Dani's Rebel Log

I think another aspect of the trauma/fitness link is the fear trauma leaves as a component of the personality. Fitness = control, which is absent for trauma sufferers. Fitness also = strength, which one can use to feel safe. For men the strength element may be straightforward (I can protect myself now) while for women the strength may come from increased desirability (in every realm; jobs, partners, athletics).

Fitness also FEELS strong, and that happens immediately. Even before noticeable strength gains, you experience a boost in confidence and sense of agency.

Fear motivates. Working out gives a sense of control and safety. Trauma victims crave these two things particularly.

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Point taken, but I was thinking a few steps beyond “problems” when I did the post. The people I posted about, and surely others, have gone through some real dark , tortuous stuff that I simply cannot relate to even if I have had my problems in life.

Thats a take I hadnt considered either. If you are at a point in your life (at one point) where suicide is a viable option, what does it matter if you take some drugs that might shave 5 years off your life 70 years from now?

Another great point. Sometimes peoples “hard” is another persons walk in the park.

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Absolutely! This thread and @T3hPwnisher are kind of my T Nation experience these days, largely in part to the content and the contributors!

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I think that is a bit of a generalization, but there may be some truth in it. It depends on how you define spoiled.

I feel like this also has some truth in it, but I also think there are examples for athletes coming from stable back grounds who have achieved great things.

The current WSM Mitch Hooper seems to have come from a pretty stable background and is definitely able to dig deep.

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I’m derailing this conversation with exercise, injury, and appearance stuff.

Chiro Results and Appointment

It’s a mild shoulder impingement. No biggie. Doc (also a lifter) encouraged me to do bottom-half lateral raises and bent over lateral raises, but said to avoid overhead work for now. He also recommended banded external rotation thingies, which used to be a staple but I got out of the habit.

Limiting the range of motion during lateral raises sounds like an ineffective way to hit the delts, but that’s where lateral raise machines and cables come in.

You can get the same amount of tension in the bottom portion of a rep that you would at the top. So this is not bad news at all. It’s absolutely possible to hit your shoulders with just machines.

Another fun thing about the appointment was that I walked in with my neck feeling kinda stuck. I couldn’t turn my head all the way to either side. So he adjusted it and I basically grew an inch and got all my head-turning capabilities back.

Some people don’t believe in the whole concept of chiropractic adjustments, but I’d rather not live without them. That would be miserable. You can have that life if you want it.

Today’s Workout

Lower Body

Main thing that was new: seated ham curls. It’s been ages. And I could feel the musculature that got strained last June. It was somewhere between irritated and stimulated, so I adjusted my form until there was no irritation.

This means isolating hammies is back on the menu!

Abs

It’s been about a year since doing anything for abs. Why? No idea.

The problem I always have with abs is that hitting them is highly stimulating for a while. There’s a strong mind-muscle connection and an awesome burn.

But then after training them consistently, the effectiveness goes away, and adding weight doesn’t seem to help. It may even cause you (and by “you” I mean me) to use improper form and mess up your (my) low back.

Even so, there’s no excuse for waiting a whole year. What the heck? Maybe the solution is to do it in cycles: two weeks on, two weeks off, or maybe a month on and a month off. Something like that.

The cool thing is, it was very easy to stimulate them today because they’re so undertrained. Tons of volume wasn’t required. Nor was it necessary to do anything fancy or heavy.

  • Bodyweight ab work: 8 minutes, 40 seconds on, 20 seconds off.

During the 20 seconds off, I used that time to stretch those abbies. Felt amazing!

Traditional Cardio Attempt

If you’ve spent any time on my log you probably know that cardio has been a no-go outside of hikes, walking, and relatively intense supersets. So today I wanted to test things out and see what just 15 minutes of effort (not crazy intense) on a stationary bike would do. I feel really good right now, but if there’s aching and ripping pain in my lungs after 8 hours of sleep, then that’ll let me know if it was okay.

Color Season Analysis Results

The Fiverr analyst says I’m a “true autumn” which is different than what I expected. And that’s good because it means my auburn-ish hair isn’t clashing with my face. But I’m going to avoid all the Ronald McDonald shades I loved so much in my early 30s.

Autumn seems like a fitting category, but the subcategory true autumn isn’t quite right. I can’t pull off yellow or orange.

So this “soft autumn” might be a better subcategory.

The woman who created this infographic has an in depth article called, Ultimate Guide to Color Analysis: How to Determine Your Best Colors for Clothing and Makeup

Again it’s possible that this is BS. After all, someone did just make it all up. There is no scientific law of nature that tells us who looks like trash in pink. While there’s a little more history to it than the 1980’s book I posted above, even those sources seem relatively silly.

What’s clear is that some colors look amazing on people and some colors aren’t as flattering. But categorizing everyone definitively within a color palate is kind of wacky. Apparently as an autumn I should wear brown instead of black. But I hate wearing brown, it makes me feel like poop. And Chris’s reaction to me in black tells me everything I need to know.

There are videos of women saying, “You can’t ever wear that color” to other grown women, and that’s exactly why I went with a virtual analysis (this one) instead of an in-person one. I don’t like being told what I can’t do when it comes to things that don’t matter.

But, maybe there is something to the color season thing because here I am in one of my bad colors:

And miraculously, here’s how much better things get in the warm autumn colors.

These are both test pictures taken for Metabolic Drive recipe vids.

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Yes me too. LOL

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You lift so heavy that your abs are getting hit every workout!

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That is apparently true, but one set of hanging leg raises or ab wheel roll outs and they hurt for days. Seems like there is nothing better than isolation.

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Is anyone keeping up with all the news surrounding the Stanley cup trend?

Here’s one of the latest stories:

Could there be a better example of mimetic desire?

Sure, it might be made with quality materials, and the company may even have a long history, but it’s still just a cup. A BEVERAGE HOLDER.

And apparently having the specific name brand matters a lot. Why? Nobody obsessed with this thing has enough awareness to even think about it.

They just want what’s commonly desired. There are beverage holders that can hold the same amount of liquid in the same variety of colors. But somehow you’re more special if you drink out of an object with a very specific logo.

I’d be more understanding if people were flocking to something that was uniquely functional and served a purpose beyond what you can find in every kitchen in the world (cups). But even so, fetishizing an object because of its brand name is pretty damn weird.

And yes, it’s become a fetish for both adults and their children.

The parents who are just as obsessed with a cup as their kids seem to have some type of arrested development. Because even as a kid my “fetish” was Val Kilmer. And he was way better than a cup. Especially in Tombstone.

So here’s a hot take: Mimetic desire makes people basic. And by basic, I’m just stealing from the term “basic bitch” but I don’t really want to call people bitches unless I’m referring to my girl dog or myself.

People try to achieve or acquire what other people want to achieve or acquire – followers and likes on social media, a yacht, a specific brand of clothing, absurdly priced special edition Nikes – whatever. They want what they think will earn them admiration from other people.

And I think mimetic desire even spreads into fitness… however with fitness at least it’s actually functional, healthy (broadly speaking), and harder to achieve than a cup. This might be painful, but think about it. Having six pack abs, getting to a certain body fat percentage, hitting a PR, earning a title or a trophy, etc.

Would you strive for those things if they weren’t held in high regard by others? You might. Put another way, if nobody else were on the planet to see your bicep peaks, would you still do curls?

I probably wouldn’t isolate muscles. Because when doing so, there’s this awareness that it’ll give me a particular look. But it’s one I like despite the fact that it’s not conventionally beautiful or admired by most other women. So is that really mimetic desire if only a fringe population appreciates it? (It likely still is.)

Mimetic desire is tough to escape.

We probably all do it to some extent. But please just promise you’ll give me a wakeup call if I ever do it over something as dumb as a cup.

EDIT: Editing this to say it’s fine if you happen to have a Stanley cup, and you’re not weirdly obsessed with it.

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My dad had Stanleys working in the oilfield. So what’s next for bored suburban moms who peaked in high school? Hard hats?

“Target has the pink ones with designer oil stains! And only losers don’t buy the accessory chin strap! I have two! My husband ignores me and I secretly dislike my children!”

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You always take it ten steps further. I call people basic and you crush souls. LOL!

Were Stanley cups known to be pricey when you were a kid?

Brands do seem to make comebacks. Caboodles were huge when I was a little girl, and they made a mild comeback, but since you can’t flaunt them out in public they didn’t catch on quite as well as a portable cup.

I think I had this lavender and green one, but not completely sure. It’s been like 30 years.

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Probably a K-Mart purchase.

But props to Stanley if they created the trend somehow. It was either an accident or a highly orchestrated marketing plan.

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They’re the clear winner in all this nonsense. And we all might want to study what they did. College marketing classes need to include this in their curriculum.

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Had no idea what a Stanley cup is, had to Google it, came to this article Stanley cups took the world by storm. Then the backlash began | Life and style | The Guardian honestly most of it gave me a laugh - people really are stupid (particularly the beginning anecdote) but:

Looks like it started off on social media (so could be Stanley but seems like a potentially organic thing) but they definitely cashed in with limited editions, boosted sales ten fold by the look of it.

As the father of a teenage daughter this is currently a massive feature of my life, trying to explain why doing what ever every other moronic 14 year old is doing is a terrible way to live and taking other stupid teenagers words on board is generally an awful and damaging thing (body image issues, self loathing, trend chasing, endless unhappiness with the thought the next “thing” will make happy) and apparently dad’s wisdom doesn’t mean much… Did I mention teenagers are stupid. Sorry that turned into my own personal rant.

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Ah it’s probably better to not know. (Sorry about that!) What’s wild is that a few years after a big trend, people always look back and say stuff like, “remember how ridiculous we looked wearing XYZ or how stupid that thing was that we all had to have?”

And then the next day, they’ll jump all over another trend without even really considering whether or not THEY like it, or if it’s just liked by a lot of other people and that influence is rubbing off on them.

It gets very tricky if you are easily influenced and there’s an entire sect of people calling themselves “influencers” with the sole purpose of getting you to like what they like, want what they want, and value what they value.

Over-filled sausage lips and unnatural eyebrow trends come to mind here.

You’re doing a good job by just being present and loving on her. She probably won’t show it right now, but your influence over her will be far more powerful than the rest of the world’s as she gets a little older.

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Isn’t a Stanley cup a Hockey trophy ?? Seems weird to walk around drinking out of a giant silver trophy but hey what do I know.

I really liked what you wrote there Dani and it is something I spend a bit of time talking with my daughters about. About the need for others to be different by being exactly the same as everyone else. My eldest daughter 14 couldn’t give a toss about that stuff. She went to leave the house yesterday with socks and slides on. When I said it probably wasn’t a good look she just shrugged and said ‘who cares.’

I am pretty sure 40 years ago the Stanley cup was a He-Man lunch box.

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It’s currently a marketing case study making the rounds! They targeted a new segment, raised prices, and created a little scarcity right on top of a huge viral Tik-Tok push. It was pretty clever from a brand with little to lose.

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It’s already being turned into a HBS case study. One of my friends works for a marketing prof and helps write cases

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WHAT?! That’s amazing! :joy:

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Right? I’m so glad someone else thought this too! I was so confused at first.

Haha she’s a nonconformist already!

It makes sense for kiddos to have brand trends like that. At least your parents weren’t flaunting their lunch boxes around and taking selfies with them. Can you imagine?! :sweat_smile:

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