Advice About My Kid

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[quote]jbpick86 wrote:

[quote]Bauber wrote:
Went through a similar situation with my fiancÃ?©’s little boy, who I now have custody of. Typical pos no job loser who came round when he felt like it which was 1-2 time a year. When she passed he came immediately and tried to get his SS card so he could file his SS and draw foodstamps etc on him since he’s a compete piece of shit.

I would also suggest against CPS unless you have a lawyer and he is doing harm or had poor living conditions etc. We used CPS once a lawyer was established and papers were in motion to build a better case and have more damning evidence which we didn’t even need in court, but had it in our pockets. He can only see him now if he pays and is on my terms at my house or his grandparents house.

I would honestly talk to a lawyer and possibly a counselor first so she can get an unbiased view of what’s going on. Then proceed from there. My little guy turns 6 in December so almost the exact age :).[/quote]

Bauber, I didn’t know this about you but would just like to commend you on being such a stand up guy. You didn’t have to do that for the kid and not a lot of people in your position would have unfortunately. Anyways, I am sure that you are a true blessing in that kids life and I just wanted to give you props on your selflessness. [/quote]

X2! Men like Bauber seem to be a rare breed, but they’re just what the world needs more than ever.

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[quote]rrjc5488 wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:
The worst thing she could do is to make sure that her boy “will not be like his Dad.”.
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It sounds like the boys dad is a total piece of shit. You can be “alpha” as you like to put it, without being a total piece of shit. AngryChicken, David DeAngelo, Tucker Max ALL recommend not being a piece of shit liar to bed women.
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As far as I know my Dad never lied, he just did not give a fuck.

Also, and far more important, to think a 6 year old boy can pick and choose what to emulate and what not and how it all fits together…

No, not gonna happen…

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[quote]thethirdruffian wrote:

[quote]on edge wrote:

[quote]thethirdruffian wrote:
I’ve got this under control, but it required my life to get really fucked up.[/quote]

Soooo ehem… any chance you’re no longer mad at a certain someone? Maybe even feeing a bit of gratitude?[/quote]

Unlikely.

On the bright side, I have for sale a slightly used platinum engagement ring, lady’s size 7, 4.5 carret center stone (round but squarish – think it’s called “pillow”), VVS1, F color (slight blue in my eyes), with two 3/4 triangle shaped side stones, same quality.

Looks like this:

Serious enquiries only.[/quote]

Sorry to hear that.

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[quote]SkyzykS wrote:

[quote]super saiyan wrote:

[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
Maddoggin me and anyone from any other crew…
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You win.

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!???!

I didn’t know something like that could be won.

My kid loves the Chili Peppers. He grabs on to the speaker and dances to the beat.

One of my favorites-

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I was there mmm goodtimes!

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I understand the importance of a male role model, but I must say, when my brother was growing up my dad was at work all day and grumpy/tired when he came home from work so the only person my brother basically hung out with was my mom.
He never once in his life went hunting, or fishing, he didn’t play sports, he and my dad never bonded over manly shit, and he grew up to be just fine.
He did really well at school, got a real job, has a beautiful girlfriend, developed a website that actually makes money, and owns his own place.
He’s not an alpha, he’s a nerd, and he’s always been a nerd.
My son is a huge gamer and you couldn’t pay him to go play sports.
Any chance he’ll just be a nerd? It clearly runs in the family…

His future is not set in stone, there’s not a 100% chance he’ll be this way or that way just because of his family situation.

In fact, now that I think of it, ALL of my brothers friends have all the same interests/hobbies and none of them revolve around fishing, hunting, or sports.
They’re playing risk and magic, and they’re all pretty darn wonderful people. I respect them completely.
Didn’t anyone on this website grow up nerd style? What about the importance of teaching him how to play video games and dungeons and dragons? I can do all that shit.
And I most certainly can teach him how to lift.

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You know Spok, everybody says “Behind every great man is a great woman”, but there is also a lot of proof that even in the absence of a great man, there are still great women.

Hang in there.

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[quote]Spock81 wrote:
I understand the importance of a male role model, but I must say, when my brother was growing up my dad was at work all day and grumpy/tired when he came home from work [/quote]

Don’t underestimate the power of a role model that knows to go grind it out each day.

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[quote]thethirdruffian wrote:

[quote]Spock81 wrote:
I understand the importance of a male role model, but I must say, when my brother was growing up my dad was at work all day and grumpy/tired when he came home from work [/quote]

Don’t underestimate the power of a role model that knows to go grind it out each day.
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Oh no, I totally understand and respect that, but my dad was grumpy because he was having panic attacks all day long about really stupid irrational shit.
He’s the exact same way now that he’s retied, like panic attacks because he has to go to the grocery store. I don’t think that had any positive effect on my brother, if anything it made him somewhat terrified of life.

That also runs in the family…

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[quote]Spock81 wrote:

[quote]thethirdruffian wrote:

[quote]Spock81 wrote:
I understand the importance of a male role model, but I must say, when my brother was growing up my dad was at work all day and grumpy/tired when he came home from work
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Don’t underestimate the power of a role model that knows to go grind it out each day.
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Oh no, I totally understand and respect that, but my dad was grumpy because he was having panic attacks all day long about really stupid irrational shit.
He’s the exact same way now that he’s retied, like panic attacks because he has to go to the grocery store. I don’t think that had any positive effect on my brother, if anything it made him somewhat terrified of life.

That also runs in the family…
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I am no expert on this. But I suspect that an adult male role model who is seen as important by the boy; who goes out to make an honest living every day; comes home to where the boy lives; grunts a few times each evening; has irrational panic attacks; goes to sleep at home where the boy lives; and only directly interacts with the boy once in a while is still likely to have some benefit for a boy, as compared against no close or involved male role model.

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[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
You know Spok, everybody says “Behind every great man is a great woman”, but there is also a lot of proof that even in the absence of a great man, there are still great women.

Hang in there.
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I think it was Kierkegard who said that “yes, behind every great man there is a great woman. Usually one he did not get”.

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[quote]Spock81 wrote:

[quote]thethirdruffian wrote:

[quote]Spock81 wrote:
I understand the importance of a male role model, but I must say, when my brother was growing up my dad was at work all day and grumpy/tired when he came home from work [/quote]

Don’t underestimate the power of a role model that knows to go grind it out each day.
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Oh no, I totally understand and respect that, but my dad was grumpy because he was having panic attacks all day long about really stupid irrational shit. [/quote]

And he got back in the saddle over and over and over again.

I am sorry that he was not a flashy or better role model, but there is a lesson right there.

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You seem to have learned it, in fact, I doubt you ever questioned it.

Well, maybe you did.

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[quote]Spock81 wrote:
I understand the importance of a male role model, but I must say, when my brother was growing up my dad was at work all day and grumpy/tired when he came home from work so the only person my brother basically hung out with was my mom.
He never once in his life went hunting, or fishing, he didn’t play sports, he and my dad never bonded over manly shit, and he grew up to be just fine.
He did really well at school, got a real job, has a beautiful girlfriend, developed a website that actually makes money, and owns his own place.
He’s not an alpha, he’s a nerd, and he’s always been a nerd.
My son is a huge gamer and you couldn’t pay him to go play sports.
Any chance he’ll just be a nerd? It clearly runs in the family…

His future is not set in stone, there’s not a 100% chance he’ll be this way or that way just because of his family situation.

In fact, now that I think of it, ALL of my brothers friends have all the same interests/hobbies and none of them revolve around fishing, hunting, or sports.
They’re playing risk and magic, and they’re all pretty darn wonderful people. I respect them completely.
Didn’t anyone on this website grow up nerd style? What about the importance of teaching him how to play video games and dungeons and dragons? I can do all that shit.
And I most certainly can teach him how to lift. [/quote]

Totally cool if he’s a nerd. The geeks shall inherit the earth after all. That’s like, in the Bible or something. He would still benefit from hanging with older, positive, well adjusted male nerds who take an interest in his budding nerdiness. Science camp? Robot club? Chess team? I don’t know, nerd stuff.

You don’t need to hunt/fish/wrestle alligators to be a good guy.

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[quote]theBeth wrote:

[quote]Captnoblivious wrote:

[quote]theBeth wrote:

[quote]Captnoblivious wrote:

[quote]thethirdruffian wrote:

[quote]Captnoblivious wrote:

Has it been hotter than a 3 balled tomcat out there? The sun in west texas/eastern new mexico area is fierce. I miss some aspects of the area, the solitude, lack of speed limits, people, and the ranching culture. [/quote]

It’s in the 50s and even 40s at night up in the mountains with a high in the mid-70s. Raining in the afternoon.

Down the mountain, it’s 99-105, dry, dusty, and just miserable.

I’ve been sitting on a well in the middle of no where waiting on pipe, a new BOP and everything you need to drill WAY underbalanced. So I’ve had a lot of time to mess around on the internet, in other words. I am thinking about getting an A/C trailer with a squat rack and a bench just for this kind of event.

The company man has pissed off my drilling supervisor so bad I had to come intervene because he didn’t want to wait on the needed equipment (or pay for it), but I am not going to kill my crew or lose my rig, so he can go fuck himself.

We’re drilling in a carsted area (think giant underground caves) and we’ve lost circulation and our entire column of fluid TWICE. Pretty sure we’ve drilled through a big fucking cavern, akin to Carlsbad or something. Kind of creepy, actually. The logs show “infinite” in all directions for the hole size, so it’s probably a couple miles wide. The kind of thing that swallows drilling rigs.

On a lighter note, a view from the other side of the mountain, where I took the gonodola up and rode a mountain bike down. That view is why I live where I live.

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I lived on the llano for a while. It is a harsh climate, the mountains are looking nice. They are an enjoyable respite from the oppressive heat.

Laying pipe in a giant cavern you say? I’ve been in a few of those don’t remember much due to the booze. Sometimes I don’t understand how such a pretty package can have such terrible plumbing…lol
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They must have been chicks that popped out kids. Or dated guys with bigger dicks.[/quote]

LOL, are you a little buthurt over my comments on women with children?

Could be, but it’s a pretty small segment of the population that is larger than me. Considering I fill out trojan magnums. There is always XXL crowd.[/quote]

pics or gtfo[/quote]
I’ve never really seen Magnums as a milestone in a size, but I guess my experience is skewed.

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[quote]thethirdruffian wrote:

[quote]mud lark wrote:

[quote] thethirdruffian wrote:
I can measure it when I get home, maybe put a dime or something next to it so you can see the size, if you really care.[/quote]

I care. Just out of curiousity, would love to see what a $50,000 diamond looks like. [/quote]

Sure. The note says “t-mag rocks” but I fucked up the picture. It’s surprisingly hard to take a picture of a ring.
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Yeah we kind of get that when we see you used the handle of a little garden shovel to prop it up! LOL

It might be worth while to throw that thing in a safety deposit box for a few years to see if the price of platinum might run again. I think there’s a pretty good chance it will.

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[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
You know Spok, everybody says “Behind every great man is a great woman”, but there is also a lot of proof that even in the absence of a great man, there are still great women.

Hang in there.
[/quote]

I think it was Kierkegard who said that “yes, behind every great man there is a great woman. Usually one he did not get”. [/quote]

As he rode through town on a donkey.

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[quote]SkyzykS wrote:

Having the vocabulary…
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…what’s with you and vocabulary?

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[quote]conservativedog wrote:

[quote]SkyzykS wrote:

Having the vocabulary…
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…what’s with you and vocabulary?

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Vocabulary is an aphrodesiac

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[quote]Bauber wrote:

[quote]jbpick86 wrote:

[quote]Bauber wrote:
Went through a similar situation with my fiancÃ??Ã?©’s little boy, who I now have custody of. Typical pos no job loser who came round when he felt like it which was 1-2 time a year. When she passed he came immediately and tried to get his SS card so he could file his SS and draw foodstamps etc on him since he’s a compete piece of shit.

I would also suggest against CPS unless you have a lawyer and he is doing harm or had poor living conditions etc. We used CPS once a lawyer was established and papers were in motion to build a better case and have more damning evidence which we didn’t even need in court, but had it in our pockets. He can only see him now if he pays and is on my terms at my house or his grandparents house.

I would honestly talk to a lawyer and possibly a counselor first so she can get an unbiased view of what’s going on. Then proceed from there. My little guy turns 6 in December so almost the exact age :).[/quote]

Bauber, I didn’t know this about you but would just like to commend you on being such a stand up guy. You didn’t have to do that for the kid and not a lot of people in your position would have unfortunately. Anyways, I am sure that you are a true blessing in that kids life and I just wanted to give you props on your selflessness. [/quote]

I had been with her since before he turned 1. And in reality he is all I have left of her. It can be hard at times looking at him because they have the EXACT same eyes. Plus, I don’t want to go into the next world having not done the right thing and meeting her wrath ;D.

And thank you. Oh and he calls me Daddy Hulk, so whats not to like? Haha[/quote]

Bauber, How old is your son?

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[quote]theBeth wrote:

[quote]conservativedog wrote:

[quote]SkyzykS wrote:

Having the vocabulary…
[/quote]

…what’s with you and vocabulary?

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Vocabulary is an aphrodesiac[/quote]

(Shhh.) what he don’t know wont hurt us! :slight_smile: