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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

Nah, Em never said she’d show anything; just that she dresses to minimize her curviness.[/quote]

Why?[/quote]

Because male sexual aggression frightens me and I don’t seek to encourage it outside of the context of a committed relationship. When I dress with reasonable modestly (though I’m no Amish woman) men treat me differently. I am already regretting having posted the pic, which I really had not recognized as being so breast-y when I cropped it ( was little on my screen). The tone of some of the posters is different as a result. People I don’t respect treating me with a decided lack of respect.

Just a matter of preference. I have enough to offer, I feel, that my body can come as a happy surprise to the select men with whom I choose to share it. This is the pic Chushion was referring to when he offered that he didn’t see curves - I spend most of my time dressed something like this:

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Trust me. It wasn’t what the pic showed. At least for me.

Also fixed that comically placed typo.

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
You can also observe that damnable lack of armpit development. I can hardly lift my arms.[/quote]
Recover then train.

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[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

Nah, Em never said she’d show anything; just that she dresses to minimize her curviness.[/quote]

Why?[/quote]

Because male sexual aggression frightens me and I don’t seek to encourage it outside of the context of a committed relationship. When I dress with reasonable modestly (though I’m no Amish woman) men treat me differently. I am already regretting having posted the pic, which I really had not recognized as being so breast-y when I cropped it ( was little on my screen). The tone of some of the posters is different as a resule. People I don’t respect treating me with a decided lack of respect.

Just a matter of preference. I have enough to offer, I feel, that my body can come as a happy surprise to the select men with whom I choose to share it. This is the pic Chushion was referring to when he offered that he didn’t see curves - I spend most of my time dressed something like this:

[/quote]

Frightens you?

99% of the time you just have to say no.

Hell, 99% of the time they are more scared of you than you of them.

No kidding.

Unfortunately.

[/quote]

Overwhelms might be a better word than frightens. Mostly I just don’t want to deal with it. I want men who want women like me, that’s all. The way I dress and carry myself broadcast that I’m not casual and getting to know me won’t be quick. The ones who want another type of woman should have that. I feel safest and best in a long term relationship, where I can relax my guard and feel free to express affection without inhibition.

Luckily, many men seem to feel as I do and they don’t seem scared of me at all.

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

Nah, Em never said she’d show anything; just that she dresses to minimize her curviness.[/quote]

Why?[/quote]

Because male sexual aggression frightens me and I don’t seek to encourage it outside of the context of a committed relationship. When I dress with reasonable modestly (though I’m no Amish woman) men treat me differently. I am already regretting having posted the pic, which I really had not recognized as being so breast-y when I cropped it ( was little on my screen). The tone of some of the posters is different as a resule. People I don’t respect treating me with a decided lack of respect.

Just a matter of preference. I have enough to offer, I feel, that my body can come as a happy surprise to the select men with whom I choose to share it. This is the pic Chushion was referring to when he offered that he didn’t see curves - I spend most of my time dressed something like this:

[/quote]

Frightens you?

99% of the time you just have to say no.

Hell, 99% of the time they are more scared of you than you of them.

No kidding.

Unfortunately.

[/quote]

Overwhelms might be a better word than frightens. Mostly I just don’t want to deal with it. I want men who want women like me, that’s all. The way I dress and carry myself broadcast that I’m not casual and getting to know me won’t be quick. The ones who want another type of woman should have that. I feel safest and best in a long term relationship, where I can relax my guard and feel free to express affection without inhibition.

Luckily, many men seem to feel as I do and they don’t seem scared of me at all.[/quote]

Its hard to say without pictures but if you play it strictly non sexual, why would they be scared at all?

You Anglo women, you developed a Madonna-Whore complex all by yourselves.

You can be feminine, erotic even, without being inviting or appearing cheap.

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[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
You can also observe that damnable lack of armpit development. I can hardly lift my arms.[/quote]
Recover then train.[/quote]

That’s my plan!

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

Because male sexual aggression frightens me and I don’t seek to encourage it outside of the context of a committed relationship. When I dress with reasonable modestly (though I’m no Amish woman) men treat me differently. I am already regretting having posted the pic, which I really had not recognized as being so breast-y when I cropped it ( was little on my screen). The tone of some of the posters is different as a resule. People I don’t respect treating me with a decided lack of respect.

[/quote]

Oops. I hope that it wasn’t my post that inspired this response. I’m sorry if it was.

I was just goofing around, but I’ll go back and take it out if you like.

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[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

Nah, Em never said she’d show anything; just that she dresses to minimize her curviness.[/quote]

Why?[/quote]

Because male sexual aggression frightens me and I don’t seek to encourage it outside of the context of a committed relationship. When I dress with reasonable modestly (though I’m no Amish woman) men treat me differently. I am already regretting having posted the pic, which I really had not recognized as being so breast-y when I cropped it ( was little on my screen). The tone of some of the posters is different as a resule. People I don’t respect treating me with a decided lack of respect.

Just a matter of preference. I have enough to offer, I feel, that my body can come as a happy surprise to the select men with whom I choose to share it. This is the pic Chushion was referring to when he offered that he didn’t see curves - I spend most of my time dressed something like this:

[/quote]

Frightens you?

99% of the time you just have to say no.

Hell, 99% of the time they are more scared of you than you of them.

No kidding.

Unfortunately.

[/quote]

Overwhelms might be a better word than frightens. Mostly I just don’t want to deal with it. I want men who want women like me, that’s all. The way I dress and carry myself broadcast that I’m not casual and getting to know me won’t be quick. The ones who want another type of woman should have that. I feel safest and best in a long term relationship, where I can relax my guard and feel free to express affection without inhibition.

Luckily, many men seem to feel as I do and they don’t seem scared of me at all.[/quote]

Its hard to say without pictures but if you play it strictly non sexual, why would they be scared at all?

You Anglo women, you developed a Madonna-Whore complex all by yourselves.

You can be feminine, erotic even, without being inviting or appearing cheap.

[/quote]

Right! And I do that as soon as I determine that someone is nice enough, smart enough, funny enough, and has enough integrity. Otherwise, what use have I of him? I don’t take every job I’m qualified for, I don’t eat at every restaurant I pass and can afford - I pick and choose so the experience will be a good one.

There’s so much more than sex for me. But once there’s so much more, sex becomes profound.

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[quote]SkyzykS wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

Because male sexual aggression frightens me and I don’t seek to encourage it outside of the context of a committed relationship. When I dress with reasonable modestly (though I’m no Amish woman) men treat me differently. I am already regretting having posted the pic, which I really had not recognized as being so breast-y when I cropped it ( was little on my screen). The tone of some of the posters is different as a resule. People I don’t respect treating me with a decided lack of respect.

[/quote]

Oops. I hope that it wasn’t my post that inspired this response. I’m sorry if it was.

I was just goofing around, but I’ll go back and take it out if you like.
[/quote]

Nah, you’re fine. I just ignored it - I know you, and knew you were just playing.

Edit: and let’s face it, I’ve been flirting in here.

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]SkyzykS wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

Because male sexual aggression frightens me and I don’t seek to encourage it outside of the context of a committed relationship. When I dress with reasonable modestly (though I’m no Amish woman) men treat me differently. I am already regretting having posted the pic, which I really had not recognized as being so breast-y when I cropped it ( was little on my screen). The tone of some of the posters is different as a resule. People I don’t respect treating me with a decided lack of respect.

[/quote]

Oops. I hope that it wasn’t my post that inspired this response. I’m sorry if it was.

I was just goofing around, but I’ll go back and take it out if you like.
[/quote]

Nah, you’re fine. I just ignored it - I know you, and knew you were just playing.

Edit: and let’s face it, I’ve been flirting in here.
[/quote]

Whew! O.k. Cuz that hit me with a jolt of guilt.

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]SkyzykS wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

Because male sexual aggression frightens me and I don’t seek to encourage it outside of the context of a committed relationship. When I dress with reasonable modestly (though I’m no Amish woman) men treat me differently. I am already regretting having posted the pic, which I really had not recognized as being so breast-y when I cropped it ( was little on my screen). The tone of some of the posters is different as a resule. People I don’t respect treating me with a decided lack of respect.

[/quote]

Oops. I hope that it wasn’t my post that inspired this response. I’m sorry if it was.

I was just goofing around, but I’ll go back and take it out if you like.
[/quote]

Nah, you’re fine. I just ignored it - I know you, and knew you were just playing.

Edit: and let’s face it, I’ve been flirting in here.
[/quote]
Must have been me then haha

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[quote]csulli wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]SkyzykS wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

Because male sexual aggression frightens me and I don’t seek to encourage it outside of the context of a committed relationship. When I dress with reasonable modestly (though I’m no Amish woman) men treat me differently. I am already regretting having posted the pic, which I really had not recognized as being so breast-y when I cropped it ( was little on my screen). The tone of some of the posters is different as a resule. People I don’t respect treating me with a decided lack of respect.

[/quote]

Oops. I hope that it wasn’t my post that inspired this response. I’m sorry if it was.

I was just goofing around, but I’ll go back and take it out if you like.
[/quote]

Nah, you’re fine. I just ignored it - I know you, and knew you were just playing.

Edit: and let’s face it, I’ve been flirting in here.
[/quote]
Must have been me then haha[/quote]
You should’ve fought those hounds.

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[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]csulli wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]SkyzykS wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

Because male sexual aggression frightens me and I don’t seek to encourage it outside of the context of a committed relationship. When I dress with reasonable modestly (though I’m no Amish woman) men treat me differently. I am already regretting having posted the pic, which I really had not recognized as being so breast-y when I cropped it ( was little on my screen). The tone of some of the posters is different as a resule. People I don’t respect treating me with a decided lack of respect.

[/quote]

Oops. I hope that it wasn’t my post that inspired this response. I’m sorry if it was.

I was just goofing around, but I’ll go back and take it out if you like.
[/quote]

Nah, you’re fine. I just ignored it - I know you, and knew you were just playing.

Edit: and let’s face it, I’ve been flirting in here.
[/quote]
Must have been me then haha[/quote]
You should’ve fought those hounds.[/quote]

Once released, there is no fighting them.

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Good grief.

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[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

Nah, Em never said she’d show anything; just that she dresses to minimize her curviness.[/quote]

Why?[/quote]

Because male sexual aggression frightens me and I don’t seek to encourage it outside of the context of a committed relationship. When I dress with reasonable modestly (though I’m no Amish woman) men treat me differently. I am already regretting having posted the pic, which I really had not recognized as being so breast-y when I cropped it ( was little on my screen). The tone of some of the posters is different as a resule. People I don’t respect treating me with a decided lack of respect.

Just a matter of preference. I have enough to offer, I feel, that my body can come as a happy surprise to the select men with whom I choose to share it. This is the pic Chushion was referring to when he offered that he didn’t see curves - I spend most of my time dressed something like this:

[/quote]

Frightens you?

99% of the time you just have to say no.

Hell, 99% of the time they are more scared of you than you of them.

No kidding.

Unfortunately.

[/quote]

Overwhelms might be a better word than frightens. Mostly I just don’t want to deal with it. I want men who want women like me, that’s all. The way I dress and carry myself broadcast that I’m not casual and getting to know me won’t be quick. The ones who want another type of woman should have that. I feel safest and best in a long term relationship, where I can relax my guard and feel free to express affection without inhibition.

Luckily, many men seem to feel as I do and they don’t seem scared of me at all.[/quote]

Its hard to say without pictures but if you play it strictly non sexual, why would they be scared at all?

You Anglo women, you developed a Madonna-Whore complex all by yourselves.

You can be feminine, erotic even, without being inviting or appearing cheap.

[/quote]

Going back to this because the madonna/whore thing bugs me - I like to think I am “feminine, erotic even, without being inviting or appearing cheap.” The past several days have shown various of my home and work clothes here. They’re not burkas! My one leg is a very nice one and I display it all summer long. But although I’m friendly and outgoing to men and women alike, I don’t flirt and I don’t dress to invite sexual advance unless I’m moving toward or in a romantic thing. Then, yes, clothes are chosen for other purposes.

The main thing is that I don’t want to keep having to step around men like you, who want to run game I’m not interested in.

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[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
I am already regretting having posted the pic, which I really had not recognized as being so breast-y when I cropped it ( was little on my screen). The tone of some of the posters is different as a resule. People I don’t respect treating me with a decided lack of respect.

[/quote]

Then I apologize for opening that can of worms.

And hope that you’re not including me in those who are treating you disrespectfully, since I would not want to hurt your feelings, and – more importantly – do respect you.[/quote]

You were all fine! I’m just not delighted that I posted a photo of myself that had AS ITS CENTRAL ELEMENT a breast. The mentions of “dic pic threads” and requests for more pics just felt uncomfortable to me. Not because they were outrageous or wrong, but because that’s not generally my stompng ground.

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[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

Nah, Em never said she’d show anything; just that she dresses to minimize her curviness.[/quote]

Why?[/quote]

Because male sexual aggression frightens me and I don’t seek to encourage it outside of the context of a committed relationship. When I dress with reasonable modestly (though I’m no Amish woman) men treat me differently. I am already regretting having posted the pic, which I really had not recognized as being so breast-y when I cropped it ( was little on my screen). The tone of some of the posters is different as a resule. People I don’t respect treating me with a decided lack of respect.

Just a matter of preference. I have enough to offer, I feel, that my body can come as a happy surprise to the select men with whom I choose to share it. This is the pic Chushion was referring to when he offered that he didn’t see curves - I spend most of my time dressed something like this:

[/quote]

Frightens you?

99% of the time you just have to say no.

Hell, 99% of the time they are more scared of you than you of them.

No kidding.

Unfortunately.

[/quote]

Overwhelms might be a better word than frightens. Mostly I just don’t want to deal with it. I want men who want women like me, that’s all. The way I dress and carry myself broadcast that I’m not casual and getting to know me won’t be quick. The ones who want another type of woman should have that. I feel safest and best in a long term relationship, where I can relax my guard and feel free to express affection without inhibition.

Luckily, many men seem to feel as I do and they don’t seem scared of me at all.[/quote]

Its hard to say without pictures but if you play it strictly non sexual, why would they be scared at all?

You Anglo women, you developed a Madonna-Whore complex all by yourselves.

You can be feminine, erotic even, without being inviting or appearing cheap.

[/quote]

Oh hai Orionz. I’m in your towns eating your schnitzels and trinking dein doppel maltz :wink:

I can see the women here are so sensibly dressed that I’m like the whore of Babylon in what I consider modestly dressed. It’s mild and sunny and everyone is covered head to toe. I think I see where you are coming from.

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you are a classy girl Emily.