Bad Habits You Can't Shake

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[quote]Fletch1986 wrote:

[quote]Cortes wrote:

[quote]red04 wrote:
I bite the inside of my mouth(like my cheeks, or just above/below the inside of my lips). I’m pretty sure it’s a terrible, terrible thing to do, and every time I consciously catch myself doing it I immediately stop, but I find myself doing it a lot and it sucks. Usually when I catch myself it’s coming out of some thought or contemplation or day dreaming, so I don’t think it’s really a nervous habit, just some sort of unconscious action that happens when I’m not really paying attention to what I’m doing(because I’m busy thinking about whatever it is, or just not thinking in the case of day dreaming).[/quote]

It may be a case of bruxism. Try about 200mg of vitamin B5 (pantothenic acid) and a calcium magnesium supplement and see if it doesn’t help. [/quote]

I think I might try that because my dentist has told me I have that problem. Saw evidence of it on my molars. [/quote]

The mention of caffeine really points to that. Stimulants, for whatever reason, seem to really deplete certain necessary nutrients and, for whatever reason, bruxism is a terrible effect of this. I have had it so bad one time that I literally felt like I was going insane. I was tearing up my house looking for something to chew on so that I wouldn’t chew my tongue and cheek into a pulp or grind my teeth to nubs if I couldn’t do that. You literally cannot stop, and if you go to sleep like that, God help you.

Have you ever heard someone really grind their teeth in their sleep. I don’t even know how it’s possible to make that sound if I try while awake. Luckily, later that night I found a single dose of B5/calcium/magnesium stopped all symptoms within probably 15 minutes, believe it or not. Give it a shot, at least.

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[quote]Cortes wrote:

[quote]MattyXL wrote:
Words with friends, I play 20 games at once. Its an exciting life I lead…oh and cocaine, but Words with friends is starting to interfere with my life.[/quote]

I know that one. I actually finally just got bored with it, though, and dropped it completely one day.

Maybe because it got boring winning every game…

[/quote]

Hmmm I smell a challenge

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[quote]Cortes wrote:

[quote]thethirdruffian wrote:
Strange pussy.[/quote]

lol[/quote]

Yep. And it’s impossible for me to “hate it” as advised here. I can hate drinking (more than a few drinks a month or so), pot (haven’t seen it since Pyscho left), but there is just something wonderful about strange pussy. Doesn’t matter how hot my girl is, how much I love her, or what.

My brother tells me that children will finally help break the allure of strange pussy, or at least make it so you can beat the desire back (no pun intended).

It’s just nigh impossible for me to stop.

I was in an amusement park with my brother and his kids last week, saw a 30ish lady with short shorts and legs that just wouldn’t stop (turns out she is a cross fit/zumba queen), and proceeded to walk up to her, ask her where she got her coffee (I really wanted some), and then made a date with her that evening — and yeah, we fucked. Twice, in fact. I know almost nothing about her, other than she had great legs, abs, arms, and brown hair. I don’t know her last name, have her email address. I don’t know what state she lives in.

It’s a real problem.

I tried to count all the women I’ve slept with and, just counting sex and not oral sex, it’s in the 100ish range (give or take 10), and I am not that old.

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[quote]MattyXL wrote:

[quote]Cortes wrote:

[quote]MattyXL wrote:
Words with friends, I play 20 games at once. Its an exciting life I lead…oh and cocaine, but Words with friends is starting to interfere with my life.[/quote]

I know that one. I actually finally just got bored with it, though, and dropped it completely one day.

Maybe because it got boring winning every game…

[/quote]

Hmmm I smell a challenge
[/quote]

Haha! NO! Thank you, but I seriously am not interested in playing that game any longer. (^_^)

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[quote]thethirdruffian wrote:

[quote]Cortes wrote:

[quote]thethirdruffian wrote:
Strange pussy.[/quote]

lol[/quote]

Yep. And it’s impossible for me to “hate it” as advised here. I can hate drinking (more than a few drinks a month or so), pot (haven’t seen it since Pyscho left), but there is just something wonderful about strange pussy. Doesn’t matter how hot my girl is, how much I love her, or what.

My brother tells me that children will finally help break the allure of strange pussy, or at least make it so you can beat the desire back (no pun intended).

It’s just nigh impossible for me to stop.

I was in an amusement park with my brother and his kids last week, saw a 30ish lady with short shorts and legs that just wouldn’t stop (turns out she is a cross fit/zumba queen), and proceeded to walk up to her, ask her where she got her coffee (I really wanted some), and then made a date with her that evening — and yeah, we fucked. Twice, in fact. I know almost nothing about her, other than she had great legs, abs, arms, and brown hair. I don’t know her last name, have her email address. I don’t know what state she lives in.

It’s a real problem.

I tried to count all the women I’ve slept with and, just counting sex and not oral sex, it’s in the 100ish range (give or take 10), and I am not that old.[/quote]

if I counted all the wimmenz i have ever had sex with, give or take 10 - I would be either be at 6 or negative 4.

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[quote]Edgy wrote:

if I counted all the wimmenz i have ever had sex with, give or take 10 - I would be either be at 6 or negative 4.[/quote]

A much more normal number.

I am not proud of the situation.

It’s just very, very easy for me to get laid. I know I am very attractive, and and I love sex — except when it fucks with my normal life, which it has and probably will.

Literally a bad habit I cannot shake.

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[quote]thethirdruffian wrote:

[quote]Edgy wrote:

if I counted all the wimmenz i have ever had sex with, give or take 10 - I would be either be at 6 or negative 4.[/quote]

A much more normal number.

I am not proud of the situation.

It’s just very, very easy for me to get laid. I know I am very attractive, and and I love sex — except when it fucks with my normal life, which it has and probably will.

Literally a bad habit I cannot shake.[/quote]
Maybe you need to just fuck a bunch of random women and reconsider ever getting married.

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[quote]csulli wrote:
Maybe you need to just fuck a bunch of random women and reconsider ever getting married.[/quote]

And this is what I get for being honest.

My goal is to stop fucking around and have about 5 kids.

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[quote]thethirdruffian wrote:

[quote]Edgy wrote:

if I counted all the wimmenz i have ever had sex with, give or take 10 - I would be either be at 6 or negative 4.[/quote]

A much more normal number.

[/quote]

silly Injun - there is no normal - AND - da grassa, she is always a greena on de udda side of a de fensa.

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[quote]thethirdruffian wrote:

[quote]csulli wrote:
Maybe you need to just fuck a bunch of random women and reconsider ever getting married.[/quote]

And this is what I get for being honest.

My goal is to stop fucking around and have about 5 kids.[/quote]
Sorry. If that is really your goal, and it means that much to you then hopefully someone can get you some helpful advice.

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[quote]Cortes wrote:

[quote]Fletch1986 wrote:

[quote]Cortes wrote:

[quote]red04 wrote:
I bite the inside of my mouth(like my cheeks, or just above/below the inside of my lips). I’m pretty sure it’s a terrible, terrible thing to do, and every time I consciously catch myself doing it I immediately stop, but I find myself doing it a lot and it sucks. Usually when I catch myself it’s coming out of some thought or contemplation or day dreaming, so I don’t think it’s really a nervous habit, just some sort of unconscious action that happens when I’m not really paying attention to what I’m doing(because I’m busy thinking about whatever it is, or just not thinking in the case of day dreaming).[/quote]

It may be a case of bruxism. Try about 200mg of vitamin B5 (pantothenic acid) and a calcium magnesium supplement and see if it doesn’t help. [/quote]

I think I might try that because my dentist has told me I have that problem. Saw evidence of it on my molars. [/quote]

The mention of caffeine really points to that. Stimulants, for whatever reason, seem to really deplete certain necessary nutrients and, for whatever reason, bruxism is a terrible effect of this. I have had it so bad one time that I literally felt like I was going insane. I was tearing up my house looking for something to chew on so that I wouldn’t chew my tongue and cheek into a pulp or grind my teeth to nubs if I couldn’t do that. You literally cannot stop, and if you go to sleep like that, God help you.

Have you ever heard someone really grind their teeth in their sleep. I don’t even know how it’s possible to make that sound if I try while awake. Luckily, later that night I found a single dose of B5/calcium/magnesium stopped all symptoms within probably 15 minutes, believe it or not. Give it a shot, at least. [/quote]

Is there a specific supplement you used that contains all 3? I peeked around a bit and couldn’t find one, it seems like my best option might be to just keep taking my ZMA at night, and add in the b5/calcium sometime during the day so the calcium doesn’t interfere with my zinc absorption(and vice versa).

Thanks for the advice though, the maddening want to chew on something is definitely something I have, and I never considered that chewing on the inside of mouth was just another manifestation of that(I know it sounds like an obvious connection, dunno why I ignored it). I constantly try to find tiny snacks to chew on, or chew on gum, or chew on a pencil or pen cap, etc etc the list is crazy.

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[quote]on edge wrote:
I wouldn’t call this a habit but it kinda fits the thread.

I can’t throw out old underwear.

You see, the thing is I get undressed at the end of the day and throw the undies in the laundry basket. I don’t really look at them, I just take 'em off and throw them in. In the morning I grab a clean pair and notice they are all tattered and worn but I say to myself “they’re clean, they went through the wash and the dryer, you may as well wear them one more time. But you will forget to throw them out when you take them off later. But I can’t just throw them out when they are clean”. And so goes the never ending cycle.[/quote]
If they still have a waistband they ain’t worn out

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farting at the gym. I try not to but im not gonna run to the bathroom squeeking it out and crop dusting the whole floor so i blow my spot up. I shit in advance and sometime twice especially on leg days. At my old gym this would be no problem, but at this gym (which used to be the mecca for bb back in the day but is no longer hint hint) ive even been asked not to bring my chains back. theyre on some pf shit. I get the dirty look or observe the smelly hand to face signal amongst the others and i still kinda think its funny. I thought about jamming a dryer sheet down there to see if it would come out smelling like laundry instead.

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[quote]SteelyD wrote:
Cortes -

Send me an email at: tn.public.email at gmail dot com[/quote]

< - - - - emails nekkid Viking pics to Steely~

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[quote]thethirdruffian wrote:

[quote]csulli wrote:
Maybe you need to just fuck a bunch of random women and reconsider ever getting married.[/quote]

And this is what I get for being honest.

My goal is to stop fucking around and have about 5 kids.[/quote]

Only God can help you.

And I mean it literally.

If it is as bad as you say it is I doubt having children will help as your brother suggested - I would not use my children that way, anyway.

Having someone greater than yourself to surrender to, to be your head, to be accountable to in honor of word and deed. A relationship with someone greater than yourself. A wife will never fit that role, neither do children; YOU fulfill that role for them.

Don’t get married and have children until you can be like a god for your family.

Learn honor, dignity, integrity. What do these qualities mean?

How can you wield your free will to command them?

Do not wait until you are forced by weakness to learn humility.

If you want to command a family you need to learn self-mastery and your humility is what will make you great in the eyes of your wife and children.

You will have no authority until you can will yourself in or out of anything with the power of your spirit.

You are not truly powerful until you learn to be the master of your self ( master your powerful drives ).

I am not talking get a religion necessarily - I am talking develop a spiritual awareness and a connection to a spiritual head: someone greater than yourself to surrender to.

A deep, intense spiritual relationship.

Key sentiment: surrender yourself to the power of the spirit.

Make this your most private and intimate relationship.

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[quote]red04 wrote:

[quote]Cortes wrote:

[quote]Fletch1986 wrote:

[quote]Cortes wrote:

[quote]red04 wrote:
I bite the inside of my mouth(like my cheeks, or just above/below the inside of my lips). I’m pretty sure it’s a terrible, terrible thing to do, and every time I consciously catch myself doing it I immediately stop, but I find myself doing it a lot and it sucks. Usually when I catch myself it’s coming out of some thought or contemplation or day dreaming, so I don’t think it’s really a nervous habit, just some sort of unconscious action that happens when I’m not really paying attention to what I’m doing(because I’m busy thinking about whatever it is, or just not thinking in the case of day dreaming).[/quote]

It may be a case of bruxism. Try about 200mg of vitamin B5 (pantothenic acid) and a calcium magnesium supplement and see if it doesn’t help. [/quote]

I think I might try that because my dentist has told me I have that problem. Saw evidence of it on my molars. [/quote]

The mention of caffeine really points to that. Stimulants, for whatever reason, seem to really deplete certain necessary nutrients and, for whatever reason, bruxism is a terrible effect of this. I have had it so bad one time that I literally felt like I was going insane. I was tearing up my house looking for something to chew on so that I wouldn’t chew my tongue and cheek into a pulp or grind my teeth to nubs if I couldn’t do that. You literally cannot stop, and if you go to sleep like that, God help you.

Have you ever heard someone really grind their teeth in their sleep. I don’t even know how it’s possible to make that sound if I try while awake. Luckily, later that night I found a single dose of B5/calcium/magnesium stopped all symptoms within probably 15 minutes, believe it or not. Give it a shot, at least. [/quote]

Is there a specific supplement you used that contains all 3? I peeked around a bit and couldn’t find one, it seems like my best option might be to just keep taking my ZMA at night, and add in the b5/calcium sometime during the day so the calcium doesn’t interfere with my zinc absorption(and vice versa).

Thanks for the advice though, the maddening want to chew on something is definitely something I have, and I never considered that chewing on the inside of mouth was just another manifestation of that(I know it sounds like an obvious connection, dunno why I ignored it). I constantly try to find tiny snacks to chew on, or chew on gum, or chew on a pencil or pen cap, etc etc the list is crazy.[/quote]

I just take a B complex that has a lower amount of B6 and at least 40mg of B5 per dose, then an calcium/magnesium supplement. The latter comes together and is pretty common.

There are some other remedies, as well, but I’ve found this one to work very effectively for me. You might not even need anything but the B5.

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[quote]Alpha F wrote:

[quote]thethirdruffian wrote:

[quote]csulli wrote:
Maybe you need to just fuck a bunch of random women and reconsider ever getting married.[/quote]

And this is what I get for being honest.

My goal is to stop fucking around and have about 5 kids.[/quote]

Only God can help you.

And I mean it literally.

If it is as bad as you say it is I doubt having children will help as your brother suggested - I would not use my children that way, anyway.

Having someone greater than yourself to surrender to, to be your head, to be accountable to in honor of word and deed. A relationship with someone greater than yourself. A wife will never fit that role, neither do children; YOU fulfill that role for them.

Don’t get married and have children until you can be like a god for your family.

Learn honor, dignity, integrity. What do these qualities mean?

How can you wield your free will to command them?

Do not wait until you are forced by weakness to learn humility.

If you want to command a family you need to learn self-mastery and your humility is what will make you great in the eyes of your wife and children.

You will have no authority until you can will yourself in or out of anything with the power of your spirit.

You are not truly powerful until you learn to be the master of your self ( master your powerful drives ).

I am not talking get a religion necessarily - I am talking develop a spiritual awareness and a connection to a spiritual head: someone greater than yourself to surrender to.

A deep, intense spiritual relationship.

Key sentiment: surrender yourself to the power of the spirit.

Make this your most private and intimate relationship.

[/quote]

Alpha, I don’t think you’ve ever once written a post that I did not feel a little bit smarter or better for reading.

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[quote]jchenky wrote:

[quote]Cortes wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:
What’s wrong with moderation? I dip a can a week and have for 20 years. I have control. Took me awhile to do it with alcohol, stopped drinking for effect and just enjoy a couple now. [/quote]

Some people are not capable of moderation in their current state of addiction. When I was an alcoholic, I was absolutely, no doubt about it, totally, 100% incapable of moderation in any sane understanding of the term. Now that I AM able to moderate, you would never hear anyone give me advice suggesting I moderate, because the type of people who can are not the ones that are going to be able to do so.

Just to clarify, my situation with alcohol involved a radical transformation at the deep subconscious level that transformed me from an alcoholic to someone who still enjoys a drink, but in NO WAY resembles the person I was before. As I’ve said before, I have not even been drunk once in four years, though I do enjoy a beer or a nice glass of Knob Creek.

I do not believe our OP has had much luck with moderation, just as I don’t believe many alcoholics are capable of such a thing. [/quote]

Can I ask what you went through or did that enabled you experience this transformation? As a sister of a sibling who is abusing substances its interesting to know what has “healed” other addicts/alcoholics.

[/quote]

j, sorry I’ve not yet gotten back to this. Unfortunately, I must be honest with you and say that I am almost 100% convinced that the only way an addict can ever “heal” is by starting by HATING their addiction as much or more than they once loved it. It involves ruthless honesty and self-awareness, which I was fortunate enough to have been blessed with.

I have told my story a few times. I have to poke around and see if I can find it. If anyone else here happens to remember where/when I posted it and would like to throw it up here I would appreciate it. I have family visiting from the states and am spending WAY too much time on this site as it is.

*edited

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[quote]Edgy wrote:

[quote]SteelyD wrote:
Cortes -

Send me an email at: tn.public.email at gmail dot com[/quote]

< - - - - emails nekkid Viking pics to Steely~ [/quote]

It’s hard to shake that habit, eh, Viking?