My GF has a 4 year old kid that is getting bullied in school. He just started Karate lessons for kids his age. Besides a parent to parent meeting what else can be done.? Advice??
Tell him to kick the other kids ass. Even if he loses, they will stop picking on him. If he gets caught or gets into trouble, back him up. If there is a parent conference encourage the other parent to teach their kid some fucking manners, because you are teaching your kid to defend himself from assholes.
Don’t let the system turn your kid into a fucking pussy. That is what it is designed to do: castrate boys for being boys.
[quote]angry chicken wrote:
Tell him to kick the other kids ass. Even if he loses, they will stop picking on him. If he gets caught or gets into trouble, back him up. If there is a parent conference encourage the other parent to teach their kid some fucking manners, because you are teaching your kid to defend himself from assholes.
Don’t let the system turn your kid into a fucking pussy. That is what it is designed to do: castrate boys for being boys.[/quote]
This man always writes gold.
srsly at 4 years old I would encourage him to just sqare the kid in the jaw. Teach him to throw a hard punch and if he hits another 4 year old with it they will fall down and start to cry. No 4 year old can take a punch. Obviously you need to make him aware he could get in trouble but that he should defend himself.
Short story. Walking down the halway in 3rd grade, we walked in 2 lines with the teacher in the front. My good buddy is in front of me and this big kid who bullied both of us is right behind me. Well the whole time he is flicking my ears and I’m telling him to stop. Finally my friend in front of me has enough, he turns and goes right over my shoulder and pops the kid in the nose. Fucking bleeding everywhere. Kid is on the ground crying like a little girl. LOL so anyways, we get called into the principles office after school and we tell the story. The principle is like, well I have to give you a detention because the other parent will give me hell if I don’t do anything, but you did the right thing and I’m proud you look out for eachother. We were stoked, detention was fun and we thought we were cool as shit. Well I thought my frined was cool. The kid who bullied us no longer gave us shit and eventually turned out to be one weird motherfucker who I probably never talked to again. He is probably in jail right now for molesting animals or something.
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a fight is probably the only thing that will resolve it.
[quote]EurekaBulldogLaw wrote:
[quote]angry chicken wrote:
Tell him to kick the other kids ass. Even if he loses, they will stop picking on him. If he gets caught or gets into trouble, back him up. If there is a parent conference encourage the other parent to teach their kid some fucking manners, because you are teaching your kid to defend himself from assholes.
Don’t let the system turn your kid into a fucking pussy. That is what it is designed to do: castrate boys for being boys.[/quote]
This man always writes gold.[/quote]
x2. AC is usually right on the money.
You know I had a really messed up childhood more so then most. I was a bully to 2 kids in school. Why?; cause I could and it felt empowering. I had no morals at that age. But when those kids fought back. I loved it then it was on. Then when I beat them into the ground. I would give them time to heal for round 2. Then it was on. What stopped me was my love for women. It was better then fighting.
He is small for his age. Even the “friends” he has pick on him a bit. He is Mamma’d a lot by Grandma and Mom. I want to help but I never had to deal with this before. I can tell Mom is not going to handle it right. She is a teacher and she might have good intentions I am afraid it will turn out bad for the boy.
I have to agree with everyone, A good shot in the nose should do the trick, my dad always told me to hit first, didnt always work, but most of the time it did. Also not to be a dick…maybe a little bit of karma?
I think probably the best thing you can do for him is to help him feel “cool,” dirtbag. Kids are targeted generally because they’re awkward or insecure. Making him feel strong and good might be enough. You may be able to do that simply by telling him he’s cool, funny, a strong dude, whatever.
At age four the teacher/s should be paying close attention if a parent notifies them that their child is being victimized. What’s happening, verbal stuff or physical? If verbal, you may want to feed him some age-appropriate come-backs (“I may be short, but at least I’m not stupid,” that sort of thing). If physical the other child should be warned and then if it continues asked to leave the school or daycare.
Emily’s a big fat dork.
I’m not fat.
If you don’t address the issue now, he could wind up in a Ghey rollorskating rap group
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
I’m not fat.[/quote]
Whatever, poopyface.
Sorry - not funny w/o video
[quote]imhungry wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
I’m not fat.[/quote]
Whatever, poopyface.[/quote]
You say that to me again and I will kick your fucking ass.
This is also a case where you have to be careful of swooping in and being overprotective with your children, which can hurt them later in life. Obviously, if there is potential for serious harm in any form, than you must take immediate actions, but other than that I highly suggest letting your son figure it out on his own.
You just need to be there to support him in all facets of his life, because confidence is king, and with the support of a loving family, I’m sure he can stand up to and accomplish whatever he desires.
Just my thoughts, I’ve never been a parent, but I have been a child, and I know that having my parents support and in turn my confidence, has helped me to accomplish quite a lot, on my own and without their help or overshadowing.
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]imhungry wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
I’m not fat.[/quote]
Whatever, poopyface.[/quote]
You say that to me again and I will kick your fucking ass.
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OHHHHHHHH… Emily’s a badass, huh??? I’ll call you ‘WimplyQ’ from now on.
Puts figer in Emily’s face I’M NOT TOUCHING YOU…I’M.NOT.TOUCHING.YOU…
That’s it. I’m telling.
[quote]angry chicken wrote:
Tell him to kick the other kids ass. Even if he loses, they will stop picking on him. If he gets caught or gets into trouble, back him up. If there is a parent conference encourage the other parent to teach their kid some fucking manners, because you are teaching your kid to defend himself from assholes.
Don’t let the system turn your kid into a fucking pussy. That is what it is designed to do: castrate boys for being boys.[/quote]
Every word…gold. This would be my advice also. I’d also add that this would be an ideal time to introduce the boy to exercise along with his Karate. All a dad need do is point out that bigger, stronger, faster usually wins or never gets picked on in the first place.