Honestly the fact that he thinks you are the cause of his wife leaving you and has still not acted on aggression only backs my whole bitch philosophy. Yea its gonna be “assault” but I’ll tell ya that’s only if you get caught. I still say do your dirt and don’t get caught.
[quote]Deorum wrote:
Honestly the fact that he thinks you are the cause of his wife leaving you and has still not acted on aggression only backs my whole bitch philosophy. Yea its gonna be “assault” but I’ll tell ya that’s only if you get caught. I still say do your dirt and don’t get caught.[/quote]
He’s going to get caught. And it’s not “assault”- don’t act like it’s some bullshit. That shit’s serious, and getting convicted of a charge like that can fuck your life up worse than just switching fucking gyms.
[quote]FightinIrish26 wrote:
[quote]Deorum wrote:
Honestly the fact that he thinks you are the cause of his wife leaving you and has still not acted on aggression only backs my whole bitch philosophy. Yea its gonna be “assault” but I’ll tell ya that’s only if you get caught. I still say do your dirt and don’t get caught.[/quote]
He’s going to get caught. And it’s not “assault”- don’t act like it’s some bullshit. That shit’s serious, and getting convicted of a charge like that can fuck your life up worse than just switching fucking gyms.[/quote]
The guy knows who he is. If douche goes to the cops about being punched then OP gets arrested and charged, even if he was in the right from the beginning. It’s not worth potentially getting a criminal record and going to jail for.
Don’t listen to that guy, OP. Everyone else is giving decent advise.
[quote]Dymdez wrote:
[quote]Schwarzfahrer wrote:
Honestly, watch some movies, Bloodsport and Rocky comes to mind, do some coke and you’re good to go!
And I say be an aggressive dick when he shows up, tell him to fuck off and that he’s a weakling - hey, he’s only bigger, taller and more athletic then you, what’s the worst that can happen?[/quote]
lmfao
OK… ANYWAYS
thanks guys, I will update you all if something happens. I have decided to go for boxing afterall with a minor in bjj or judo, I understand this will take a long time, but I think its going to be a worthwhile decision…
If my posting mysteriously stops in the coming weeks, I took the wrong advice.
P.S. There is no “talking” to this guy, the second he sees me, he goes into super saiyan berserk mode. He does not let me get one word into the conversation before waving his arms in my direction or walking away. I tried this every time, didnt work.[/quote]
Wow how annoying, he acts like a child as well. Big-ass 6’6 250lb monster just wants to go crazy lol.
Anyway…if you can’t talk to him…write him a letter? He can read right?
You probably don’t want to get a record if he goes to the police…but he also seems like the type that wouldn’t go to the cops…he’d most likely just kick the shit out of you haha.
I’d be watchin my back if I were you. That’s all I got.
Just throwing this out there because I’ve seen it happen before.
He might be trying to agitate and provoke you into doing something, like hitting him, so that he can go to the police and get you arrested. You’re probably the only one of us that can judge that since you’re the only one who knows the guy. Just be aware that it happens … frequently.
I would say talk to the guy first, in a very plain manner. Make sure he has to listen to you.
I would not suggest a nut shot. What i do suggest is a front kick to the shin. Nobody looks that low, its easy to do and requires no technique. If you are wearing boots all the better. Crack someone good in the shin they are going to hurt real bad and double over. Then as mentioned previously unload on his face repeatedly until he is dandada. Most people arent able to think clearly when their adrenaline goes haywire though unless they have alot of expereince. This is probably the most simple way i could say to do this, and hopefully it doesnt have to occur. But a good shin kick and 1-2 to the face happens really fast and can drop alot of people. Then when hes on the ground you soccer kick to the ribs repeatedly, not the head unless you want to go to jail. But seriously dude, this is a LAST resort.
First of all…to all you naysayers out there…Martial Arts (any Martial art) is a good confidence builder for anybody. I believe its important for everyone to know how to defend themselves. The first line of self defense is avoiding the situation entirely. Dont be the first one to throw the first punch…but be the first to land the first punch…those points are key.
Second, I recomended a fighting style that I know and am comfortable with. I don’t have tons of experience with other styles so I won’t be jumping on band wagons I can’t help the guy with. I know it takes years to master fighting…If thats not already assumed then y’all are misguided not me.
And Lastly, at the end of my post I DID say if the guy keeps bothering him that he SHOULD CALL THE COPS. Can’t read huh? He should learn a martial art for future discipline and confidence in dealing with situtions…not an end all and be all to solve this guy who might be in his face tomm or the next day.
And for the record, at 6’0 and 175lbs a couple years ago, I beat a guy who was 6’4 and 250. Im NEVER afraid of someone whos bigger than me…sometimes confidence and being sure of yourself can defeat foes in a number of ways. So get outta here with oh you can’t fight someone that big bullshit.
Having a bro in law enforcement ive constantly heard about the legal ramifications if I got into a fight and all the different permutations and combinations…most of which land u in jail…especially if your belted in your martial art pretty high or have a black belt. Thats why OP you should go to the cops like I mentioned earlier but like you said you were interested in learning a martial art anyway and that never hurts anybody.
Outside of shooting the guy there isnt much you can do short term on your own. Alerting the gym is the first step but I would make sure he is nowhere near you when you do it. Thats like poking an alligator with a stick. Its not gonna go over to good.
I like the talking to him first approach. Do it in the gym so there are lots of people around and just explain to him that you never looked at or touched his wife. Whatever you do stay calm and polite he should get the message and move on. If that fails it might be time to involve the police.
[quote]FrozenNinja wrote:
And for the record, at 6’0 and 175lbs a couple years ago, I beat a guy who was 6’4 and 250. Im NEVER afraid of someone whos bigger than me…sometimes confidence and being sure of yourself can defeat foes in a number of ways. So get outta here with oh you can’t fight someone that big bullshit.[/quote]
Not everyone is an internet bad ass like you. 
Theres also a difference in self-defense to stop a situation…and clear cut whopping someones ass…so op keep that in mind. I have to admit tho…macing someone that big and watching him scream and yell like a lil girl would be HI-LARIOUS! lol
Lol not an internet badass…just giving the op some advice in a situation that actually occured in my own life…you don’t have to believe it it was witnessed by many so im good on that front. Ive also had my own ass handed to me many times.
How about one of you guys come over to western mass and deadlift with me on tuesday, and if he comes up to me, give him a couple Lui Kang’s to the ribs?
Just found some kid willing to train me in boxing for 100/month, says hes been doing it for over 10 years. How does that sound?
You people don’t read…he already said he’s tried numerous times to talk to the guy, it’s like you guys just wanna post your thoughts before even reading and then the same shit has to be regergitated.
OP that’s great you have boxing…it’s still not gonna help in the little time you have. Besides shouldn’t you be figuring out ways to make this stop, because you did say you don’t want to fight…right?
RIGHT?! lol
[quote]rasturai wrote:
You people don’t read…he already said he’s tried numerous times to talk to the guy, it’s like you guys just wanna post your thoughts before even reading and then the same shit has to be regergitated.
OP that’s great you have boxing…it’s still not gonna help in the little time you have. Besides shouldn’t you be figuring out ways to make this stop, because you did say you don’t want to fight…right?
RIGHT?! lol[/quote]
Yea im at a community college gym temporarily. I repeat: I’m not stupid.
How long does it take on average for someone to learn enough about combat that they can handle themselves against most people who have no formal training? I’m a fast learner. What are some of the experiences you guys had when beginning like I am?
[quote]GSD wrote:
Just throwing this out there because I’ve seen it happen before.
He might be trying to agitate and provoke you into doing something, like hitting him, so that he can go to the police and get you arrested. You’re probably the only one of us that can judge that since you’re the only one who knows the guy. Just be aware that it happens … frequently.[/quote]
Very true.
[quote]FrozenNinja wrote:
First of all…to all you naysayers out there…Martial Arts (any Martial art) is a good confidence builder for anybody. I believe its important for everyone to know how to defend themselves. The first line of self defense is avoiding the situation entirely. Dont be the first one to throw the first punch…but be the first to land the first punch…those points are key.
Second, I recomended a fighting style that I know and am comfortable with. I don’t have tons of experience with other styles so I won’t be jumping on band wagons I can’t help the guy with. I know it takes years to master fighting…If thats not already assumed then y’all are misguided not me.
And Lastly, at the end of my post I DID say if the guy keeps bothering him that he SHOULD CALL THE COPS. Can’t read huh? He should learn a martial art for future discipline and confidence in dealing with situtions…not an end all and be all to solve this guy who might be in his face tomm or the next day.[/quote]
Reasonable post.
[quote]Dymdez wrote:
How long does it take on average for someone to learn enough about combat that they can handle themselves against most people who have no formal training? I’m a fast learner. What are some of the experiences you guys had when beginning like I am?[/quote]
Listen dude, you’re looking at this through the wrong paradigm here.
Are professional, and even amateur boxers, a nightmare to fight one on one? Absolutely.
But in matters of real street violence, very often how good and skilled you are doesn’t matter. You want to start shit or get involved in shit, real shit, then ANYTHING can and will happen.
So dude doesn’t have formal training, fine. He’s still big and strong, and that might mean the end for you. If he was smaller than you, he might not take you head on, but would beat you with a bat when you come out to your car (especially if he thinks you’re bangin his wife). Maybe you assault him and he goes to the cops, or maybe he just stabs you.
And when you say “handle yourself,” what do you mean? Against this guy? Against a mugging? Against a killer? Against a gang? There’s a lot of different things out there, and “handling yourself” against one might give you the false sense of confidence that you DON’T need when dealing with the others.
What I’m trying to say is that there’s no hard answers here, and looking to boxing to solve this problem for you, or any problems in the future, is looking at one piece of a very, very huge puzzle. And you’ll be studying the part that should be the part you use least.
I highly, highly recommend this site- nononesenseselfdefense.com, as a starting point for you. Read through it, and see if it helps you.
On a lighter note HIJACK!
So, it’s at a school gym? Talk to the school, they’ll ban the shit out of that guy.
Or get creative, if you see him start to move toward you, pull out your cell phone and start shooting video. When he say’s what are you doing? Tell him you’re collecting evidence for the restraining order hearing.
I’m going to say that this dude is just going through a rough time and you wound up being the scapegoat. No one needs to get shot or beaten to death.