Same! Hi, I’m Emily, and I’m repellent in some way that only some people can discern, and even though 90% of all people of all stripes like me it’s definitely a real problem and definitely my fault!
You can sub out pretty much any negative descriptor for “inferior” in Roosevelt’s quite. Obnoxious, too much, responsible, irritating, bossy - you have to consent to any of them for them to have power. I do consent to a few of the things that have been thrown my way. I am a little controlling, but this is pretty much a home problem and is mostly to control my own environment. I am something of a know-it-all, but what can I say? I’m a compulsive reader and explorer of ideas and have a job that puts me in deep conversation with others all day long, whose lives and outcomes I get to observe, for better and worse. However, I don’t insist that others agree with me.
People often find energetic cheery optimists irritating, and I suspect that’s you, as it is me. “Toxic positivity.” That’s a them problem, not a you problem, because who wants to be a tired grim asshat? Not me, anyway. I do not consent.
Pursue your community, and simply refuse to be influenced by the haters unless upon reflection you find something you wish to change, e.g. I’m very happy being cheery and do not consent to pretend not to be for another’s comfort, however I can probably consent to just cleaning the kitchen sink more often myself because it does not appear that my teachings and reminders re: the spray thing that makes rinsing it easy are having any effect on my husband. I do not consent to have the grungy kitchen sink be central to my marriage. Maybe if I die first he’ll look back at the once-clean sink fondly, and begin rinsing it in my memory.


















