[quote]MarvelGirl wrote:
Bill Roberts wrote:
AlisaV wrote:
Bill Roberts wrote:
One of the irrational things about women is that they think – or should I say feel – that “support” and good conversations mean Relating to Her Feelings, as opposed to getting the slightest bit of constructive advice. The latter is a bad thing, namely One of Those Awful Things That Men Do Because They Don’t “Understand,” that the less of, the better.
Oh, for Christ’s sake! Women aren’t imbeciles. I have never behaved like that. Most of the women I know don’t behave like that.
That is probably an example of women often not understanding what women do on various points.
In fact it is completely common for women to really not want to get constructive advice when they talk about their problems, and to enjoy the fact that their women friends generally don’t do much of that but instead focus on empathizing rather than solving.
That a given woman disagrees that this is common female psychology doesn’t change that it is.
Congratulations to you, however, for not being that way yourself, as it isn’t productive. Either to solving the problem at hand, or to the relationship, to be annoyed by getting constructive suggestions. That doesn’t stop countless other women from being that way though.
As much as I hate to, I have to agree with Bill on this one. I see it all the time, and it’s infuriating. That attitude is one of the major reasons I have a very difficult time making female friends.
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Gotta love this girl.
We would absolutely get along.
[quote]Carlitosway wrote:
One day set it up like your masturbating to one of debras before and after pictures or any one of the hot chics who post in the T-Vixen thread. Pretend like you got caught in the act and just cover your face and hide in the bathroom acting ashamed she caught you looking at your ideal womens physique.
Then she’ll be curious and will surf through pictures and maybe have a few links open to some of Dr. Jonny Bowden’s youtube clips talking about nutrition. Then put up some other windows of various informative articles.
Then have some diets and sound nutrition advice posted up on the refrigerator. Don’t hint or tell her it’s for her. Just be like I like to have my info there so I can make better choices in what I eat. A visual aide if you may.
Then as you keep doing all this without once telling her you think she should diet this way. I believe she will come around and start eating like you and wanting to work out. Act super happy when you’re done working out be like “Omg Cynthia I just had an awesome work out I feel great hun” then say things like “Damn this protein and good fats are the bomb” [/quote]
LOL this is great. Maybe I’ll actually try this. My GF already know I’m nutty.
[quote]B rocK wrote:
I’ve been into lifting and nutrition since my girl and I met and she has adopted many of my traits because she sees how well they work for me.
Lead by example.[/quote]
Couldn’t have been said better.
My girlfriend has learned so much from me. When we are at a casual dinner, I help her understand why she should be ordering pasta or eating white bread. She is beginning to understand nutrition more and more.
With my girlfriend, the hardest part is getting her to eat ENOUGH food all day. She lost quite a bit of weight from starving herself, but now that weight loss has slowed, and she doesn’t understand why.