[quote]Big_Boss wrote:
Interesting timing. I tend not to get too personal on these boards…but I need to vent with my current situation. Anyways,wife had a miscarriage. Me and her both were ultra-excited about getting to see the baby about 3 weeks ago…then were devastated when they could no longer find heartbeat and it had stopped growing.
I’ve dealt with it pretty well…the wife is off and on. Really concerned about her and doing my best to keep her spirits up or let her deal in her own way. It really bums the hell out of me when I catch her crying and sobbing just when I think she’s moved on…I think I’ve finally accepted that it will take her a while. [/quote]
I’m sorry bud. Like, genuinely sorry. And that won’t come from me often.
But keep goin… it’ll work out for you.
And for Aragorn- a poster named Devil_jacket told me this years ago when I was in a bad way over women, and it’s something that I’ve never forgotten. Still the best damn advice I’ve gotten on women. And I quote-
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"I think personally dude you are in a slump and combined with a few other personal items ( you said it was a bad year ) you uncork. I am guessing you are 22-25 years old. Guess what…it happens…know what? It will probably happen again. You can either sit around and cry in the beer about it and write a country song or get up off your ass and do something productive.
I have been there done it and have a hat and 2 t-shirts, anyone else will tell you…quite whining, quit drinking, get in the gym and slap iron and find something or someone to do.
Those are called feelings son…swallow them down into your stomach and keep them there…“Hank Hill”
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And I say… Amen.
I was reading through this thread and wasn’t going to post at all because my current problems are fucking nothing compared to everyone else’s. And FightinIrish’s quote pretty much sums up what I should be doing pretty well. However, I still feel like I need to say this somewhere even if it is over text.
Due to my completely inept confidence with girls which I could blame on the previous fuck ups, I recently have had terrible luck with actually finding any girls I can socialize with and maybe gasp even date -that gasp was due to my track record-. Even when I do find a girl that I think might actually find me attractive and entertaining, I never do anything about it. I am fucking scared. Why? I don’t know. I have “excuses,” but they are just like the appendix: completely pointless.
I have been trying to raise my confidence, but in the end, I revert back to my old self. It is annoying, it is getting me nowhere right now with relationships, and I am getting frustrated. I know that this is only high school and that the chance that any of the relationships that I have in high school will go anywhere is extremely low, but I still want to at least experience it. I just need to stop being a chicken shit.
Well, that is basically it. It is very trivial compared to everybody else’s problems here. What can I say? I am still really young.
I’ve been going through extremely similar thought processes as the OP and it has (maybe wrongly) made me feel better that others are going through equal or much worse situations than me and that I’m a little bitch.
Thanks to everyone in this thread. Except people who are bitching in this thread… which is amazing, that you’d keep coming back to something you don’t like to bitch about it some more.