There’s a caveat to that. I do agree that the overall tone has been frustration, albeit for good reasons though.
But just from my observation, this user does have eating issues. The main reason I suspect she hasn’t had some sort of medical diagnosis slapped onto her is because she hasn’t spent enough time under the correct professional care.
I didn’t know what the reason was that she needed surgery until I read Emily’s post about her kidney issues. But I’m willing to bet that her being underweight had something, if not a large portion to do with it. And I’m also willing to bet that that came about from being underweight for a prolonged period of time, because she’s been without her period for years now.
There’s comes a point in time, where people who don’t deal with issues like this, or aren’t regularly around people who deal with issues like this, they become frustrated. Because from the outside view, and logically speaking, it looks and sounds insane. And that’s because it is. And with that, patience starts to fall apart, because NOTHING about this is rational. At all. Those who don’t struggle with things like this, can clearly see that.
Punnyguy mentioned this:
And until she does that, we will all pop in here, say the same things we’ve all been saying, while she either deflects it, or uses it as a drive to continue doing what she’s been doing. I’m not saying she’s doing that on purpose, or even doing it to frustrate others though.
Everything this user posts just reveals more and more of what’s going on. I’m not going to sit here and dwindle her down to some diagnoses out of a medical book, because it doesn’t matter, and theres so much more to her than that, but again, it’s becoming a lot more evident.
What really tipped me off was when she had a big back and forth with Pinky about the exercising she was planning to do to completely empty herself of whatever calories she allotted herself on that given day. Long story short, that is a HUGE bright red colored flag.
And this:
She is BARELY breaking The 1,000 calorie barrier.
I apologize if I come off super brash, but there’s no have-your-cake-and-eat-it-too type of thing to be had here. Maybe I’m overreacting. Maybe I’m a bit worried for this particular user, but I’ve “been around the block” so to speak, and when I see blatant line ups of a very serious thing that’s probably been plaguing this user for who knows how long, it’s no longer about the training, it’s no longer about school, or work, or whatever fourth, fifth, or sixth thing. It’s about this user realizing that this isn’t a game.
This whole thing reminds me of that other user who was on here, who was also blatantly struggling with an eating disorder. To the point where a handful of us just devolved to repeatedly telling her that she needed medical/psychiatric help.
@anna_5588 I am in no way trying to make you feel bad. I’m not trying to scare you either. Believe me I’m not. But I am trying to tell you that there is no grey area, concerning stuff like this. And what I mean by grey area, is that there is no room for trying to cling onto…this, and trying to go forward. Everything seems so out of reach now, because you haven’t consistently set out to tackle anything. Concerning your mental and emotional well being.
That money that you receive from your parents, put it to work. Be smart with it. Any time you visit the States, book an appointment with a psychotherapist/nutritionist. Or seek one out from your home country and don’t settle until you come across someone YOU deem worthy of trusting. And again, your parents care about you, I’m sure they’re willing to help you, and I’m sure they’re willing to listen to you. It is not money that is being wasted. My husband and I have roughly spent 500-700$ on my recovery so far, and every last bit of that was money WELL SPENT. The self-help books, co-pays, the plethora of self-soothing tools I now I have, etc. All of it well spent.
And again, I apologize for how headstrong I seem. It’s just…this particular subject really has the power to hit me straight through to my feelings. And I care one hell of a lot. I’m only like this BECAUSE i care.