Dealing with People Staring You Down?

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[quote]waylanderxx wrote:
Staring down is so funny, it’s one of those instances that lasts for a matter of seconds but seems like it lasts for an hour.

Side note: You know how when you go to the zoo’s and see the gorilla’s the tour guides tell you not to stare them in the eye? Well I decided to be a jack ass when I went to the zoo a few years ago, pushed my face right up to the glass and stared at this big ass silverback gorilla.

I kept mouthing “You!” and pointing my finger at him. That thing charged the fucking glass and did it’s chest thumping deal, scared the shit out of me lol.

NEVER try to stare down gorillas.[/quote]

LOL, that was fucking funny.

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[quote]LiftSmart wrote:
I was at a lecture yesterday with a bunch of people and I was eating a huge sandwich.

I glanced up from my sandwich and this tough looking guy was staring directly at me.

I got startled and looked away. I feel as if I failed some test. [/quote]

Did you drop the sandwich?

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[quote]NeedforStrength wrote:
Stare at them right back and risk getting into a verbal confrontation/fight, or just glance and walk away? Where I live there’s always morons who think their hardcore trying to stare you down, what do you guys normally do?? and am I pussy if I just glance at them and then stare right ahead as I walk by when this happens??[/quote]

  1. Look back with puzzled expression.
  2. Look into nostrils in mirror.
  3. Trim nose hairs.
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It really depends on the situation. If you do decide to stare back, you better not be bluffing. I have been to places where you avoid even looking certain people in the eye at all if you want to live. That’s a cut and dry situation.

What I find the most confusing is business meetings. I don’t think people are trying to stare me down because they want to fight, but I think people make an effort to be the last one to break eye contact. I guess the trick is to learn how to break eye contact subtly if you want to avoid getting into staring competitions.

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The one time I did look away was when guy pulled a gun in a club, fired it. He came outside past me and my woman. He was all gorrilla’d up, gun in his right hand. When he looked to me, I looked away till he past us. I did the right thing in that case. I definately wanted him to think I was scared.

I think that Professor X mentioned something with reference to “starer”. Sometimes the “starer” is not trying to stare people down, but might be a focused individual.

The ones we are trying to talk about, are the ones trying to punk people down.

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This reminds me of this.

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[quote]skaz05 wrote:
I usually just give them a big sheepish grin and wave. Most of the time they will nod, smile, or look away. I get a lot of “tough guy” sneers, some douche will walk past me, puff his chest out, spit, and give me the “tough guy” sneer. I honestly have no idea why anyone would act this way toward me. But it is funny and cute when it happens, so I just laugh, or smile. Never had anything escalate to shouting or fighting.

One time on the freeway, these two girls were staring at me. i just looked over and started making funny faces, pushing my face onto the window. The started rolling with laughter. Then the driver signaled for me to pull over.

Ii didn’t. I totally regret that, she was pretty cute.[/quote]
Dude…
That could have been epic.

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The best option is usually making eye contact and then looking away after a second or two. The ‘I see you, and I don’t give a shit’ look, if the guy is trying to be threatening, or the ‘Oh, hey, another person’ look if the guy is just looking at you, with no unsavory intent. It’s a multi-purpose look.

Of course, sometimes you just say ‘fuck it’ and stare at some motherfucker like you’re about to eat his soul, which is okay, too. Not smart or safe, but it happens.

I get stared at a lot, mostly because I look like a weird motherfucker. I also stand up really straight, which annoys people. I also may or may not be guilty of a near-constant shit-eating grin (I’m not the only one, admit it).

Once I was walking with a friend along the walk at some shopping center(outdoors). We were in a section toward the end of the plaza that was mostly deserted, except for two shady-looking guys, who were talking to each other. One guy was rather large(fat meathead look) and was sitting no a bike. He took it upon himself to stare me down. I employed my usual method and continued walking. He may or may not have called me a faggot. We kept walking, and ended up chatting up these two girls in a car from the street. Meathead rode by on his bicycle and said ‘Hey ladies’ and then disappeared. I think he had a crush on me.

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[quote]hardgnr wrote:
This reminds me of this.[/quote]

Classic.

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Stick it in her pooper.

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[quote]Makavali wrote:
Stick it in her pooper.[/quote]

Finally somebody gives great advice.
I really can’t see how this would go wrong

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[quote]imhungry wrote:
tom63 wrote:
FightinIrish26 wrote:
tom63 wrote:

What the hell kind of bars do you hang out in? I very seldom see a confrontation when I’m out. Aside from that I know how to avoid trouble by paying attention to my surroundings and avoiding trouble.

One bar I used to frequent all the time was like fucking Roadhouse. The bouncer was a huge black cat who was an ex(?) banger and was fucked up on southern comfort and coke all the time. He’d be selling coke on the side of the bar, and people would be blowing it in the bathroom. There was blood on the floor in that place every fucking night.

Friends of mine got stomped there once, another shattered a pint glass on a guy’s face another time. I had one guy try to fight me for saying, “Excuse me” as I was walking through.

It took a while but I outgrew that place. Other places are either in the hills or the ghetto, and I’ve seen shit go down at all of them.

Maybe I attract the wrong kind of people.

Maybe we don’t have as many wanna be tough guys here, or I’m big enough( I’m not that big), to old, or to married that people don’t seem to bother me.

Of course,a round here in Pa. I don’t see to many jacked guys. They don’t worry me at all. It’s the guys with guns that worry me. A 380 backup beats 275 lbs and a 500 lb bench if you’re not careful.

The best course I ever took was a lethal self defense course involving firearms. The instructors spent a lot of time teaching you how to be observant of your surroundings. I’ve dealt with the staring thing one time while out with a buddy a few years ago. I just ignored him but paid attention. He was very drunk and looking to be belligerent. the walked up behind my friend and I and called us a couple of faggots. I did not know this drunk ass.

I knew right where he was and already he had no weapon. After a minute or two of being ignored he sat back down and seemed to forget what he did. I was ready if he did anything, but it was a lot smoother night with no hassle which probably would not have been the case with a confrontation.

Ignoring them while you pay attention is the best idea. In the gym it could be as X said, you’re doing something right. Maybe the guy wants a spot or needs a hand.

I say it all the time- awareness is the key. I agree.

When we’re young we tend to look for excitement. Get a little older and you look for a nice night out. I’m mostly out with my wife and we’re together, so we very seldom attract negative attention. and we live in redneck land out here in Pa.

A few weeks ago I had a little confrontation with a drunkass rainman crazy type, but that didn’t go anywhere. He was tossed and banned. But that was the first in years for my wife and I.

Pa. has rednecks?? Where?[/quote]

Everywhere. Probably a larger population of rednecks than some southern states. We might have the most deer hunters out on our first day, maybe even more than Texas. We have a lot of farms, small coal mining towns, quad trails and so on.

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What if they look like this? Then you don’t know if they’re staring you down or the guy standing next to you.

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[quote]strangec wrote:
What if they look like this? Then you don’t know if they’re staring you down or the guy standing next to you.

[/quote]

or both

I started trying to yawn whenever someone would stare at me and see if they yawn. Its funny when it works and they stop staring , but i haven’t done enough research to call its effectiveness. Will report back.

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i’m an amped up dude, when i see ppl staring i gotta throw the high fives and invite them to parties

usually works, ive met alot of ppl doin this

but as far as girls staring

theres one at my gym who stares, i know i intimidate the shit out of her, and everyone knows she wants me lol

so everytime i catch her staring, i lick my lips and flex for her, followed by some eyefucking
she blushes then leaves

Eye fucking A more intense/seductive version of eye flirting. You find this person extremley attractive and you want to tear them apart right now. Could also be undressing with your eyes.
Licking of the lips may occur.

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[quote]imhungry wrote:
Pa. has rednecks?? Where?[/quote]

Ha! Yer jus bein funny.

'Round here, we don’t like funny…

(cue “Deuling Banjos”…)

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When I was 16 I was a “troubled youth”(probably too many people stared at me too long when I was young and stupid) and got put in a boot camp style program. It was our first week there and our guidon bearer was this kid named Caleb. Anyway he was at the front of the formation and we’re standing at attention (arms by the side looking straight ahead) and the Sergeant was messing with us. If someone moved he’d drop them and make them do push-ups.

Anyway, he comes up to where Caleb is standing and then stops…turns… and shouts right in Caleb’s face " WHY ARE YOU STARING AT ME? DO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM?" Caleb turns his head slowly and looks at the Sergeant and says the most piss your pants thing I have ever heard. “I AM NOT STARING AT YOU. I AM F#$KING CROSS EYED” and sure enough he was. Everyone busted up and the it blew the machismo right out of the Sergeant. He just walked away. Ah the old days.

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[quote]tom63 wrote:
imhungry wrote:
tom63 wrote:
FightinIrish26 wrote:
tom63 wrote:

What the hell kind of bars do you hang out in? I very seldom see a confrontation when I’m out. Aside from that I know how to avoid trouble by paying attention to my surroundings and avoiding trouble.

One bar I used to frequent all the time was like fucking Roadhouse. The bouncer was a huge black cat who was an ex(?) banger and was fucked up on southern comfort and coke all the time. He’d be selling coke on the side of the bar, and people would be blowing it in the bathroom. There was blood on the floor in that place every fucking night.

Friends of mine got stomped there once, another shattered a pint glass on a guy’s face another time. I had one guy try to fight me for saying, “Excuse me” as I was walking through.

It took a while but I outgrew that place. Other places are either in the hills or the ghetto, and I’ve seen shit go down at all of them.

Maybe I attract the wrong kind of people.

Maybe we don’t have as many wanna be tough guys here, or I’m big enough( I’m not that big), to old, or to married that people don’t seem to bother me.

Of course,a round here in Pa. I don’t see to many jacked guys. They don’t worry me at all. It’s the guys with guns that worry me. A 380 backup beats 275 lbs and a 500 lb bench if you’re not careful.

The best course I ever took was a lethal self defense course involving firearms. The instructors spent a lot of time teaching you how to be observant of your surroundings. I’ve dealt with the staring thing one time while out with a buddy a few years ago. I just ignored him but paid attention. He was very drunk and looking to be belligerent. the walked up behind my friend and I and called us a couple of faggots. I did not know this drunk ass.

I knew right where he was and already he had no weapon. After a minute or two of being ignored he sat back down and seemed to forget what he did. I was ready if he did anything, but it was a lot smoother night with no hassle which probably would not have been the case with a confrontation.

Ignoring them while you pay attention is the best idea. In the gym it could be as X said, you’re doing something right. Maybe the guy wants a spot or needs a hand.

I say it all the time- awareness is the key. I agree.

When we’re young we tend to look for excitement. Get a little older and you look for a nice night out. I’m mostly out with my wife and we’re together, so we very seldom attract negative attention. and we live in redneck land out here in Pa.

A few weeks ago I had a little confrontation with a drunkass rainman crazy type, but that didn’t go anywhere. He was tossed and banned. But that was the first in years for my wife and I.

Pa. has rednecks?? Where?

Everywhere. Probably a larger population of rednecks than some southern states. We might have the most deer hunters out on our first day, maybe even more than Texas. We have a lot of farms, small coal mining towns, quad trails and so on.

[/quote]

They’re EVERYWHERE?!?!? OH SHIT!!! starts packing

Well, yeah, i’m aware of those areas, but I just never thought of Pa. to be a redneck harboring state, that’s all.

Come to think about it, I was seeing this girl and we went to visit her mother, who lived in upstate Pa. and it was a tiny little town. They had a Walmart that had just opened and that was a pretty big deal.

So, yeah, I can understand what you’re saying.

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[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
imhungry wrote:
Pa. has rednecks?? Where?

Ha! Yer jus bein funny.

'Round here, we don’t like funny…

(cue “Deuling Banjos”…)
[/quote]

Throws Ned Beatty down and runs away

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[quote]waylanderxx wrote:
Staring down is so funny, it’s one of those instances that lasts for a matter of seconds but seems like it lasts for an hour.

Side note: You know how when you go to the zoo’s and see the gorilla’s the tour guides tell you not to stare them in the eye? Well I decided to be a jack ass when I went to the zoo a few years ago, pushed my face right up to the glass and stared at this big ass silverback gorilla.

I kept mouthing “You!” and pointing my finger at him. That thing charged the fucking glass and did it’s chest thumping deal, scared the shit out of me lol.

NEVER try to stare down gorillas.[/quote]

ROFLMFAO