Stay strong man, just gotta keep lookin forward.
Sorry to hear about the loss Jack. Know that some stranger out there will do an extra rep tonight in his honor.
Damn man, I don’t know you, but my heart goes out to you. He’s lucky to have such a loving son.
Thanks for the words of support guys. Deeply appreciated on so many levels
Life is for living. Take advantage of that.
good luck, stay strong.
also, we’re seeing alot of this aren’t we?
this is the saddet title for a thread I have ever seen. I read it and my heart sank. I’m sorry friend.
jack im sorry to hear that brotha, well be thinking about you.
I’m so sorry for your loss. <3
Hey Jack, really sorry to hear that. My thoughts are with you.
Sorry to hear that Jack. Great post. Hope you are OK
Sorry for your lost man, I can’t being to imagine how hard it is to lose a parent. Hopefully you can use this experience to fuel something positive in your life.
Hang strong
I’m sorry to hear about your dad, Jack.
I really don’t know how I’m going to handle it when my ma and pa go.
My dad is 78 now, still fit enough…rides his bike many miles a week, my mom is 75, smokes and doesn’t do much of any exercise. Though I’ll mention that she’s from Glasgow, which I think is where you’re from…and when she was 5 years old she almost got killed in a bombing raid in the war…but the shelter my grandpa and grandma ran to was full, so they went to the one 2 blocks over and the one that was full got hit.
I try not to think about it too much…but I have to make sure I always have plane ticket money handy as I’m in Taiwan and they’re in Canada. It’s sounds silly but I think I need to be ready to travel at a moment’s notice.
Very sorry for your loss.
And it’s not something you can ever “get over” - you can only learn to live with it. I hope you can eventually find some inner peace and have the happy memories & teachings of your Dad to help you in your life in the future, because that’s certainly what he would have wanted. It’s what any parent wants.
I’ll say a prayer for him.
Damn it man, just damn! I’m a big son of a gun and I frickin’ misted up, not only for your loss so manfully shared with quiet strength and dignity, but for the camaraderie and support shared by the brothers and sisters of steel. I know not your faith, but it matters not, for as others have said, I will offer a prayer for your Dad and for you.
Well guys I’ve pretty much had the worst few days of my life
My dads funeral was last Friday. My dads wife insisted he had an open coffin that we could all have a look at before the ceremony. I was in two minds whether to look at it however curiousity and a need to have a few last words with my dad got the better of me
My sister and I decided we would be the last ones to go in and I wish I hadn’t. It was horrible beyond belief. My sister screamed and ran out straight away. I manned the fuck up and stayed there however I found the experience disturbing and unsettling.
Next incident was the actual ceremony. The women taking control of the ceremony said a few lovely words however at one point she said 'Charlie will be missed most by his wife and 2 sons (my 2 half brothers). My sister and I were so angry and felt completely forgotten. This may seem like nothing to most people however it cut through both our hearts like a rusty blade.
I never went back to my dads wifes house the next day due to an awesome hangover and my building hatred for her.
We had to go up on the Sunday to catch a minibus. When I got there I thought my dads wife was acting weird. This was confirmed to me when at one point I tried to talk to her and she completely blanked me.
I told my sister and we both stormed out the house with our bags in tow. The rest of my family said “We were out of order”. I couldn’t give 2 shits however. In fact I’ve pretty much cut them out my life now. I cant believe they would turn on us like that.
To make matters worse the weather conditions in Scotland are so bad right now that I am stuck in Finland and fast running out of cash. It’s an absolute nightmare. Hopefully I can get back home today
CLIFF NOTES
- Attended dads funeral
- Looked at open coffin and am now disturbed for the rest of my life
- Sister and I were largely ignored during funeral speech while half brothers were mentioned lots
- Dads wife is a complete bitch and has orchestrated this
- Now fell out with rest of family who think we are being unreasonable
- Now stuck in Finland with no money in minus 20 temperature
Jack
I’m sorry I missed offering condolences 3 weeks ago. I offer my deepest now.
I guess when it rains, it pours! Be strong, buddy. Soon you’ll be home, recovering properly, and finding that silver lining.
Somtimes you get kicked down. Doesn’t matter how - just how you get back up.
It would have been nice to be be awknowledged but you and your Dad know the truth.
Damn bro, sorry for you loss. There are no words to describe losing a parent, be strong for you and your sister. Just remember left foot, right foot, keep moving forward everyday and life will get better.
Wow just wow, my dad is 52, I couldn’t imagine.
I am so sorry for your loss. It is unfortunate that your dad’s wife had to treat you and your sister that way. Your dad sounds like a helluva guy and deserves more than that.