I told you I dealt with this, then I changed my dating pool. If you experience this with friends of friends, then consider you’re not as great of a person as you think and you’re friends are’nt that great.
Seems like you’re phishing for a specific answer.
Doesn’t it? In his mind he’s the catch of all catches hahaha … clearly that ain’t the case if he’s getting dropped after the spark wears off…
Yes because I can’t believe that I would be alone in this, and so far I have just two random dudes telling me I’m wrong. Spreading the question a bit further not phishing just shocked!
Good lord, just open an eharmony account already and be done with it…
I usually nod my head to @polo77j 's relationship advice.
I’m not the best-looking guy, but I had a 9 year-long relationship that ended on very amicable terms and I’m having the complete and total opposite problem you do right now. Women are going pedal-to-the-medal on me, making it VERY clear that they want a future VERY soon into the dating process. 3rd one in a row right now.
Do you volunteer? Do you do things for other people that do not benefit you in any way shape or form? What about very difficult things that do not benefit you at all? If you do, do you do them discreetly without shouting about them all over social media? Do you show genuine caring and compassion for others?
Women love shows of strength. When you can show (not say, SHOW) that you can have your shit together and still have the ability and capacity to care for others (like her and any children she might like to have with you, for example), well, they like that shit. A lot. Especially if you can give them a lot of orgasms too.
How did this turn into me whining? I never whined, I just asked if this is something we all have to deal with or not.
If you think I’m telling you you’re wrong, I’m not. I’ve said a few times I don’t know you. At all. Just that there’s clearly a disconnect with what you think and what’s going on in your romantic relationships.
To answer your question. Yes, I’ve been dropped like you say you’ve been dropped. I also had the wherewithal to assess myself and the girls I dated and adjust accordingly. I was about your age.
Huh, where did I say you were whining? If you can’t find someone to date long term using your current, for lack of a better term, protocol then just use a site like eharmony that spoon feeds it to you.
Tis true. You haven’t whined. However, you did provide waaaay too much detail for it to not get picked apart. You’re also clearly looking for confirmation for your own conclusion which people here tend to rebel against (it’s a sign of self-absorption which could be a contributing factor your current issues with the ladies).
Hey thanks man. 
Ok ok ok. Let’s pretend for a minute that I didn’t say anything being misconstrued into arrogance. Same question.
Dude, no one on the internet can possibly know why the last few women you’ve fucked don’t want to date you. It’s like that game where you have to try and guess how many M&M’s are in the Mason Jar. You literally have nothing to go on; except, what you see. The same principle applies here. Everyone is trying to give you advice based on 5 paragraphs worth of one-sided info.
Already answered it. Why would you think no one has experienced this?
I have to agree with dchris.
You’re just running around with the wrong type of girls.
If they hump you right away, they are Go-ers. Go-ers like fast moving, short relationships. They don’t want to get long term with anybody.
Relationship oriented girls don’t put out so fast.
Dudes who have more Game than Parker Brothers kind of intuitively know this. Simple guys have to learn about it through experience.
Finally. Ok that makes sense. So there is a group of women. Go-ers. Although the last two recently split from their long term exes when they met me so that also makes sense.
It isn’t a mystery. They don’t want to be with you. They are not happy enough in the relationship so they end it. You’d do the same thing.
It probably isn’t all of a sudden in their minds. People will often try to stick things out longer then they want to see if it improves. It sounds like it reaches a sticking point.
No worries. Move on.
This might actually be true, and many young women out there have this sociopathic desire to remain with former partners unduly. Sometimes it’s because they can’t get over the fact that someone one was so close to is no longer in the picture and they want to rekindle the good times. Other times it’s because the ex is more thrilling than the current seemingly milquetoast man, even though the current guy is likely a better fit from a rational perspective. And some other times, it might be a case of trying to fix an ex. Of course there are other motivations too.
This can actually be the case for many young modern day women considering it is heavily pushed by the looney-tune media that women should be careerists and party girls and that “no one is going to tell me what to do” and “don’t mess with me” and “I don’t need a man”. So they are foregoing or pushing back on marrying young and child raising.
Again, this might be truthful. They might have been horny or genuinely having a good time on dates with you, but then upon thinking of the matter, for some reason or another, do not want to hang with you anymore. For some reason or another, you don’t do it for some women. And this is true for ALL men! We are not a good fit for all women, whether it is because of social or economic status, looks, interests, profession, religion, race, whatever.
If you are actually handsome, good company, have good social skills, and own a business, then it’s highly unlikely you will not meet more women!
MOST PEOPLE get dumped at some point or another. If you don’t marry the first woman you go on a date with, but remain on the social scene and meet more women, you’re likely to dump someone or get dumped yourself. Yes, it’s upsetting–in some cases very upsetting–you know, tears and crying and all that-- but that’s what it’s like out there in the social world.
If you keep getting dumped out of nowhere–literally nowhere–then it could be that you are either dealing with fickle, silly, immature women, who think the words “I love you” are just to be blurted out with no real feelings involved, or you have something that turns women off generally.
Again, this is admittedly biased, but I think MANY young women these days think romance, courtship dating, and mating are games of sorts, when it’s actually quite serious, I believe. I’m not saying one has to be so damn serious all the way along, but finding a mate and sex are serious if you think about them in a mature way.
There was a time in my life when I was single and met god knows how many women from online dating sites, in addition to elsewhere. I’m not saying I’m a Brad Pitt of sorts, but I was meeting many women at the time, and they ranged from nice and normal (good catches) to very nutty!
As I implied before: you get out there in the real world, and you will experience and need to be ready for anything, which includes bizarre, odd, or silly behavior from women, co-workers, employers, family members, maybe even friends too.
I was dumped once, and it was not because the woman actually did lost feelings for me. It was situational and a long story. Pretty much, the woman and I were at different points of life, differed in age a bit much, and had to make a decision of sorts, which involved leaving me, and it was understandable considering the situation. This might sound dramatic, but this dumping was VERY difficult for me. Here’s this woman, a very nice woman, girl-next-door type, who I spent hung with nearly every day of half a year with, and then it was done! It took several weeks for the sadness to go away.
So yeah, this happens, to answer your question.
See above. Many women these days are too busy hanging out, taking endless pictures, traveling the world, lifting weights, and so on.
That shit gets old and empty after some time, if you’re as sensitive as you say you are. And I don’t mean sensitive in a bad way.
I really think, and I might be wrong, but I think you need a bit more psychological and social acuity. This means, you should be able to sense what women might be a good fit for a healthy relationship with a long term aim in mind. It might actually involve going for women that are not so “hot” or (gasp) a bit sedate, stable, and predictable. You know what I’m saying?
I don’t mean to be a wiseass, but like, you can read people a bit, right? Put that intuition to work.
Yes, you’re the only one who has experienced the utterly fickle behavior of some women. Look, for real, most sociable men have experienced some of this at one time or another. Do you really believe you’re the only one?
Seriously, there are some men who have a hard time meeting ANY women!
I believe you are an attractive man, and this is likely why you have managed to “bang chicks” but that does not make you immune to the shenanigans and debacles of the modern dating world. Attractive women aren’t immune either. I know some of this retardation can make someone annoyed to miserable, but it’s how it is sometimes.
Do you live in a city, -which one?
Is there a type you go for/ common socio-economic background for some of these girls ie latinas, blonde privelaged waspy,tattoo skater girls! etc
Philly. I don’t have a type I stick to. Just Pretty, nice, loyal, and laugh at my jokes. My only rules.
I appreciate the time and thought put into this. I swear I am picking people who are looking for relationships at least that’s what they seem. But perhaps I am making one glaring error which is that I don’t refuse sexy ladies who just got out of relationships and perhaps that’s why I keep paying for it. That was the case with the last two. The latest one also said she had bipersonality disorder on one of our earlier conversations.