. I am a straight woman, so I have no personal experience on your side of things. I have read stories of people having great success using the Internet to find romantic partners. All that said, I know it’s difficult to meet new people during COVID. And feel free to ignore this if you feel similarly/DM people more as a result of the pandemic. But have you tried, for example, finding a group/club to meet people with common interests? Even outside of your educational program. For example, I don’t know how popular it is in Europe, but Meetup is not a terrible website to find organizations that meet regularly. Could be a good way to make a more genuine connection if that’s what you want.

It’s possible that you and or the other person are not communicating effectively, leading to misunderstanding. Do you ever have these moments when chatting with people platonically, regardless of gender? Maybe you’re only reporting the issues with women. But if not, then maybe you are putting women on a pedestal like @Voxel suggests

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No please, this is appreciated, any advice is!

I agree with you there. Never been one keen on hookups, and in retrospective, all the girls I ever dated, I met in person before chatting up.
And yeah the actual social climate is not great, especially with the younger generations, which I’m close to despite my age lol (I hang out with 18-25 all the time). It feels like most things aren’t real anymore, and anything or anyone can be discarded for the “next shiny item”, because of convenience, and a profusion of potential partners.

I’m not chatting more because of the virus though, but indeed it has become extremelly difficult to meet someone through regular means. We barely went out of lockdown, but there’s an 8pm curfew, and most likely another lockdown on the way.

Like I said, I just chatted 3 girls I’d never met before in 8 months. I don’t seek out that much for someone. I’m as happy as I ever was, and I know being in a couple involves losing some freedom and stuff, and I’m not willing to lose these for any random girl. I prefer being in a couple sure, and I have the male hormones of a gym goer lol so it’s juste that when I find someone that pleases me I’ll want to engage.

I don’t, no. But it’s most likely true what @Voxel says. Problem is when I’m chatting non platonically with a girl, it’s most likely that I find her stunning or very charming or whatever, and as such, any sense of objectivism is quite lost.

For sure, and I’m aiming to work on my communication ahah

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Dude if you want to stop putting women on a pedestal then share a house with one for a couple of years

Holy fuck me, that’s a red pill

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Dude. This is me to a T!

I’m currently getting screwed over by a warranty company because the bank was negligent with a contract. It’s looking like I’m going to have to take the bank to court to make a long story short.

I hate conflict, normally I’d accept my fate and walk away, but with this we are talking multi thousands of dollars.

My girlfriend is a 2nd year law school student.

She has “motivated” me to step outside my comfort zone. I don’t like it :joy: it feels like shot being “that guy”.

I put women on pedestals too, so I also feel you on that one.

Sad mane. Real sad.

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Rofl maybe the issue is precisely that I never shared a house with one!

22/12

A. Shoulder routine (10 band dislocates + 10 no-moneys + 10 spread-aparts + 10 subscapular push-ups)

B. “JT”
21-15-9
HSPU
Dips
Push-ups

C. Abs work:
3 x 10 Dead bugs
3 x max crunches
3 x max duration hollow holds

Little session today. Did the shoulder routine as best as I could, especially the spread-aparts, by letting the scapulas adduction and abduction occur instead of packing them the whole time. Oh boy my shoulders were burning! Now I want mini bands for spider crawls!

The JT lol… Didn’t wanted to do pulling stuff today to let my elbow recover a bit more. Looked easy, but the HSPU were hell. I tried doing one cheated, but nope, had not done them in 2 years and I failed, so all strict. Felt really weak and soft today. It was really tough.

Then just some easy abs work to get it back smoothly. Really loving the deadbug, I have great burning in my whole core

I feel horrible today, weak, soft and fat. I guess this is what four days off, with a profusion of fast food, some alcohol and low sleep will do to you. Bloated and full of water. Also I had eaten before that, so these are really like the worst shape I’ll be this winter. Left the full vid because I found myself really terrible there and you can admire my non-glory (then again, I spared you side shots because I really look worse there). really the kick in the butt to start being serious. Good thing this t-ransformation is coming along! Weight: 87 something

Also, I was bored and wrote an 8 page essay on post activation potentiation

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Maaaan I feel you so much! Used to always say yes to everything my boss asked, even absurd stuff like “please come tomorrow at 6 am instead of 11 and do 3 hours overtime for free” and I’m barely able to say no now (did this the otther day) and I know I am still too freaking nice with everybody.

I think it’s a good think mate, and that we have to step out of it. Been doing it (trying at least) for a solid year and it’s the best I’ve ever felt. For sure I’ll never be a dark badass or whatever, like my friend says to me (“you’re too nice with girls, they think they already own you when you’re not together so they aren’t attracted” and so on) but at least I can affirml myself more lol

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It’s rough for guys like us man. No telling how many opportunities I’ve missed out on and where I could be now had I had the balls/lack of conscious that most people in this world seem to have.

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Since no one knows what these conversations are exactly (and I’m not suggesting you share word-for-word, simply saying this), no one knows if you have communication issues. So while I mentioned a potential personal communication issue, I think this “bug” is so inherent to solely online interactions that it often times isn’t that someone needs to be “fixed.” This is why I suggest offline communication, or at the very least an online medium that more easily leads to that. I know it’s hard during COVID; I’m experiencing it myself.

I’m going to sort of avoid the putting women on a pedestal topic because though you seem like a decent dude, I don’t want to make assumptions on your viewpoints toward women nor do I want to have a political discussion. And I realize going down that rabbit hole gets at biological and societal norms in some cases, so it’s not really you alone.

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Well I think, because I’m quite shy and reserved, sometimes I’m not clear or direct enough when I talk. But in any case, I’m not going to change much of my talking, or play a role or whatever, since I seek someone for long-term, I’ll just be myself otherwise there’s no point.

So yeah when my friend tells me I’m too nice, perhaps I am… But that’s me ahah.

Well, putting women on a pedestal, what does it even mean? For me it’s from South Park the movie ahah. I just think that when we like somebody, well we’re not very objective, no matter the sex

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Regarding social media stuff. It is literally you have to write to 100 girls to get 1 or 2 dates. My last two girlfriends were from instagram. My current fiance I also found on instagram.

I am not the most social gathering guy. And most of my friends are already married or in a serious relationship. I also live in a small city, maybe it is a town now - about 90 000 ppl. The bars and clubs are the same and they are not my place. So I though social media is my thing. And it turned out to be. But it can be frustrating. There are way too many guys DMing girls and you have to be kind of lucky to find the proper girl. It is not an easy thing, you have to invest time and not to care at all about the rejections or interactions. Girls who do like you, will be more inviting and nice. You should be trying to find such girls and be nice to them. The rest is easy.

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I’m more the other way around. Very social. I like the fact that on an evening three different groups of people will call me to hang out. So this lockdown is bumming me out. Right now I’m on school holydays, just working, and this is bugging me for instance. Spending too much time in my house for my taste.

Well honestly, as tempting the end result is, I can’t be bothered spending so much time and energy on this, I have too much to do already, and more concrete things. Also I’m very picky ahahah

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You’re young, good looking, following your passion and most of the way to Greek god status. You don’t need to concern yourself too much with seeking out a relationship, they will find you.

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I tried for quite some time to find the quote but didn’t so I’ll have to paraphrase, I believe it was @T3hPwnisher that wrote “this”

“Only you can let yourself feel a certain way”

Or maybe “let” was “make”. Either way, you own your own value system and moral compass. If it’s causing you too much stress/anxiety/feeling bad: change it.

Obviously, if there’s a mental health issue this doesn’t really apply. Can’t just go “I won’t be depressed anymore” and cure depression.

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Yes I think there’s true to that. But I didn’t feel depressed. There are just days where you feel a bit down because of life events and lack of sleep!

@dagill2 if you love writings programs so much then write me some stuff to do one day that you’re bored ahahah…

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For me, a key point here is to recognise why you’re feeling that way. Feel lacking in energy and down? Is that because you’re a shitty human being or isn’t because you’ve drunk too much and slept too little? Recognising what’s causing these things is so important for me. As always: YMMV

I’m never bored, but it is something I can do while doing other things. Give me some parameters though and I’ll have a ponder.

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My point was in relation to how you responded to her behaviour. Your emotional response is something that has been conditioned. You can condition yourself to react differently.

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True dat. Non easy to do though…

Whatever makes me bigger, stronger, faster, more endurant… All of that or any of these while maintaining the rest.

Here’s a template I came through:

DAY 1.

A. Back squat ratchet loading with isometric-dynamic contrast, pause in the bottom

1 x 75% with 2 secs pause
3 x 75% with 3-2-1 pause

1 x 80% with 2 secs pause
3 x 80% with 3-2-1 pause

1 x 85% with 2 secs pause
3 x 85% with 3-2-1 pause

B. Deadlift ratchet loading with isometric-dynamic contrast, pause just over the ground

1 x 75% with 2 secs pause
3 x 75% with 3-2-1 pause

1 x 80% with 2 secs pause
3 x 80% with 3-2-1 pause

1 x 85% with 2 secs pause
3 x 85% with 3-2-1 pause

C. Snatch-grip iso-dynamic RDL

3 x 6 with three 2 seconds pauses on concentric

D. Bulgarian split squat with intra-set contrast

4 x 10 seconds pause + 3 reps + 10 seconds pause + 3 reps + 10 seconds pause + 3 reps

E. 45° back extension with intra set contrast

4 x 10 seconds pause + 3 reps + 10 seconds pause + 3 reps + 10 seconds pause + 3 reps

F. Kettlebell pull-through

4 x 8 per side

DAY 2

A. Bench press ratchet loading with isometric-dynamic contrast, pause at weak point

1 x 75% with 2 secs pause
3 x 75% with 3-2-1 pause

1 x 80% with 2 secs pause
3 x 80% with 3-2-1 pause

1 x 85% with 2 secs pause
3 x 85% with 3-2-1 pause

B. JM press with two 4 seconds pauses

4 x 5

C. Pull-up with two 4 seconds pauses

4 x 5

D1. Cable rows with isometric-dynamic contrast

4 x 6 with 6-5-4-3-2-1 pauses

D2. Dumbbell press with isometric dynamic contrast

4 x 6 with 6-5-4-3-2-1 pauses

E1. Dumbbell curls with pre-fatigue isometric hold

3 x 10 seconds hold + 10 reps

E2. Kettlebell lying triceps extensions with pre-fatigue isometric hold

3 x 10 seconds hold + 10 reps

DAY 3

A1. Rower 500m (moderate intensity)

A2. farmer’s walk max distance in 2 minutes

1 minute pause, 6-8 rounds

DAY 4

A. Clean with two 2 seconds pause ramp up to 3RM

B. Back squat 5 x 3 with 50% (counting bands)

C. Clean 80% of 3RM clusters

2 x 3 + 3 + 3 + 3 + 3

D. Power clean HDL

2 x 5 seconds pause + 5 reps + 4 seconds pause + 4 reps + 3 seconds pause + 3 reps + 2 seconds pause + 2 reps + 1 seconds pause + 1 rep

E. 80% of clean 3RM

20 Cleans + + Front squat + 20 Deadlift + 20 Burpees over bar

DAY 5

A. Airdyne go hard for 45 secs
Rest 20 seconds
Front squat 10 reps at 50%
Rest 90 seconds

B. Airdyne go hard for 45 secs
Rest 20 seconds
10 pull-ups

C. Airdyne go hard for 45 secs
Rest 20 seconds
Thrusters 10 reps at 50%

D. Airdyne go hard for 45 secs
Rest 20 seconds
Max burpees in 30 seconds

A. Airdyne go hard for 45 secs
Rest 20 seconds
20 Wall-ball

  • 1 random short WOD

DAY 6

A. Jerk 10 seconds pause in dip

4 x 3

B. Speed bench with bands

5 x 3

C. Muscle snatch + Behind the neck Snatch Press + Overhead squat

4 x 5 + 3 + 5

D1. Weighted dips x 6

D2. Weighted pull-ups x 6

D3. Dips x max

D4. Pull-ups x max

D5. Push-ups x max

D6. Kipping pull-ups x max

3 minutes rest, 3 rounds

E. 15 Floor to overhead + 10 Burpees over bar + 1 Rope climb + 10 Burpees over bar + 15 Floor to overhead

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Yeah, you’re not going to get a template that detailed from me. I’m not smart enough to program things this complicated:

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