Nah, Em never said she’d show anything; just that she dresses to minimize her curviness.[/quote]
Why?[/quote]
Because male sexual aggression frightens me and I don’t seek to encourage it outside of the context of a committed relationship. When I dress with reasonable modestly (though I’m no Amish woman) men treat me differently. I am already regretting having posted the pic, which I really had not recognized as being so breast-y when I cropped it ( was little on my screen). The tone of some of the posters is different as a resule. People I don’t respect treating me with a decided lack of respect.
Just a matter of preference. I have enough to offer, I feel, that my body can come as a happy surprise to the select men with whom I choose to share it. This is the pic Chushion was referring to when he offered that he didn’t see curves - I spend most of my time dressed something like this:
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Frightens you?
99% of the time you just have to say no.
Hell, 99% of the time they are more scared of you than you of them.
No kidding.
Unfortunately.
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Overwhelms might be a better word than frightens. Mostly I just don’t want to deal with it. I want men who want women like me, that’s all. The way I dress and carry myself broadcast that I’m not casual and getting to know me won’t be quick. The ones who want another type of woman should have that. I feel safest and best in a long term relationship, where I can relax my guard and feel free to express affection without inhibition.
Luckily, many men seem to feel as I do and they don’t seem scared of me at all.[/quote]
There is a lot of truth to this. The way a woman dresses directly correlates to what type of attention she is going to attract. Not sure all of them realize that however. My wife dresses fairly modestly most of the time, especially by todays standards. Something I have noticed is, the frenzy she can send me into when she decides to go for that sexy look (not slutty, but sexy) is much greater than if I was constantly bombarded by her “assets”. I like feeling that frenzy.
I thought the same thing at one time about texting. I did some digging and found that things weren’t as they appeared to be. Then I felt guilty for doing that.
[quote]dailybread wrote:
I just read these posts and now I have to go back and rewrite my paper for class. I know for a fact at least one of you got it all wrong.[/quote]
In scrolling back to see who got what wrong, I realized that this is the thread where I posted my armpit injury and lack of development. Update: injury recovered, working on strength-building!
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
In scrolling back to see who got what wrong, I realized that this is the thread where I posted my armpit injury and lack of development. Update: injury recovered, working on strength-building!
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Don’t we we need an update from TR to know who whiffed and who hit nail on head?
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
In scrolling back to see who got what wrong, I realized that this is the thread where I posted my armpit injury and lack of development. Update: injury recovered, working on strength-building!
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Don’t we we need an update from TR to know who whiffed and who hit nail on head?
We always get left hanging on these threads.[/quote]
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
In scrolling back to see who got what wrong, I realized that this is the thread where I posted my armpit injury and lack of development. Update: injury recovered, working on strength-building!
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Don’t we we need an update from TR to know who whiffed and who hit nail on head?
We always get left hanging on these threads.[/quote]
Or we all fell for nth degree trolling…
Rob[/quote]
It would be so funny if the guy just made the whole thing up and randomly picked some real dude off Linkedin to be the other guy. With all the search options on Linkedin it would be so easy to find someone who fit the profile you were creating.
[quote]dailybread wrote:
No, it was not you Emily. After reading more I also saw where this is an old thread. I hope that it all got worked out. [/quote]
So you created a profile to post three times in this thread?
SO sorry! Same thing happened to me - approx nov - dec. . . Unfortunately, the texts were innappropriate (for a committed relationship/engaged) between co-workers. Its a sad situation to be in, for both parties – the one getting hurt and the one who did the hurting (especially when they got caught in the texting tidal wave). . . we are still together and its been about a year or so since i found out about the late night texts/conversations they were having at work - it hurt so bad - we never had any real trust issues (7 years) and now i am constantly looking over my shoulder, stressing the “what-ifs” and making accusations that may seem random (ends up being "stop mindf88ing yourself, you think to much, your going to think yourself crazy. . . ). Bottom line, trust is the foundation to everything in life - if you cant trust the person you are with, its going to be a bumpy road for a little while until the trust is gained; coming from a broken family that doesn’t trust anyone, especially men, it is so hard to distinguish “real” issues and those little issues that fester into something thats made up in my head. . . .apparently women have an extra sense and can feel things before they happen and/or while they are happening - usually their “feeling”/sense is 80% on point, which is pretty high chance - not that this information is helping you any LoL - only you and your girlfriend know how you feel about one another - kicking her out was the right thing to do to establish that boundary (apart of me wish i did the same thing instead of trying to make things right by giving him more attention, love and affection - which is “why” it happened - no sex, just conversation). Now that she knows your not playing games and you both had time to think about what happened, the end of the week should have you both missing the hell out of each other (good) or realzing that your not really meant for each other. . . .there is someone for everyone and its finding that one person you click with that makes life even more exciting! I wish you luck and peace!
I know this might sound dumb, but have you ever heard of a show called Nurse Jackie? It’s about a Nurse who cheats on her husband With the Hospital Pharmacist for Painkillers because she’s an addict. Also no one at her job even knew she was married. I know that your wife isn’t an addict and that quite possibly she isn’t sleeping with anyone, but in the show, she has 2 kid’s and does’t spend time after hours with anyone but her family. I hope the best for you. I just found out my wife was doing cocaine for the last week and has been hiding it behind my back, so i’m also in a pickle, but you’ll figure it out man.
