Remember the saying: “Il faut (d’abord) durer.”
In times of trouble, it is literally all you can do. I’m very sorry to hear about this, but conduct yourself appropriately.
i have nothing profound for you but would like you to know you and your family are in my prayers.
Sorry to hear this Jack.
I lost my dad nearly 3 years ago now after a 1 year fight with MND (you americans might know it better as ALS or lou gehrig’s). There really isn’t anything to be said about getting through it. You just have to grit your teeth and get on with life. The hole that is left will never be filled, but with time the pain numbs.
I hope you can take advantage of the time you have left with your dad, make the most of it. I was 16 when my dad died and I’ll always regret my immaturity and that I never spent quality time with him in his last weeks. If I had just a few of those moments back there are so many things I would change.
Even though it’s hard, try to think of thing’s you could do together before he goes, so you can look back at this time and think about the stuff you did rather than the stuff you didn’t.
Best wishes
[quote]bushidobadboy wrote:
Stay strong mate. I have no idea what you are going through, but I’m sure you will conduct yourself like a good man and a good son.
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Couldn’t have said it better myself.
No matter what happens I hope you rise to the occasion and look back on this as one of those incidents in your life that made you incredibly strong, gave you tenacious resolve and boundless energy to be what you want to be.
Good luck with everything. It won’t be easybut you know that.
My thoughts are with you brother. Stay strong for him and make sure you spend whatever time he has left with him. At least as much as possible. Stay as positiv as you can, you want his transition to be as smooth as possible, Save your anger, you’ll have plenty of time for it. Now he needs your love.
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I’ve been where you are with my mom slowly dying from Lupus. It is amazingly hard to see the person you loved and looked at as invincible fade slowly. Take to heart the words Marc said. Find comfort in the moments that you have left with him. This will be the hard. Be strong and give him all your love. And of course were all here for you if you need us
Take care.
Stay strong my dude.
Thanks for the support guys. Truly appreciated.
I’m heading back over in the next couple of weeks. Like Marc said I’m just going to chill with him and be there. That’s all I can do. I’ll have to sort out the man shit as well as I’m the first born. It’s time to step up to the plate. For my sister and my wee bros.
Good luck. My Dad passed 6 weeks ago from cancer. It’s good you will have the time to be with him, I had to travel across the country to have a few days with him and the time was priceless. I hope it works out the same for you.
I’m sorry for the news. I hope you’re OK pal. Stay strong.
Sorry to hear that, Jack.
All I can say is I hope you can keep everyone’s mind off of the situation by talking as if the cancer isn’t there. I know my own family has an issue where they always focus on the depressing and it makes it hard for anyone to be upbeat, so that’s where I’m coming from.
Please stay strong.
Not much to say that hasn’t already been said. Sounds like you’re on the right track. Hopefully going through this, as much as it’ll hurt, will only serve to make you a better person. I lost both my grandmothers to cancer within the last year and a half, so I’m thinking about doing that movember thing, although this time maybe actually raising some money (I know lots of people who just use it as an excuse to grow a dirty moustache).
Be strong.
My old man passed away today at a young 52 years of age.
I’m pretty much fuckin crushed however have had a few laughs the day reminiscin over shit. My da was a seriously funny guy. His patter was sublime.
Cancer doesn’t discriminate. It somes in and takes out even the most strongest of folk, My dad was storng. He did dry stone walling. Google it. It’s probably one of the most prehistoric forms of work known to man. Lifting rocks all day and making a wall. Old school. I worked with him for 2 weeks and thought "fuck that this is fucking too much. I was 27 and he was 49. What a fucking woos I was!
Sorry guys I’m rambling
If I learned anything about this is that don’t ever take shit for granted. EVER.
Train hard
Sprint
Stretch
Be humble
Have an open mind
Don’t sweat the small things
Be good to your mother (and father)
I am so sorry for your loss
[quote]Jack Urboady wrote:
My old man passed away today at a young 52 years of age.
I’m pretty much fuckin crushed however have had a few laughs the day reminiscin over shit. My da was a seriously funny guy. His patter was sublime.
Cancer doesn’t discriminate. It somes in and takes out even the most strongest of folk, My dad was storng. He did dry stone walling. Google it. It’s probably one of the most prehistoric forms of work known to man. Lifting rocks all day and making a wall. Old school. I worked with him for 2 weeks and thought "fuck that this is fucking too much. I was 27 and he was 49. What a fucking woos I was!
Sorry guys I’m rambling
If I learned anything about this is that don’t ever take shit for granted. EVER.
Train hard
Sprint
Stretch
Be humble
Have an open mind
Don’t sweat the small things
Be good to your mother (and father)[/quote]
Beautiful post Jack
Sorry Jack, good that you got the time with him to reminisce, I hope he was at peace with it.
Sorry to hear that Jack. It’s nice you got the chance to shoot the shit with him before he passed.
Sorry for your loss Jack. Take care of yourself.
So sorry for your loss.