Always down for doggo pics! I also like to play the guessing game - Staffie cross Collie?
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Staff / Boxer
So, lots of worrying this week. In the process of moving in with the GF but it’s tough.
She’s very “maniaque” as we say in French, meaning she’s obsessed with cleaning and cleanliness. I’m the opposite.
I don’t care about much things, I’m very tunnel vision, I often forget things, and quite nonchalant. I’m not a stressed person, and I see things in terms of optimization and usefulness (I am on the spectrum)
Anyway so my habits have to change there. I come home, I have to wash my hands immediately (because I touch a filthy door know), remove my shoes, clean immediately everything etc. etc.
I have a sweater with a hole in my elbows and she hates this. I don’t care but she says I look like a kid.
And I feel she’s always on my back, telling me what to do, when to do it, and if I don’t I’m a kid. Geez.
When i eat I immediately clean everything, use soad, then even vacuum afterwards. What more do you want woman?
I did the annoying things, waking up at 5 for a shit job and a nagging boss. I don’t want a nagging wife.
I want to do what I want to do, when I want to do. I want to work the weekend if I want, and have moments alone (I guess I need quite a lot of them).
Of course obviously, I know I have to do some efforts, find a middle ground, but it’s draining, and I feel like living with a cop watching my every moves, and I end up being afraid of doing some things, or doing them wrong.
Stuff like that… I am sensitive and when she says stuff like that, I take them badly. Because, to me, i’m doing a lot of efforts, more than I ever did, and feel not understood, or that it’s never good enough.
Time will tell. I talked with her. It feels good anyway.
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04/03
Project Colossus… Once again
A/ Slight Decline DB Bench
1 x 8, 1 x 8 + drop with 40 kilos
Going it easy because the shoulder is still not quite healed
B/ Incline Bench
6, 6, 5
70, 80, 85. Yeah, not healed!
C/ Chest Press
1 x 15 + triple rest pause with 90 kilos I think
Wasn’t painful so that’s great
D/ Cable Fly
1 x 10 + 15 secs iso-hold
Just did once, figured my chest was fried, and indeed the pump was amazing!
E/ Seated DB Press
2 x 10 with 30 kilos
F/ DB Lateral Raise
1 x 10 + 2 drops
G/ Reverse Cable Fly
2 x 25
Everything felt great
H/ Pushdown on Pullup Machine
2 x 12
I/ DB Triceps Extension
2 x 12 with 16 kilos
Too heavy! But no 14 kilos in sight
Overall everything felt great, and a nice skin splitting pump. I needed a change of mind
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05/03 - Legs
A/ Lying Leg Curl
1 x 8 + 10 partials + 30 iso-hold
Felt great in my hammies
B/ Squat
8 with 80, 90, 90
Went light as I had not squatted in more than a month. No belt, and no sleeves (I lost them a few weeks back???)
C/ Bulgarian Split Squat
3 secs eccentric, 2 secs hold, to failure, with the 20…
Tough but not as much as I remembered
D/ Leg Press
2 x 10
Had to use an horizontal one. Not the bestest. Went deep and light.
E/ RDL
2 x 10 with 80. 3 secs eccentric and 1 sec stretch.
It’s a theme today, also light.
F/ Calves
2 x 10 + 10 partials + 10 sec stretch
Also not the worst but I wasn’t really in the mood.
After the squat, got into an argument with the gf. “It’s annoying I don’t know what the next exercises are. What are they?” But with an agressive tone and the more pronounced French version of “annoying”.
She’s been grumpy and negative lately and I didn’t like her tone so I told her that everything was annoying her anyway. She then became even more agressive and asked “like what?”
I told her of something that annoyed her 2 days ago and she stormed off ruminating.
She spent the rest of the hour walking on the treadmill.
Then home, a very cold situation. We argued about something else and then she told le to fuck off.
I really don’t like this disrespect. This was too much.
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There’s really no “winning move” here. This looks like score-keeping form an outside perspective.
Training with a romantic partner is VERY difficult.
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Maybe… It saddens me because deep down I know behind her tough mask she’s fragile, tired, stressed and all… And that she cares about me. I don’t want her to be hurt or sad.
I’m just venting anyway. I need self-reflection and thinking. Also, see my friends!
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This goes over SO much better. It’s very easy to match energy in these heated situations, and it just results in escalation. It’s hard, but when the heat starts getting turned up, I try my best to re-establish the baseline. Saying what you’re thinking here can really go far.
But I get the need to vent as well.
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Lots of turmoil again these couple of days, almost split up. I’ll set boundaries, reflect on myself, and act accordingly.
07/03 - Pull Pump - 60 secs rest everywhere!
A/ Pull-Ups
15, 13, 12
Last week I did 20 and my first set so yeah these events had a toll on my mind, and as such, my body.
B/ Pull Down - 2 x 10 with 75 kilos
Good feeling!
C/ Smith-Row
3 x 10 with 60 kgs
Why was it so tough?
D/ Hyperextension
2 x 20
E/ Preacher Curl
2 x 8 + 6 partials with 34 kgs
Never been a fan of these, but today they felt okay. Used the completely flat side (90°) instead of the angled side of the bench.
F/ Reverse Curl
2 x 20 + 10 partials with 20 kgs
G/ Cable Crunch
3 x 12 with 75 kgs
Overall a good, nice, fast session. Ended up with around 15 mins of stairmaster, which was okay!
Today feeling a bit sick, very tired, and headachy. Ate a bigger breakfast. It’s also pouring outside, which compromise my daily goal of 15 000 steps. I’ll probably do some cardio around noon if I find the courage.
Also very surprised to find out a couple of days ago that I lost weight again despite my “cheats” this weekend. So that’s 85,7 kilos. Starting from 93 in january, and net even counting hmmm
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What the hell? You are back, good to see your log my dude.
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My man, it’s been a while… Yes, honestly, I probably don’t have as much time as I used to here, but I’ve been drawn once again to wander these forums. I figured that I also could give ideas to other people, in a month or so when I’m doing my own programming (or a mix of many things) to improve performance, like I drew inspiration so many times here.
I haven’t really been tracking my diet lately, but here’s how is it usually:
• Breakfast : 3 eggs, 1 slice of ham, fresh spinach, 1 slice of bread (around 100 kcal for a slice)
• Dinner : around 200g of meat, usually lean chicken with tbh not even 100g of carbs (pre-cooking) and some vegetables, usually a fruit
• Snack : around 300g of fatfree yogurt, 30g of muesli, a scoop of whey and a fruit
• Supper : like the dinner.
Trying to do 15 000 steps per day but it’s harder for instance today when there’s an actual storm outside
08/03 - Push Pump
A/ Incline DB Bench
12 x 40, 12 x 36, 8 x 36
I was too greedy here (1 minr est is brutal) but happy that my shoulder is feeling better)
B/ Squeeze Press
3 x 8-10 with 22 kgs
This exercise always created a searing burning sensation. I get why people would say it’s not optimal, and I’m sure it isn’t, but have they tried it correctly at least ? Slow reps and a good squeeze at the top
C/ Stretch Push-up
2 x max (was around 15)
Always a nice thing
D/ Partial Lateral Raise + DB Press
2 x 20 + 6 with 18 kgs
Tough as nails
E/ Pushdown
12, 8 with 75 kgs
Squeezed out the last exercise and went home. A nice, quick session. The pump was unreal
Shape during the session, crazy pump!!! Though that day I was a bit sick, very tired after the previous day’s events, and I ate 200g of hazelnut white chocolate
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11/03 - Pull
A/ Seated Row
1 x 8 + 6 (drop) with 100 kgs
B/ Rack Pull
1 x 5 with 180, 5 with 160 (drop)
Barbell around mid-shin, a bit lower. I had not deadlifted in two months maybe? I went way too heavier ahah and today my lower back is sooooore
C/ Pull-ups
16, 13
D/ Stretch-assisted Pulldown
2 x 8 with 65 kgs
These always felt weird, and more in my arms, but I don’t mind some arms
E/ Cable Crunch
2 x 10 with 90 kgs
F/ EZ Bar Curl
12 with 30, 8 with 40
Went too light at first but that’s okay. They felt good for once!
G/ Hammer Curl
2 x 20 with 10 or 12 I don’t remember
These felt super good as well! Doing them way stricter, elbows a bit forward
A shorter, nice session.
12/03 - Push
A/ Slight Decline DB Bench
8 with 42, then 46 + drop
Really surprised there! My shoulder is not quite healed yet, I can feel it, but it felt way more stable and no pain! I didn’t think i could use that weight!
B/ Incline Bench
6 with 70, 75, 80
Went lighter, didn’t want to grind it out like last time
C/ Dips
Was supposed to do the chest press first but too many people. They felt good at first but as the reps went on, I could feel some strain and slight pain. I’m not ready for these yet! So I only did one set and stretched afterwards.
D/ Banded Chest Press
2 x 6
E/ Reverse Fly
2 x 30 with 12,5 kgs
F/ Lateral Raise
2 x 8 with 16 kgs
Very satisfied with the form
G/ OVH French press
2 x 12 with 30 kgs
H/ Floor DB Extension
2 x 8-9 with 14 kgs
Too heavy, but no other dumbbells!
Was alone this time, so I walked between all sets, and rythm was faster. Good session!
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Not much training here. I took my stuff today and went back to my mom. Needless to say the gf took it horribly bad. Was to expected considering her personality.
I was simplys saturating and was feeling very bad, I needed some air, to reflect and think. She took it like I was running away.
We’ll see how it goes, but considering her ego, it’s probably dead.
Well, that’s a lot of pain in my heart, but also a lot of free time to work on my projects.
There’s always a silver lining.
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Hope you feel better soon!
I don’t think this is specific to your gf. It seems to be a gender difference- men see distance (e.g., going away for a bit, not talking) as reflection and women see it as abandonment.
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Yes.
Are you going to try to negotiate changes in the relationship, or are you done? If changes, you should tell her this straight out. “I need some time to reflect, but when we’re both ready I would be interested in discussing ways to make it work for both of us.” That way she can be reflecting, too, on what happened and what could be different.
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Yes, negotiate and reflect, I told her that. I’m reflecting on what I really want, and what I thought I would be okay with, but actually deep down wasn’t.
But she wasn’t having it. She perceived me taking my stuff and going back to Ma as a sign of cowardice and running away, that if I’m acting like this at the first argument, what will it going to be with kids etc…
I’ll send her another message in a couple of days, and we’ll see.
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Theorycrafting.
4 more weeks to go with Colossus. Planning to keep losing weight, especially after this weekend’s calorie binging. Get in my best, aesthetic, shape ever!
Then, start of CrossFit prep for 6 months. I want to do a few comps this summer.
But, it will be my own planning, not what I think would be the best CrossFit planning.
• More hypertrophy work, because I like them muscles and it’s also useful for social media.
• Some whacky stuff, I have on my hands a few Westside progs, and I want to incorporate some of their stuff here and there just for fun and learning (Reverse Band Clean, pure isometric snatch hold, overcoming iso deadlift, dimmel deadlift…) also having fun with my chains again, I miss them!
• No running, and most likely less jumping and olifting because of my arthrosis
• Less skill handstand and gymnastic work because I don’t like walking on my hands like a monkey and kipping aggravates my shoulder hehe
Program will vary along the months and what I feel I need or I want.
Most likely will start like this :
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Monday : Max Effort Lower
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Tuesday : Strongman endurance / Aerobic conditioning
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Wednesday : Max Effort Upper
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Thursday : Aerobic Conditioning
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Friday : Speed/Technical Lower
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Saturday : Speed/Technical Upper
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Sunday : Vanity work and recovery
Will most likely deviate fast from the original speed work to something heavier and more focused on technical mastery (initial olifting plan calls for something like speed squats, speed deadlift, and clean on the same day… might be too much volume considering I have to do cardio and shit)
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18/03 - Pull
A/ One-arm Barbell Row
1 x 8 + 6 with 5 and 3 plates
Felt significantly weaker on my left side…
B/ Snatch-Grip Deadlift
1 x 10 with 140 kgs
I never really liked the rack pull here in this program… I think I’d rather do pure strength or even better, speed work here. That’s what I’ll do next week. The sets of 10 I prefer at the end of the session
C/ Pull-ups
13 and 12
D/ Meadows Row
12 with 3 and 3 and a half plate.
Was supposed to only do 8 the second set but I forgot. Seems like the first set was so hard because of fatigue.
E/ Pull-over
2 x 12 with 36 kgs
F/ V-up
3 x max
G/ Preacher Hammer Curl
2 x 10 with 14 kgs
H/ Cable Curl
2 x 12
Tough session, I as very fatigued, especially after the deadlift. I should go lighter on the big compounds next times.
Talked with the gf, she is full of anger, and sees as a betrayal that I left. She doesn’t know if she can forgive me, trust me again or would fear living in stress that I would leave again etc…
She said she would think about giving it a go again.
Less than 24 hours later she’s sending me texts “why are you playing dead? You’re steering me towards the negative side, making me think you don’t care yadi yada”
She wanted me to pursue her… I feel it’s just ego ughhh. I thought I’d leave her alone to think and make a decision… And we talked…
Today I wake up, I decide to send her a good morning text, and I see she had once again a jealous behaviour on my instagram page (made a video about chest training not diminishing boobs size and girls commented), so I explained to her haphazardly as I was still in my bed and barely awaken, and she took badly a word I said, like I was belittling her…
Truth is I’m annoyed most likely because it’s been the same for 2 years. I don’t care about girls but she’ll always be jealous because of my work, and it just tires me down trying to reassure her…
FFS I’m barely awaken and it’s conflict. I fully understand her side, that she can take badly some things, or be jealous etc… but I only see annoyance from the start of the day… Maybe I don’t love her enough to have the strength to endure this “bullshit” lol? Are all relationships always permanent “conflict” about tiny things
I was soooo crazy in love and endured so much pain while she was acting “as a bitch” (her own words) and each time my love would diminish. Now that she’s fully in I feel she loves me more than the opposite and I don’t feel passion anymore, but do we need it? Ughhh
anyway, yesterday’s shape (back pump, medium lightning, bad quality)
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No. There will be conflicts that never resolve due to differences in personality or upbringing, but they should not dominate the relationship.
Why isn’t she thinking about changes SHE can make? Why only you?
To be faire she is, or at least she’s saying she is, and has been seeing a therapist for 2 almost years
I was thinking about it during my walk, and you know what, I want to be able to sit down on my couch, in my home, when I come exhausted from the gym without having to change clothes.
I just don’t want to live with these stupid rules. I’ll tell her that, even though she’ll mist likely theb label me as anormal/unhygienic/a pig/a freak
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She is OCD.