[quote]Da Man reloaded wrote:
what is the Jewish stance on premarital sex?[/quote]
Maimonides writes that non-marital intercourse falls under the Biblical prohibition of “there shall not be any promiscuous men among the Jewish people; nor shall there be any promiscuous women among the Jewish people.” (Deut. 23:18).
Nachmanides disagrees with this derivation, maintaining that the prohibition is implicit in the Biblical injunction â??And the earth shall not be filled with immorality."(Lev. 19: 29).
The Raavad, according to most authorities, deduces it directly from the command to marry. Implicit in the command to marry, he says, is a prohibition of all nonmarital intercourse. This is technichally referred to as an “Issur assei.”
I suspect “why?” is the next question:
Judaism teaches that the mission of each individual is to draw the most supernal levels of spirituality down into physical reality. Acts which accomplish this fusion of the spiritual and the physical are called “unifications” bring new life-force into the world.
This can only be accomplished when the latent spiritual forces are manifest within a fitting worldly context. When spiritual resources are misallocated (via human free will), destructive spiritual forces are created, delaying the rectification of the world and causing a rift between us and the good that the Creator wishes to bestow upon us.
Sexual union can be the most powerful manifestation of the fusion of body and spirit — it is, after all, how souls recive their bodies.
When partners are united in their intentions, having made a lifelong commitment to grow together, experience the depths of each other’s personalities, and perhaps even bring children into the world, their physical union is more than a fleeting passion. In essence, they are uniting spiritual worlds, utilizing one of the most powerful tools that G-d has given humankind.
The cavalier use of the power of procreation is a gross maltreatment of this awesome medium. Only after acknowledging the potential of a life-long bond (marriage), can a couple have the clarity it takes to truly grow together in a physical relationship.
Premarital sex desensitizes both partners, making it more difficult to access the heights offered by a deeper, more profound relationship.