[quote]nephorm wrote:
rsg wrote:
Ha, you need to start grabbing more girls neph - not all of them are going to hit you.
(This goes under the assumption that the above poster is indeed female).
It’s one thing to flirt in plain view. Sneaking up behind someone you don’t know and grabbing her waist… that is just creepy to me. [/quote]
It really does depend who does it. I’m not a big fan of being touched by random guys so I’d lean more towards the punch in the face. However, last week, one of the guys I see a lot and chat with at the gym did something similar and it was fine.
[quote]thosebananas wrote:
its called surprise flirting[/quote]
I dunno, I think it sounds kind of like surprise being a really annoying creepo whom I will in the future avoid at all costs, especially if he was a stranger
[quote]ouroboro_s wrote:
It really does depend who does it. I’m not a big fan of being touched by random guys so I’d lean more towards the punch in the face. However, last week, one of the guys I see a lot and chat with at the gym did something similar and it was fine.[/quote]
I suppose I interpreted “this guy” to mean “a stranger,” which was probably an incorrect assumption on my part.
[quote]nephorm wrote:
You need to take some self-defense classes.[/quote]
Yeah I probably do. He was a gym regular, but I suppose still a stranger, I don’t think I had actually talked to him before. People touch me (old ladies are always touching my hair), my first reaction is usually confusion and not violence.
Regardless, my inner fat girl did a little dance at the compliment.
“Holy crap, I thought of the Hulk when you came in.”
Some girl said I looked like Superman the other day, jawline and all.
People asking me what professional sport I play.
Some teenager at my gym thinking I’m the biggest person they’ve ever seen. I find it laughable as there are other guys at my gym that are bigger. That and that fact that I’m dwarfed by the majority of pro strength athletes. Add another 100lbs then it may be true.
I like to squat with a 49 year old guy who has been lifting for a few years. We spot eachother, etc.
I started at like 175 and I have been adding 10lbs to the bar every week. Tomorrow is 225, and this guy is so amazed by my energy that he stopped calling me by name. He calls the “animal” now which is pretty ridiculous.
Kind of sucks because he tells all the hot moms in the gym that my name is “animal” which makes me look like a self-pretentious dickbag. I can’t hit on them anymore because they don’t “date animals”. What the fuck. I am tiny.
[quote]pch2 wrote:
Yeah I probably do. He was a gym regular, but I suppose still a stranger, I don’t think I had actually talked to him before. People touch me (old ladies are always touching my hair), my first reaction is usually confusion and not violence.
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My reaction to your story was probably a little too intense for the situation. You were, after all, in a public setting; while his actions were inappropriate, they were probably best addressed by words of reprimand rather than violence.
But you should think about the same sort of situation in a less public setting, at which point you would need to react quickly and decisively. Not a criticism… just a suggestion.
There’s nothing wrong with that. Just be prepared!
To address your story more directly, and relay my own:
When one is used to perceiving oneself as unattractive or overweight, compliments and complimentary actions that seem to show us were were objectively incorrect are all the more pleasing.
I joined the fencing club in college, and I was in the best shape I can ever remember being in. According to the standards of this site, that wasn’t great shape… but good for me.
I was chatting online with a young woman with whom I was acquainted through the club, and we were discussing the origin of our names. I explained that my name was derived from a god of war, to which she responded that I did have a godlike physique. I thought she was being sarcastic at first, but she was speaking honestly, even if from poor judgment. One of the best compliments I’ve ever received, and it came out of nowhere.
[quote]nephorm wrote:
I explained that my name was derived from a god of war, to which she responded that I did have a godlike physique. I thought she was being sarcastic at first, but she was speaking honestly, even if from poor judgment.[/quote]
PLEASE tell me you hit that.
I mean, if that’s not hanging a sign reading ‘LETS MAKE BABIES’, I don’t know what is.
I was walking to Heinz field with my girl for a game and a guy walking past told me I looked like I should be playing instead of watching. Just the thought of playing for the Steelers gave me a semi.
When my son was 2, he was watching Hulk for the first time, and every time Banner changed into the Hulk, he’d point at the TV and say “Daddy!” I felt like a superhero when his mom told me that story.
[quote]Christine wrote:
Anyway, she kept telling me, with much enthusiasm, how great my legs were. I thought it was nice to hear from somebody in her profession.[/quote]
That sounds like a video I was watching last night.
[quote]Makavali wrote:
Christine wrote:
Anyway, she kept telling me, with much enthusiasm, how great my legs were. I thought it was nice to hear from somebody in her profession.
That sounds like a video I was watching last night.[/quote]
“You’re very persistent. The pepper spray stops most guys.”
Actually, tonight during my second of two soccer games I got a “I’m not sure how you kept that out of the net, but it was world-class.” Pretty proud of that.
I had an excellent compliment a few years back in the gym. Someone I didn’t know and had never spoken to came up to me and said, “You are inspirational.”
I said thanks, and we never spoke again.
Probably the best compliment i’ve ever been given!
