[quote]IQ wrote:
Digity wrote:
I agree. If you need that much spoonfeeding then your head is probably not in the game enough. I had the problem of paralysis by analysis. I had so much information in front of me…some contradictory…I didn’t know what to do. Eventually, I said fuck it and I picked one program and went with it. I’m glad I just jumped into it. I probably could have better results than I currently do three months into it, but at least I started. If I didn’t, I’d still be at square one reading a million more articles on how to build muscle without having really done any of the real work.
I’m not condoning “armchair bodybuilding” here. I think someone who sits there for months reading about bodybuilding and not applying any of it is wasting a ton of valuable time. That being said, we still need some information…not tons, but still some. The combination of proper direction and action leads to success. I decided to think for myself and was misdirected. Misdirection and action leads to failure. My whole point was that beginners should get SOME advice so they don’t waste precious times following a misdirected plan. However, it’s when beginners overdo it and want to read everything out there that things fall apart.
The point you’re missing is that it’s not the thinking that’s important it’s the use of common sense.
If you were using common sense when you realised that your diet was inadequate what do you think would have been the logical outcome?
Eat more.
I’m not insulting you because I used to be just like you are but luckily for me I naturally question everything and can learn from my mistakes. I could have used common sense from the beginning but I assumed that “they must know better than I do, right?”, “they must know my body better than I do, right?”.
Wrong.
Being pointed in the right direction is valuable but you should find your own path after that. It’s through trial and error that you learn what’s really valuable i.e. what actually works for YOU.
The sooner you can reach a point where you believe that you may actually be able to contribute something worthwhile to your own progress, instead of looking for guidance and validation the better.[/quote]
I had trouble accepting that I need to eat more. The thing is, I had stomach fat and I was obsessed about it. I wanted to get rid of it. When I came here everyone told me to eat more, but I was afraid that following that advice would just make my stomach even fatter. My focus was ALL on my stomach and nothing else. So, it took me a while to just accept the advice and try it. Sure, it seems dumb that I just didn’t eat more from the get-go. However, if you come into bodybuilding with the mindset I had: “I want a flat stomach” then it’s hard to get anywhere.
Anyway, turns out my chest has gotten a bit bigger now and is in better proportion to my stomach, which doesn’t seem as much of a big deal now. However, I still worry about it at times. 
A “common sense” approach to bodybuilding, as you suggest, makes perfect sense…unless you have weird hangups like me…who was afraid of putting food down my throat, because of my obsession with stomach fat. People like me need to be pushed at the beginning so that we can get over these odd issues we have.