I believe it’s a cute phrase for children and I have a strong suspicion that adults who routinely exclaim, “don’t judge…” are well aware of a serious defect they have for which they don’t want others to judge them.
Not only that, but plenty of people, including some on this forum, want to be judged by their cover, so to speak.
Historically, men who behaved like women have been despised at worst or tolerated at best. And being tolerated isn’t what gets a man masculine affection, company, or the respect of other men.
And it doesn’t get us women either. Any man with a wife who disagrees and doesn’t like “traditional gender roles” can try acting like less of a man and see how it turns out. That is, despite taking part in changing diapers, cleaning, cooking, and wheeling a stroller (all of which I’ve done or do), he can act indecisively, pawn off disciplinary action of children to his wife, not assist in chores or actions his wife is not tall or strong enough to do, not put his foot down when necessary, see his household turn into a circus, and see how it turns out.
That’s partly why parents with life experience would have concern about such a matter.
Wearing some items usually worn by women doesn’t show a man is dressed or behaving like a woman in all cases though. Men who are otherwise manly who wear makeup or nail polish are men who simply like those items, as eccentric as that is (men in some music subcultures for example). A cross-dressed man is a man dressed like a woman. I’m sure those here can see the difference.
Though it’s unlikely to happen, if my son were to put on makeup, I’d be able to make a distinction between eccentric dress on a man versus dressing like a woman. In either case a serious discussion would be had.
I am a lot more careful with hearing than I used to be. I don’t really listen to loud music in my car anymore. I try to keep my headphones not super loud. But I also play drums in a band. I wear hearing protection when doing that. At the same time, it is a lot of total time playing a loud instrument, that is still loud with hearing protection.
Guns especially require hearing protection. I shot a .44 magnum once with no ear protection. They were ringing for a day or two after one shot.
Been wearing hearing aids for 53 years, started when i was about 5
if it wasn’t for the technology that the capitalist society allowed to invent and mass produce i am not sure how i would have been so independent and successful in life without them
I have been working around turbojet engines for fighters and a myriad of other aircraft for years now, not to mention constant sheet metal riveting in the factory I used to support.
I am headed for hearing aids too.
This goes back to the observation I stated before, what appears to me is people often asking, “what’s the big deal?” about matters they’ve never given serious thought about, which usually shows they don’t know about it or don’t want to know about it.
Serious questions: how does someone not talking to someone else about something have anything to do with its consequences? For many years I had a family friend who was homosexual. Other than the occasional mention of a date, partner, or visit to a homosexual bar, he did not speak of his homosexual practices. I’ve worked with several homosexuals. Them not speaking about their orientation is inconsequential. In fact I didn’t know some of them were until one told me or some busy bodies informed me (and no, I never asked).
You like research and academics, right? How much academic knowledge do you have on homosexuality?
I’m just putting these questions out there because of my stated observation. I will not discuss homosexuality in depth online because I cannot be guaranteed purely intellectual discussion.
My point is that it’s neither my job to nor do I have the right to tell other ppl how to live. From my perspective, their sexuality is irrelevant to how I interact with them/our friendship.
If they tried to pressure me to act a certain way, that would be a different story. But again, that has nothing to do with their sexuality. It would be because of their behaviour. I’d be just as annoyed if religious friend who tried constantly to convert me or if a socialist friend tries to tell me that econ is stupid
I still wouldn’t tell them to chance their views, I’d just not interact with them
Edit: I need to call myself out here. I’ve been way too pushy with the “don’t have kids” and “don’t drink alcohol” narrative.
