[quote]Capacity wrote:
skidmark wrote:
Looks like I’m still going it alone. Wife and son have opted out.
Ah, well.
OK, that just plain pisses me off. And how many times have you gone with her on trips to the mall or some other such nonsense? And your son … I take it you normally try to make it to HIS events, right?
Sorry, but this is bullshit. They should go once for God’s sake. If they can’t stomach it again, at least they can say they made a legit effort.
I can’t tell you how many “guy” things I’ve attended just to support my hubby’s interest in something. Yes, even the dreaded Monster Truck Show.
No, I wouldn’t go to something like that ever again, but I did go ONCE. (And we still laugh about it every time we see a commercial for it.) I’ve been to a buttload of car shows, car races, HAM radio fests (ug) and just about every other nerdy kind of thing you can think of.
Most of our first “dates” revolved around visiting local junkyards (looking for car parts) or me sitting in a cold garage passing tools under his Mopar.
I look at it this way: If I was willing to do that kind of stuff when we were dating then I damn well better be willing to do it now. Nothing’s changed.
Is a PL meet boring if lifting isn’t your thang? Sure. So take a book or knitting or whatever blows your hair back and just go.
I dunno. Maybe I’m just different, but I think it’s important to put up with some shit you don’t “get” to support your partner’s interest. Especially if they are involved in it from a competitive standpoint.
In light of their absence I hope you kick ass and take names. Well, I hope you kick ass either way, but especially so now!
Cappy
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Well, the response may be somewhat dependent on how the request is made.
I may have been in error to say “Well? Are ya f**kin’ goin’ with me - or not?”
Nah - It must be the 5AM start time for the trip that’s the problem…
edit: Thanks for the support Capacity. Doing things you dislike but which the other enjoys is definitely one component of a successful relationship.
I hope I haven’t given the impression that I get NO support at home. My wife has been very encouraging in other areas, particularly in my efforts at figure sculpture.
She comes from a family of known artists and believes I could sell some of my stuff (if I were actually to complete something). It’s just that she literally doesn’t understand powerlifting or weight training in general or any of its attractions.
To her, and many other people, lifting weights is punishment or self injury to no ultimate purpose. I understand the point of view and I also believe that it’s pointless to try to convince them otherwise. Hopefully my enjoyment of the past-time will induce her to think more positively about it.
My son, I think, would like to go, but I’m not willing to watch him during the meet in the event my wife finally decides not to go (she’s reconsidering).
He’s a curious, intelligent and somewhat uninhibited 10 year old and would either get hurt, interfere with someone’s concentration or interfere with mine. So there’s a selfish element on my part as well.