Bodyguard… the whole point of the thread was so people could talk about whats eating them, without being judged.
and maybe i’m wrong, but dont you think if this many people are angry with you, that there might be something wrong with the way you talk to people? or, possibly your attitude?
[quote]ladieslove wrote:
Bodyguard… the whole point of the thread was so people could talk about whats eating them, without being judged.
and maybe i’m wrong, but dont you think if this many people are angry with you, that there might be something wrong with the way you talk to people? or, possibly your attitude? [/quote]
the only people angry with me or those that think vomiting personal business onto a public web site is a good idea. i happen to think it’s a terrible idea. if i’ve offended anyone sincere with that opinion, i believe i already offered an apology. i still think airing serious personal family business publically is poor form. want to vent about a break up with your insignificant other? fine. the other stuff, i think should be private.
and i think the privacy of the other parties involved in those situations should be respected as well, no matter how much you want to come here and “vent”. just my personal opinion. carry on with the venting.
[quote]TheBodyGuard wrote:
[quote]Aragorn wrote:
x2 on the not getting too personal here. But on the other hand, anonymity gives you an ability to vent you might lack elsewhere. And as long as we keep the riff raff at bay, there are a lot of quality people here with experience and advice.[/quote]
It’s already gotten way too personal. And some people here that have posted are not all that anonymous with pictures of their likeness in their pages. Yes, there are many quality people here but there are far more jerk offs. Moreover, does the wife, girlfriend, family member, etc. at the center of these confessions know and approve of the post? Does the wife that suffered a miscarriage know about the post? Approve?
Like I said, some things are meant to remain private and certainly not disclosed on an internet forum like this. I wasn’t trying to demean anyone or their story and I did not comment on any particular story. If my opinion about privacy and dignity is so upsetting to some, you’re too damn sensitive and I don’t really care. Final word.
Now the kids here are free to talk shit, post empty talk about “folding me in half” or “stomping” me lmfao, and post silly pictures - yeah, “quality people”. Have at it. But I never came here and betrayed the privacy and sanctity of my home or family.
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I guess you are presupposing that talking about a miscarriage is “betraying the privacy and sanctity” of everyone’s home and family. It’s not the case with me and my wife. Miscarriages aren’t some kind of dirty little secret. They are not due to some personal shortcoming or weakness that would cause shame if people know about them.
My wife and I have talked to dozens of people about the miscarriages. It’s not something we bring up out of the blue or for sympathy, but to lend support to people who have gone through it. In many respects, it’s no different than helping someone through a training injury, just more emotional.
Assuming you have friends, if one of them opens up to you about a personal issue, do you just tell them that you don’t want to hear about it and they should keep it to themselves since it is private?
If people airing their own personal stories bothers you so much, why are you on this thread pretending to be strong and macho by putting down people who have something to say? It says a lot more about your own shortcomings than it does about anyone else.
DB
[quote]TheBodyGuard wrote:
[quote]Aragorn wrote:
x2 on the not getting too personal here. But on the other hand, anonymity gives you an ability to vent you might lack elsewhere. And as long as we keep the riff raff at bay, there are a lot of quality people here with experience and advice.[/quote]
It’s already gotten way too personal. And some people here that have posted are not all that anonymous with pictures of their likeness in their pages. Yes, there are many quality people here but there are far more jerk offs. Moreover, does the wife, girlfriend, family member, etc. at the center of these confessions know and approve of the post? Does the wife that suffered a miscarriage know about the post? Approve?
Like I said, some things are meant to remain private and certainly not disclosed on an internet forum like this. I wasn’t trying to demean anyone or their story and I did not comment on any particular story. If my opinion about privacy and dignity is so upsetting to some, you’re too damn sensitive and I don’t really care. Final word.
Now the kids here are free to talk shit, post empty talk about “folding me in half” or “stomping” me lmfao, and post silly pictures - yeah, “quality people”. Have at it. But I never came here and betrayed the privacy and sanctity of my home or family.
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I’ve pretty much said all I need to say with my response to your PM. But because you thrive on the anonymity of the internet to boost your ego…maybe you missed were your opinion came off as completely disrespectful and judgmental. This is most likely an emotional thread…which I know was hard to notice(sarcasm)…so how did you expect people to respond to you?? Of course people are going to be ultra-sensitive if what they’re dealing with it is truly a emotionally tough situation.
If you didn’t approve in the first place…why didn’t you exercise your own dignity in showing your own disapproval?? Most likely because you have none…as you’ve shown in other threads you’ve posted. This thread was already personal enough…you took it further.
Bodyguard, yet again you’ve shown yourself to be an ass. Good job.
I wouldn’t air my personal grievances over the internet, but I’m not sure why BG is being such a dick about those who choose to do that.
If you don’t like it, stay out of the thread? Or you can continue to come in here and play some internet tough guy.
^thought that was me, Suzy?
Where IS the love, man?
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
I wouldn’t air my personal grievances over the internet, but I’m not sure why BG is being such a dick about those who choose to do that.
If you don’t like it, stay out of the thread? Or you can continue to come in here and play some internet tough guy. [/quote]
Exactly.
[quote]Edgy wrote:
^thought that was me, Suzy?
Where IS the love, man?[/quote]
your a crotchety old viking
<3
[quote]Big_Boss wrote:
[quote]TheBodyGuard wrote:
[quote]Aragorn wrote:
x2 on the not getting too personal here. But on the other hand, anonymity gives you an ability to vent you might lack elsewhere. And as long as we keep the riff raff at bay, there are a lot of quality people here with experience and advice.[/quote]
It’s already gotten way too personal. And some people here that have posted are not all that anonymous with pictures of their likeness in their pages. Yes, there are many quality people here but there are far more jerk offs. Moreover, does the wife, girlfriend, family member, etc. at the center of these confessions know and approve of the post? Does the wife that suffered a miscarriage know about the post? Approve?
Like I said, some things are meant to remain private and certainly not disclosed on an internet forum like this. I wasn’t trying to demean anyone or their story and I did not comment on any particular story. If my opinion about privacy and dignity is so upsetting to some, you’re too damn sensitive and I don’t really care. Final word.
Now the kids here are free to talk shit, post empty talk about “folding me in half” or “stomping” me lmfao, and post silly pictures - yeah, “quality people”. Have at it. But I never came here and betrayed the privacy and sanctity of my home or family.
[/quote]
I’ve pretty much said all I need to say with my response to your PM. But because you thrive on the anonymity of the internet to boost your ego…maybe you missed were your opinion came off as completely disrespectful and judgmental. This is most likely an emotional thread…which I know was hard to notice(sarcasm)…so how did you expect people to respond to you?? Of course people are going to be ultra-sensitive if what they’re dealing with it is truly a emotionally tough situation.
If you didn’t approve in the first place…why didn’t you exercise your own dignity in showing your own disapproval?? Most likely because you have none…as you’ve shown in other threads you’ve posted. This thread was already personal enough…you took it further. [/quote]
I’m far from anonymous. And I replied further to you and explained that no offense was intended to anyone in particular, including you. I stand by my belief that personal business should remain personal. And I’ve explained why.
[quote]dollarbill44 wrote:
[quote]TheBodyGuard wrote:
[quote]Aragorn wrote:
x2 on the not getting too personal here. But on the other hand, anonymity gives you an ability to vent you might lack elsewhere. And as long as we keep the riff raff at bay, there are a lot of quality people here with experience and advice.[/quote]
It’s already gotten way too personal. And some people here that have posted are not all that anonymous with pictures of their likeness in their pages. Yes, there are many quality people here but there are far more jerk offs. Moreover, does the wife, girlfriend, family member, etc. at the center of these confessions know and approve of the post? Does the wife that suffered a miscarriage know about the post? Approve?
Like I said, some things are meant to remain private and certainly not disclosed on an internet forum like this. I wasn’t trying to demean anyone or their story and I did not comment on any particular story. If my opinion about privacy and dignity is so upsetting to some, you’re too damn sensitive and I don’t really care. Final word.
Now the kids here are free to talk shit, post empty talk about “folding me in half” or “stomping” me lmfao, and post silly pictures - yeah, “quality people”. Have at it. But I never came here and betrayed the privacy and sanctity of my home or family.
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I guess you are presupposing that talking about a miscarriage is “betraying the privacy and sanctity” of everyone’s home and family. It’s not the case with me and my wife. Miscarriages aren’t some kind of dirty little secret. They are not due to some personal shortcoming or weakness that would cause shame if people know about them.
My wife and I have talked to dozens of people about the miscarriages. It’s not something we bring up out of the blue or for sympathy, but to lend support to people who have gone through it. In many respects, it’s no different than helping someone through a training injury, just more emotional.
Assuming you have friends, if one of them opens up to you about a personal issue, do you just tell them that you don’t want to hear about it and they should keep it to themselves since it is private?
If people airing their own personal stories bothers you so much, why are you on this thread pretending to be strong and macho by putting down people who have something to say? It says a lot more about your own shortcomings than it does about anyone else.
DB[/quote]
No I am not. If both partners choose to talk about it and air it publically that’s one thing and that’s your particular situation apparently. Speaking of miscarriages, or other misfortunes in general, there are as many if not more that would prefer it remain private.
I started out tongue in cheek mocking OP breaking up with a “one in a billion girl” and then it got to serious tales of woe. I don’t agree with that. Shoot me. For the umpteenth time, no disrespect was intended to anyone suffering. Now, I’ve apologized more than once. Continue with your thread.
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
I wouldn’t air my personal grievances over the internet, but I’m not sure why BG is being such a dick about those who choose to do that.
If you don’t like it, stay out of the thread? Or you can continue to come in here and play some internet tough guy. [/quote]
Lanky shoots and scores. For someone who thinks some of the posts here are a gross violation of personal dignity and show a lack of judgment you seem to have a problem staying out of this thread. To me this kinda smells like trolling. Internet tough guy goes into emotional thread and attempts to rattle peoples cages by attacking the general premise of the thread. Been done before. I’ll give you a 7/10 as you seem to have provoked a decent response. Your technique is crude though and you did lose points for lacking subtlety.
This thread can be an opportunity to learn. I can see how other people have handled challenges I might face or become aware of other nasty things life may through at me. Better to be prepared.
[quote]TheBodyGuard wrote:
[quote]Big_Boss wrote:
[quote]TheBodyGuard wrote:
[quote]Aragorn wrote:
x2 on the not getting too personal here. But on the other hand, anonymity gives you an ability to vent you might lack elsewhere. And as long as we keep the riff raff at bay, there are a lot of quality people here with experience and advice.[/quote]
It’s already gotten way too personal. And some people here that have posted are not all that anonymous with pictures of their likeness in their pages. Yes, there are many quality people here but there are far more jerk offs. Moreover, does the wife, girlfriend, family member, etc. at the center of these confessions know and approve of the post? Does the wife that suffered a miscarriage know about the post? Approve?
Like I said, some things are meant to remain private and certainly not disclosed on an internet forum like this. I wasn’t trying to demean anyone or their story and I did not comment on any particular story. If my opinion about privacy and dignity is so upsetting to some, you’re too damn sensitive and I don’t really care. Final word.
Now the kids here are free to talk shit, post empty talk about “folding me in half” or “stomping” me lmfao, and post silly pictures - yeah, “quality people”. Have at it. But I never came here and betrayed the privacy and sanctity of my home or family.
[/quote]
I’ve pretty much said all I need to say with my response to your PM. But because you thrive on the anonymity of the internet to boost your ego…maybe you missed were your opinion came off as completely disrespectful and judgmental. This is most likely an emotional thread…which I know was hard to notice(sarcasm)…so how did you expect people to respond to you?? Of course people are going to be ultra-sensitive if what they’re dealing with it is truly a emotionally tough situation.
If you didn’t approve in the first place…why didn’t you exercise your own dignity in showing your own disapproval?? Most likely because you have none…as you’ve shown in other threads you’ve posted. This thread was already personal enough…you took it further. [/quote]
I’m far from anonymous. And I replied further to you and explained that no offense was intended to anyone in particular, including you. I stand by my belief that personal business should remain personal. And I’ve explained why.
[/quote]
Do you think that maybe you should keep your beliefs to yourself? Because I am pretty sure nobody cares what you believe.
[quote]TheBodyGuard wrote:
[quote]dollarbill44 wrote:
[quote]TheBodyGuard wrote:
[quote]Aragorn wrote:
x2 on the not getting too personal here. But on the other hand, anonymity gives you an ability to vent you might lack elsewhere. And as long as we keep the riff raff at bay, there are a lot of quality people here with experience and advice.[/quote]
It’s already gotten way too personal. And some people here that have posted are not all that anonymous with pictures of their likeness in their pages. Yes, there are many quality people here but there are far more jerk offs. Moreover, does the wife, girlfriend, family member, etc. at the center of these confessions know and approve of the post? Does the wife that suffered a miscarriage know about the post? Approve?
Like I said, some things are meant to remain private and certainly not disclosed on an internet forum like this. I wasn’t trying to demean anyone or their story and I did not comment on any particular story. If my opinion about privacy and dignity is so upsetting to some, you’re too damn sensitive and I don’t really care. Final word.
Now the kids here are free to talk shit, post empty talk about “folding me in half” or “stomping” me lmfao, and post silly pictures - yeah, “quality people”. Have at it. But I never came here and betrayed the privacy and sanctity of my home or family.
[/quote]
I guess you are presupposing that talking about a miscarriage is “betraying the privacy and sanctity” of everyone’s home and family. It’s not the case with me and my wife. Miscarriages aren’t some kind of dirty little secret. They are not due to some personal shortcoming or weakness that would cause shame if people know about them.
My wife and I have talked to dozens of people about the miscarriages. It’s not something we bring up out of the blue or for sympathy, but to lend support to people who have gone through it. In many respects, it’s no different than helping someone through a training injury, just more emotional.
Assuming you have friends, if one of them opens up to you about a personal issue, do you just tell them that you don’t want to hear about it and they should keep it to themselves since it is private?
If people airing their own personal stories bothers you so much, why are you on this thread pretending to be strong and macho by putting down people who have something to say? It says a lot more about your own shortcomings than it does about anyone else.
DB[/quote]
No I am not. If both partners choose to talk about it and air it publically that’s one thing and that’s your particular situation apparently. Speaking of miscarriages, or other misfortunes in general, there are as many if not more that would prefer it remain private.
I started out tongue in cheek mocking OP breaking up with a “one in a billion girl” and then it got to serious tales of woe. I don’t agree with that. Shoot me. For the umpteenth time, no disrespect was intended to anyone suffering. Now, I’ve apologized more than once. Continue with your thread.
[/quote]
Try to read past your own ego for once.
People don’t want your insincere apologies.
They want you to stop posting here.
Thanks to all the wise words from you guys…I appreciate it. But I think I’ve learned my lesson on airing personal stuff…but this is a tough situation…and I needed it. I even had a “wise” discussion with TheBodyGuard…so you guys can cut him a little slack at this point.
[quote]APB wrote:
This thread can be an opportunity to learn. I can see how other people have handled challenges I might face or become aware of other nasty things life may through at me. Better to be prepared. [/quote]
Yep, I feel the same way.
This pic is further proof that there is somebody for everybody lolz.
Didn’t load dammit
[quote]Bullmoose33 wrote:
Aragorn, consoling others while your prob struggling to breathe is impressive bro. If you still love this girl all I have to say is it ain’t over til its over and thats gospel. Good Luck Man! [/quote]
Thanks, I appreciate that. Yes, it is indeed a struggle to breathe. As completely and utterly juvenile as it is to say it, unfortunately it is true currently. Add in the family difficulties with my dad and uncle for the complete shitfest :). But as someone posted above on this page, the point of this thread wasn’t supposed to be about ME, just a place where people can air what’s eating them without being judged. Sometimes it helps just to type it out or describe it. Sometimes not. Depends on the person I suppose, but this was hopefully to be a thread where people could do that and relate to one another. I’m fully aware my problems are not profound in the scope of human experience. It’s just what’s hitting me hard. I can’t really help that.
I’m very grateful to Big Boss, OG, Steel, PMPM and the others for being able to do that. And those like Momma and others who wrote honest thoughts.
The only reason I led off with my problems was because I didn’t want someone else to have to take the first plunge and I believe in leading by example. Perhaps my judgement is flawed as BG suggests, but it is what it is.
I also certainly didn’t mean to depress people reading this–as some posts have seemed to admit–who aren’t currently going through heavy shit!
[quote]Yo Momma wrote:
[quote]trav123456 wrote:
[quote]Standard Donkey wrote:
where do you get off on being such a chode?
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My roomate always calls people chodes and I have no idea where it comes from[/quote]
Chode = a penis, wider than it is long.
Hee, hee, hee…[/quote]
lol kthnx
