I wonder what the process of RE sensitizing yourself is like? Just abstinence i’d think.
Wonder if your brain will correct itself in time?
Yes.
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I believe @EmilyQ just said, “treat yo self and buy some nice lube boys”
Though I could use a little delay SMH
You haven’t seen the hands on the ladies at the powerlifting / strongman gym I go to apparently.
Friction? This suggests masturbation is the cause of desensitization and said problems.
1 - How does friction apply to the 61.3% of the planet that isn’t circumcised?
2 - I’m fairly certain the world stopped blaming masturbation for it’s problems in 1935.
We are not talking about normal behavior here, we’re talking about something that has escalated to to point of being pathological. This can be a very deep and bleak rabbit hole. I’m not sure what circumsicion has to with it there are a great many wanys to masturbate.
Anyway have you never heard of rubbing one out before a date to ease the tension? Now what if instead of just one you did that 5-10 times because you couldn’t stop. Now you can’t perform properly if the sutuation is warranted or even want to. Or perhaps watching porn for 90% of your waking hours. I’m not saying it’s like this for everyone that has a problem, or that the threshold for it to be a problem is a hrad line, it’s a continum, but to imply that this can’t ever be a problem is niave.
Every single human behavior can be like this when taken to extremes. It’s called a mental illness fo a reason.
I believe we were talking about porn addiction interfering with normal sexual function. “Addiction” suggests compulsion and overuse. Masturbate all you want, but if you find you’re having difficulty functioning as you’d like in sexual encounters with other people, you should assess whether reducing masturbation might help.
Also, I said friction, but I would include both grip strength and rhythm as well.
But again, masturbate on! I’m not after stopping or guilting you.
When I get enough sex from wife I don’t masterbate.
If I don’t have sex for weeks I start thinking about getting it elsewhere.
Very simple.
I did get into a bad habit though. I was doing live porn on snap chat and edging. Took 1-2 hours a day of my time. I stopped this and I did get withdrawal symptoms. I now have more time to do productive stuff.
Wife is now having more sex with me .
Win win.
So apparently there’s a terminology called flatlining
That I appear to be in.
Once you stop porn and the daily masterbation you may have a period of low libido and even erection issues. Your brain is getting rewired to natural state.
This is nuts. Making it even more difficult to stop thinking you need it to get that desire back. I need to remember the desire is for porn.
so after a certain amount of time could be a couple of months you should regain your desire for in real life.
I started reading about this because my libido is essentially zero which is very unusual for me. and of course the first thing I think about it’s my protocol that I need to change.
Can you still (or should you still) have sex ? Or should you be stopping that too during rehab?
That’s so funny you say that. I just texted my wife that it might be best I don’t ejaculate. So far from my reading on this it does appear that you should stop that also.
Even masturbating without porn.
I’ve had several unsuccessful attempts at sex the past week and a half and it’s killing me.
The strange thing is I had a strong libido to have sex with wife while watching porn everyday.
My brain must be use to high level of dopamine esp. Since I was edging often.
I believe porn mess us up with how we experience real-life sex(from the start of our sexual life)
for me stop watch porn and masturbate…after 10 days start to masturbate if you feel it only one or 2 times a week only with your imagination(which involves scenes from your sex life).
and try to chill in sex AND BE IN THE MOMMENT
When to start sex?
I mean I have like 0 libido since stopping porn. I don’t even want to jerk.
Interesting take
Interesting username lol
This.
I am absolutely not a licensed clinician or sex therapist but everything I have previously read from clinical sources indicated that sex or porn addiction are not classed as true addictive behaviors.
That’s not to say that porn or sex impulsivity issues can’t negatively affect relationships or mental health, but the science does not seem to support them being classified as true addictions from a clinical standpoint.
They’re also seem to be multiple studies that indicate that watching porn actually increases sensitivity to sexual stimuli instead of diminishing it.
Long story short the layperson interpretation of all this seems to be that like with so much else in life, moderation is probably key. Like most anything, overdoing it likely has emotional or relationship impacts but I don’t think there is the clinical causal relationship between porn and lack of sexual interest or sensitivity that people on this site proclaim rather frequently.
Frankly stuff on here often reads like the No-fap BS spouted all over the web. There’s a reason you don’t find licensed sex therapists or urologists supporting cult-like anti-masturbation or pro-alpha-male propaganda.
It may or may not be “addictive” but I don’t think that’s the issue we’re discussing.
It’s whether porn affects erection abilities/arousal. My premise, which resonates with many many others, is that porn desensitizes your arousal system.
Instead of just having a naked woman in front of you in order to get aroused, now you need a woman getting gangbanged by 3 dudes. Or whatever porn you’re into.
I’ll just chime in with anecdotal observations. I think for me watching significantly less porn has improved erection quality for sex. I think libido is in a better spot for me with less porn consumption. Better for me is a bit lower than when I was watching a lot more (used to be twice a day, now more like 2X a week). I think this is just due to consuming less sexual content, so it’s not on the mind as much. I have sex the same amount as before though.
I do think my mental well being is improved now. I’ve been working on several things, and I think those things helped too, but I am fairly confident that I am overall happier with a lot less porn.
I think one aspect of the improved mental well being is that while being married, porn made me feel like I was missing out on sexual variety. I think men generally have those thoughts as it is, and porn makes it worse. I think a reduction in those types of thought is generally good for most guys.
This is the status quo, however the degree of research that has been conducted into “sex” or “pornography” addiction is shockingly slim.
You’d think a supranormal stimulus, particularly if sought out regularly from a young age could create a pattern of reward seeking behaviour from within individuals predisposed. Particularly those who are unhappy, lonely etc.
It may wind up being the case that pornography addiction co-exists with subtypes of obsessive compulsive disorder… Whatever the case, there are people who can’t seem to stop viewing pornography/having sex despite the negative impact it is having on their lives
that sounds like addiction…
There are people who wind up broke due to online shopping, slot machines etc. There are people who wind up destroying their bodies in the pursuit of training harder and harder even though they’re well aware their degree of exercise is causing problems. Addiction isn’t necessarily “drugs”.