[quote]H factor wrote:
[quote]thunderbolt23 wrote:
[quote]Sloth wrote:
[quote]H factor wrote:
Sloth:
When in your opinion is divorce acceptable?
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When the vows made by each to the other are broken. Abuse and adultery. That’s it.[/quote]
Patently unfair. What if someone gets bored and wants to, you know, dip their stinger in different honey, despite the three kids that are relying on the home being provided? What do you hate freedom? ![]()
(Btw, wondering when you would drop by - this topic is right in your wheelhouse.)
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The idea that someone who is for liberty is for someone not raising their kids is simply untrue.
You think people were faithful back when divorce wasn’t socially allowed? Ha, women just put up with it. You really think the 60’s invented infidelity?
Again T what is your solution? I agree that Dad’s not raising kids is bad. How do we fix it when the government will solve the issue by using your tax dollars to provide for the kid anyways. [/quote]
Back then, the culture didn’t tolerate it. Through the power of shame, such norms were enforced. It didntt work perfectly - nothing will - but the culture brought its wrath down on the person and the person most often responded. Legal solutions weren’t as necessary because the private world handled the matter.
Fast forward to now. As I noted in the other thread, we can’t extract the state from the role of family provider until we reinstall the true members (like fathers). That starts with changing the culture and being willing to speak publicly and condemn bad behavior - and loud.
The law can only go so far - although I am not a huge fan of no-fault divorce - the solution is bigger than the law.
It starts with getting away from this mushy-minded non-judgmentalism (that libertarians are so famous for, but they aren’t the only ones), dropping the moral relativism, and shaming, which means stop socially rewarding stupid behavior with attention, reality shows, and the like, and start hurting people’s feelings who are not doing right by their children.
This sounds harsh, but at a basic level, it’s not. I am no curmudgeon and I am not interested in lecturing every stranger I see. But it’s gone too far.